ALW Publishing - Anxious Attachment Recovery

02/25/2025

TRANSFORMATION TUESDAY!

Change isn’t just about becoming someone new—it’s about returning to yourself.

So many of us have spent years twisting ourselves into shapes that fit other people’s expectations. We’ve learned to be the “easygoing friend,” the “reliable partner,” or the one who never says no. But at what cost?

The real transformation happens when we stop betraying ourselves for the comfort of others. When we start setting boundaries—not as walls to keep people out, but as bridges to healthier, more authentic connections.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much, or not enough, or somehow both at the same time—WE GET IT. And you don’t have to stay stuck in that space. Healing is possible. Change is possible.

And it starts with one simple (but powerful) shift: Choosing yourself. 💛

What’s one way you’re honoring yourself this week? Drop it in the comments—I’d love to cheer you on! 🎉

02/20/2025

✨ BIG NEWS! ✨

It’s finally here! 🎉 My book, "Empowerment and Healing in Anxious Attachment Recovery," is officially available on Amazon!

This book is a deep dive into anxious attachment, setting boundaries, and navigating friendships and relationships with confidence and authenticity. If you've ever struggled with overthinking, people-pleasing, or finding your voice in relationships, this is for you.

I poured my heart into these pages, and I cannot wait for you to read it! If you’ve been looking for a sign to invest in yourself —this is it. 💫

Grab your copy today: https://a.co/d/3MuLk07

If you order, let me know! I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you enjoy it, a review would mean the world 🙏

Thank you for all your support—I’m so grateful for this community and I wish you all continued success in your path to personal growth!

Your journey to secure attachment, self-love, and emotional balance starts here.

02/11/2025

TRANSFORMATION TUESDAY!

Anxious attachment often feels like an emotional rollercoaster—one moment, you're secure and calm, and the next, you’re spiraling into fear and overthinking. But trust me when I tell you: Healing is possible, and every small step counts!

On this , let’s explore how to turn anxious moments into opportunities for growth and self-trust:

🌱 Name It to Tame It – Recognize the anxious voice in your mind. Say to yourself, “This is my anxious attachment speaking.” Naming it helps you step outside of it.

🌱 Self-Soothing is Superpowerful – Take a few slow, deep breaths. Place your hand on your chest and remind yourself, “I am safe. I am grounded. I am enough.”

🌱 Rewrite the Story – When fear tells you that someone is pulling away, pause and ask, “What’s another possible explanation for this?” Reality is usually far less scary than our anxious mind makes it.

🌱 Be Curious, Not Critical – Healing happens through self-compassion. Approach your anxious moments with curiosity, not judgment. Every reaction is a window into a deeper need or wound.

🌱 Connect with Support – You don’t have to do this alone. Lean on therapy, trusted friends, journaling, or self-help tools to guide you toward security.

Every transformation starts with a single step. Healing your attachment style is a process—one of learning, unlearning, and learning again. Be gentle with yourself. You’re not just surviving—you’re transforming.

What’s one transformation you’ve noticed in your journey of healing? Share below!

01/29/2025

What-To-Do Wednesday: Healing Anxious Attachment 💛

Anxious attachment can feel like a relentless cycle—overthinking a delayed text, worrying about being "too much," or feeling like you're always chasing reassurance. But healing is possible, and it starts from within.

Here’s what to do when anxiety creeps in:

✨ Pause & Reflect – When anxiety hits, take a deep breath. Ask yourself: Is this fear based on the present or past experiences? Awareness is the first step to breaking the cycle.

✨ Challenge the Narrative – Anxious attachment thrives on worst-case scenarios. Instead, try asking: What’s the most compassionate and balanced way to see this situation?

✨ Build Inner Security – The reassurance you crave from others? Start offering it to yourself. Practice self-soothing and affirm that you are worthy, lovable, and enough—just as you are.

✨ Communicate with Courage – Instead of acting from fear (like withdrawing or over-pursuing), express your needs openly. Secure relationships are built on trust, not mind-reading.

✨ Strengthen Your Anchor – Healing isn’t about eliminating needs; it’s about meeting them in healthy ways. Therapy, journaling, and self-compassion can be powerful tools for re-writing your attachment story.

You are not "too much." Your emotions are not a burden. You deserve relationships where you feel safe, valued, and at peace.

If anxious attachment is something you’re working through, know that healing happens step by step. And DM to me grab your own copy of my new book "Empowerment and Healing in Anxious Attachment Recovery" to support you in your journey!

