04/10/2021
Happy National BF Day bebe!!! š¤
Warning: sappy post ahead (but lots of truths)!
Maintaning a relationship in PA school is both a gift and a challenge - ESPECIALLY distanced one.
I heard all of these horror stories before starting school about couples breaking up, not being able to balance a relationship + school, not having any time outside of studies to focus on your partner, etc. None of these have proved to be true, at least for me (and Iām in a 24 mo accelerated program). Thatās not to say itās easy.
For those of you entering school in a relationship, here are some things that really work for us:
1. Creating a list of ānon-negotiablesā.
What does that look like to you?
For us, itās at least a FT call every day - whether itās 5 min or an hour. Seeing their face and hearing their voice may be just what you need to get you through the week.
2. It HAS to be 50/50.
This doesnāt necessarily mean you visit one weekend and they visit the next. Maybe itās trying to dedicate more time to studying during the week so when they do come to visit, you can spend meaningful moments with them.
3. Communication + flexibility.
Do you ever get super irritable when youāre stressed + overwhelmed? šš¼āāļø Communicating what your exam schedule looks like for the week, or breaking down your work load for them and reinforcing that your stress is steming from school and not your partner is so so important!! It can be really difficult during a distanced relationship for your partner to understand how much work you are ACTUALLY submersed in when they arenāt there to visualize it. This is where trust and transparency comes into play - bigtime!
4 Let your partner know that you need their support.
We hate doing this as humans. At least this was a challenge for me. Who wants to be vulnerable and tell someone that you need just that extra bit of support or love or encouragement? I think often we take on too much and arenāt great ar recognizing when we need just a little extra help. To be vulnerable is to be brave, and it will only make your relationship that much stronger.
5 Let them know how much you appreciate THEM.
This is a two way, recprical street here! As they work hard