03/13/2026
Raise your hand if you are stuck in cycles of making choices you don't want to make 🙋
Making bad choices doesn't make us bad--it makes us human
And when we are stuck in them, it is simply because we lack the capacity to change them
Changing the quality of the choices we make requires us to feel how uncomfortable our current choices feel
AND how pleasant the more helpful choices are
When we cannot feel the pleasantness in the helpful choices, our brains do not reward them
And when we cannot feel the discomfort in the unhelpful choices, our bodies create charge around them
That charge then calcifies into shame
And the mind comes in to protect the tenderness of that shame by creating stories that soothe it
If we want to make different choices, we have to create a lot of capacity to feel
To feel the falsehoods in the stories we've constructed, the years of built-up shame, and how deeply uncomfortable the choices we make feel
It is no wonder so many of us are stuck
The most valuable place to begin isn't usually forcing ourselves to do something different (although that can work for some people)
But rather, it is gathering the resources and making space for the windows of choice to emerge
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This takes time
And is much easier when we have outside guidance and support during the journey
If you are stuck in unhelpful loops, I invite you into the Embodiment Sessions
—a weekly 1:1 container designed to provide you with the space and tools to create more capacity
To feel (both the pleasant and the unpleasant)
And to practice making changes
DM to learn more or visit the link in my bio
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