Rebecca Clark, Marriage and Family Therapist

12/23/2025

✨ Quick Holiday Reset for You and Your Partner✨

The holidays are a beautiful time, but they can also be a pressure cooker for old, painful patterns 🎄. If you feel the "speed" of the season pulling you apart, I want to offer a gentle reminder to slow down together.

This 5-minute reset isn't about solving every problem—it’s about signaling to your partner: "I’m here, and we’re a team" 🤝

🌬️ Step 1: Pause — Put the phones away and take one slow breath together.

💬 Step 2: Name it — "Today is a lot, but I want to feel connected to you."

🤍 Step 3: Share — Name one small thing you need to feel seen today.

🧺 Step 4: Offer — Give one small act of support to lighten their load.

🙏 Step 5: Appreciate — A simple "thank you" for doing this work with me.

Small moments of repair like this build the emotional safety that carries you through the busy seasons of life.

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12/18/2025

Anxious and avoidant describe protective moves, not who you are. The real shift happens when you map the cycle and change the dance together.

If this resonates, I offer a brief complimentary consultation to see whether a 2 to 3-day intensive in Newcastle, Maine, could help.

Read more about "Breaking the Label: How to Stop Being "Anxious" and "Avoidant" and Start Connecting", here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/breaking-label-how-stop-being-anxious-avoidant-start-clark-lmft-8z9me

12/16/2025

Here’s something most people won’t tell you: ‘I’m sorry’ alone won’t rebuild trust.❤️‍🩹

Rebuilding trust asks you to slow down, understand your partner’s felt experience, name the impact, take ownership, and show up consistently so both of you can feel safe again.💞

In EFT, we slow down, map the patterns behind the hurt, and practice steady repairs that restore connection. It’s not instant—but it is possible.

If you want a calm, confidential space to work on this together, I offer a brief complimentary consultation to see whether a 2–3 day intensive in Newcastle could help.
https://www.rebeccaclarklmft.com/

12/11/2025

A couples intensive can be a powerful way to reconnect. By setting aside focused time together, you can notice the patterns that keep you apart, clarify what matters most, and take steps to find your way back to each other.

🤝 Many couples leave feeling closer and more understood, though progress depends on your engagement, history, and how long these patterns have been present.

It is real, sometimes challenging work.

Difficult emotions can arise, and tension may increase before it eases—but unlike at home, I’ll be with you to guide you through new ways of reaching, responding, and reconnecting. An intensive is not a quick fix, not crisis care, and it cannot promise results. What you take home is a shared map for repair, shaped by what you’ve experienced together in session, plus practical ways to practice at home—helping you feel confident, connected, and better able to respond instead of getting stuck or opposed to each other.

If you want to explore whether a Two- to Three-Day Intensive in Newcastle, Maine could be a helpful next step for you as a couple, I offer a brief complimentary consultation.

12/09/2025

“Anxious” and “avoidant” can help explain what happens between you—but they’re not who you are 🫂

When you see the cycle as the problem (not each other), blame softens, safety grows, and repair becomes possible. In my work, there are no bad guys—just two people trying to find their way back to each other 💖

I wrote a new article that unpacks how to move beyond labels, map the cycle together, and practice reaching/responding in ways that build connection.

Read the full piece on LinkedIn and share it with your partner to start a different kind of conversation.

🔗 https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/breaking-label-how-stop-being-anxious-avoidant-start-clark-lmft-8z9me

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12/04/2025

✨ Labels can feel clarifying… and then suddenly, limiting…
The real shift happens when you stop naming each other and start naming the cycle that pulls you both in.

When you can see the pattern—rather than the “anxious one” or the “avoidant one”—something softens. You both get a little more room to breathe, stay present, and reconnect. ❤️‍🩹

Curious what that shift looks like?

➡️ Read more: “Breaking the Label: How to Stop Being ‘Anxious’ and ‘Avoidant’ and Start Connecting.”
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/breaking-label-how-stop-being-anxious-avoidant-start-clark-lmft-8z9me

💛 You don’t have to live inside the label. There’s a way back to each other.

12/03/2025

You and your partner lead busy lives and feel like there's never enough time to focus on your relationship. Your relationship has taken a backseat, and you've been stuck in ongoing conflict longer than you'd like to admit.

No amount of talking, late-night conversations, or escaping to the car and talking so your kids can't hear you has really solved anything. I know it doesn't mean you don't love each other—as a matter of fact, you're more committed than ever to work through this.

My two- and three-day couples therapy intensives don't focus on trying to find a bad guy or giving you fighting rules. We really look at what's going on with this endless cycle. What's going underneath? What's the heart of the matter that you're both missing with each other?

We focus on finding a way back that feels more secure, deeper, and sets you up for rebuilding in a positive, ongoing way.

Ready to do the deep work together?

Check out my website to learn more about my EFT Couples Intensives. I look forward to hearing from you.
https://www.rebeccaclarklmft.com/couples-therapy-intensives-newcastle-maine

11/26/2025

Holidays are meaningful and busy, which is exactly when old patterns can show up.

A simple 5-minute reset can help you turn toward each other before the day takes over.

Pause, name the moment, share one need, offer one support, and appreciate. Small repairs add up to safety and ease.

If you want a calm, confidential space to learn this together, I offer a brief complimentary consultation to explore a 2 to 3 day intensive in Newcastle, Maine.

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11/21/2025

When you can see the trap you both get caught in, you can choose something different.

The cycle is the problem, not each other. Naming it lowers blame, builds safety, and makes room for the love you have been missing.

That is the heart of EFT: understand what is underneath the disconnection, turn toward each other, and practice repair so your bond grows stronger.

11/02/2025

💛YES!! This is exactly what I remind my couples 💛💛as well as the therapists that consult with me.

Presence over perfection- makes the difference every time.

We all get caught up in trying to get it right for our person or our kids etc… but that sets us up for missing what our person most needs from us.

You are NOT failing by just being there with care.

Co-regulation isn’t about fixing someone.
It’s about showing up — calm, steady, and present — so their nervous system can remember what safety feels like.
That’s what secure attachment really is: not perfection, but presence.

10/31/2025

A couple told me they had tried therapy on and off for five years without real movement. In three days, they felt genuine progress. Intensives give uninterrupted space to understand the pattern and practice new ways of reaching and responding.

If you're interested in exploring whether a 2- to 3-day intensive is a good fit, I offer a brief, complimentary consultation.