05/27/2025
GOD’S PEACE DEFEATS GRIEF
In the past decade, at least a dozen of my friends have experienced the death of an adult child: tragic accidents, drug overdose, sickness, even murder. In two of these cases, the parent lost more than one child, each on separate occasions. Loss, regardless of how it presents itself, is life’s greatest fear. And for parents, the loss of a child of any age is their worst nightmare.
Most recently, my close friend, John, lost his adult son after a 17-year battle with cancer. Not surprisingly, he’s devastated. John is a man of deep faith yet is profoundly grieving the loss. We’ve spent many hours on the phone as my friend pours out his heart. While many people will pray for a miracle that their loved one experiences a complete healing rather than death, John conveyed how he had already received his miracle. You see, after the initial diagnosis, his son was given only 2 years to live. John prayed to God that his son be given the strength to persevere and God graciously granted his petition. He and his son were given the gift of an additional 15 years together.
While John is deeply grateful for God’s mercy, he’s still suffering. Oftentimes, people feel as though they cannot live without their loved one and the only way to alleviate their suffering is reunification, which we know is unattainable in this life. I can recall the excruciating pain I endured during a 10-year estrangement from my adult children. The pain was debilitating. I fervently prayed to God daily to end my suffering in the only way I knew to be feasible. I prayed for years until He ultimately blessed me with something unexpected and infinitely more beneficial. I shared my memories with John and the surprising lesson that transformed my life.
“You don’t need your son to be free of your grief,” I stated. “All you need is God’s mercy and peace. Ask Him to heal your hurt, to fill the void you are experiencing with HIS love, and to infuse you with HIS lasting comfort. His peace is truly all you need.” Once I experienced the everlasting fullness of God’s loving presence, a stillness filled my soul and I felt complete. I realized that, in reality, nothing was missing from my life. All that I ever wanted, all that I ever needed was now and forever found in the everlasting perfect love of my Lord and Savior.
We think we need certain people or things in our lives in order to feel happy and comfortable. Yet it is through our loss (of an individual, possession, or lifestyle) and in our faith in God (that He sustains us with the serenity that only comes from trusting in Him) that we realize our joy, security, and contentment are not dependent on anything external of us. Our peacefulness is depended only on the depth and strength of our relationship with God. It took 3 grueling years of intense prayer for me to realize that I need nothing and no one except my Lord. Even without the presence of those I love most, my life has been incredibly rich, meaningful, and joy-filled. There is no void. There is no anguish. There is only an undeniable peace that consistently resides within me regardless of my circumstances.
If you’re suffering a loss, I invite you to rethink what you think you need in life: it’s not people, opportunities, or stuff. All you really need is God’s loving peace. Nothing matters more than this.
GOD’S PEACE DEFEATS GRIEF
Matthew 11:28 "Come to me, all who are weary and heavy ladened, and I will give you rest."
2 Corinthians 12:9. "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness'".
John 14:27"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give unto you. Not as the world gives do I give unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."