What’s one thing you’ve found helpful in your process of change and growth? Drop it in the comments below! ⬇️

01/27/2025

Anxious Attachment Isn’t “Needy”—It’s a Response to Uncertainty

If you struggle with anxious attachment, you might have heard things like:
❌ “You’re too sensitive.”
❌ “You just need to relax.”
❌ “Why do you always need so much reassurance?”

But here’s the truth: You’re not needy, broken, or “too much.” And you are NOT being dramatic—Anxious attachment is about feeling unsure of where you stand in relationships and craving the security you deserve.

Anxious attachment develops when consistency, emotional safety, or clear communication were missing in your past with parents or caregivers. Your brain has learned to stay hyper-aware of distance, mixed signals, or emotional shifts to protect you from potential loss. It makes sense.

But the good news? YOU CAN REWIRE THIS PATTERN. You can:
✨ Learn to recognize your triggers before they take over
✨ Self-soothe so you don’t feel like you need immediate reassurance
✨ Set boundaries that honor your needs without fear of pushing people away
✨ Build self-trust so you feel more secure in your relationships

Healing anxious attachment isn’t about shutting down your emotions—it’s about understanding them and learning how to meet your needs in healthier, more secure ways.

What’s one thing that helps you feel more secure in your relationships? Let’s share in the comments!

01/24/2025

Healing Anxious Attachment: It Starts With You!

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly chasing reassurance in relationships—wondering if you’re loved, overanalyzing interactions, or fearing abandonment—you’re not the one one. Anxious attachment can feel overwhelming, but healing is possible.

The first step? Turning inward.

Instead of seeking security from others, start building it within yourself:

✨ Practice self-soothing – You are capable of calming your own worries.
✨ Reframe your thoughts – Not every silence means rejection.
✨ Set small boundaries – They won’t push people away; they will bring the right ones closer.
✨ Remind yourself daily – You are worthy of love, just as you are.

This journey isn’t about becoming “less attached” or shutting down your emotions—it’s about learning to love with confidence instead of fear.

What’s one small step you’re taking to feel more secure in your relationships? Drop a comment below!

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01/23/2025

Are You Healing from Anxious Attachment? Let’s Talk.

If you’ve ever felt:
✔️ Anxious when someone doesn’t text back right away
✔️ Like you’re “too much” in relationships
✔️ Stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt
✔️ Afraid of setting boundaries because you don’t want to push people away

You’re not alone. And more importantly, you don’t have to stay stuck.

Healing anxious attachment is possible. It’s about learning to trust yourself, feeling secure in your relationships, and knowing that love doesn’t have to feel like a constant emotional rollercoaster.

That’s exactly why I wrote Empowerment and Healing in Anxious Attachment Recovery—to give you the tools, insights, and support to help you feel more grounded and secure in your connections. You are worthy and lovable just as you are!

What’s one thing you’re working on when it comes to your relationships? If you'd like additional guidance and practical strategies to boost your efforts, DM me to get your free PDF copy of my book today!

01/23/2025

Exciting News! My New Book on Anxious Attachment Recovery is finally here!!

I’m beyond thrilled to announce the release of my book, Empowerment and Healing in Anxious Attachment Recovery—a compassionate, practical guide to healing anxious attachment and building lasting, secure, fulfilling relationships.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by relationship anxiety, struggled with boundaries, or found yourself overanalyzing every text message (we’ve all been there!), this book is for you. Inside, you'll find:

🔹 Psychology-backed insights into anxious attachment
🔹 Practical exercises for building self-trust and emotional security
🔹 Strategies for setting healthy boundaries without fear
🔹 Tools to transform your relationships—starting with yourself

This book is the guide I wish I had when I started my own journey of healing and self-discovery. And now, I can’t wait to share it with you!

📅 Stay tuned for its official release on Amazon, but if you'd like a sneak peak, I am offering FREE EARLY PDF COPIES of the book to anyone interested! All I ask in return if for helpful feedback and an honest review on Amazon when the book launches. Comment below or DM me if you want your free copy today!

01/23/2025

📢 Welcome to ALW Publishing – Anxious Attachment Recovery! 💙📖

I’m Atara Wertentheil, PhD, and I’m so excited to have you here! This page is a space for anyone navigating anxious attachment, healing relationship patterns, and learning to build secure connections.

My upcoming book, Empowerment and Healing in Anxious Attachment Recovery, is designed to be your guide—offering insights, practical strategies, and real-life examples to help you move from anxiety to confidence in your relationships. Whether you're working on self-worth, boundaries, or communication, you’re not alone in this journey!

✨ Follow along for book updates, expert advice, and supportive discussions. Let’s heal, grow, and rewrite our relationship stories, together. 💙

📩 Drop a comment below—what’s one thing you’d love to learn more about when it comes to anxious attachment?