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02/26/2025

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11/10/2024

The anger some men carry is rooted in experiences early on in childhood. Working through shame is incredibly important in building a better relationship with yourself and others.

10/04/2024

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08/27/2024

Children who received messages from their caregivers that they are not good enough often grow into adults who strive for perfection with hopes that being perfect will make them lovable.

Repost from The Holistic Psychologist 💕
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For [some] of us, love was conditional.

We were loved when we performed, achieved, or when we did something that made adults around us proud. And when we did something unacceptable, not good enough, or that wasn’t approved of— love was removed from us. We were punished, ignored, or criticized.

Reinforced throughout childhood, we learn: “to be loved, I must do. And I must do enough that I get approval.” This begins our pattern of achieving and performing.

Perfectionism is actually a genius adaptation.

If love depends on what we do, not who we are— of course we will attempt to be perfect. To never make a mistake. To never ask for help. To mask our pain and hurt to appear to always have it together.

Naturally, this will lead to anxiety and depression. Because human beings are meant to make mistakes. We’re meant to (at times) fail. This is how we learn and grow.

Perfectionism is something we slowly unlearn. By being vulnerable. By asking for help. By being kind to ourselves when we make a mistake “it’s ok, you tried you best”

Perfectionism is an illusion

08/17/2024

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