Sara Ouimette California Psychotherapy

11/24/2025

The holidays land like a bruise for a lot of people.
Most won’t say it out loud, but I hear it every year in my office — that mix of gratitude and grief that doesn’t know where to go.

For some, it’s missing someone who’s gone.
For others, it’s the family they still hope will be different.
And for many women, it’s the pressure to hold everything together while feeling like they’re coming apart.

The culture keeps saying “be grateful,” but your body remembers the truth.
And sometimes the truth is: this season hurts.

This blog is about that collision — the way gratitude and grief show up at the same time, uninvited, loud, honest.
And how nothing about it means you’re doing anything wrong.

If the holidays make you feel more human than you want to admit, this one’s for you.

Explore why the holidays intensify grief, stress, and family pressure, and how therapy can help you navigate loss, expectations, and emotional overwhelm.

11/14/2025

Psychedelic therapy is evolving faster than our field can keep up with—and many of us are feeling both the promise and the unease.

After years of working in psychedelic research beginning in 2016, and later training in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, I found myself deeply moved by what these medicines can unlock… and equally aware of the psychological, relational, and ethical complexities they amplify.

In altered states, the psyche is wide open. Transference is heightened, projections are intensified, and the therapist’s influence becomes enormous. When this isn’t held with a trauma informed lens and a grounded sense of humility, clients can be left overwhelmed—or harmed in ways that are easy to miss until much later.

That’s ultimately why I chose not to become a psychedelic therapist, despite believing in the therapeutic potential of these medicines.
Instead, I chose the work that feels most aligned with my training as a depth psychotherapist: psychedelic integration.

Integration is where the real meaning-making happens. It’s where clients metabolize their experiences, make sense of the symbolic material, and bring insights into their everyday lives with safety and support. It’s where healing becomes sustainable.

In my latest blog, I share my own journey with this decision—what I witnessed in the field, what concerns me, what inspires me, and why I believe depth-oriented clinicians have such an essential role to play in the future of psychedelic care.

Oakland depth psychotherapist Sara Ouimette reflects on her journey through psychedelic science, ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, and why she chose to focus on integration work. A thoughtful look at both the promise and the shadow of psychedelic therapy—and the wisdom of moving at the pace of the ...

11/02/2025

Sometimes in therapy—and in my own life—I feel something stir that’s older than the moment. An ache, a silence, a heaviness that doesn’t belong just to one person. This is intergenerational trauma—the way grief, fear, and shame move quietly through families, shaping how we love, cope, and see ourselves.

I’ve spent years tracing my own threads back through generations—learning that some of what I carried wasn’t mine alone. The body remembers what the family forgot to speak. Depth psychotherapy helps us turn toward these invisible inheritances with tenderness, to listen for what’s been buried, and to let it move through.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about witnessing what was too heavy for our ancestors to hold, and giving it space to breathe. When we name what couldn’t be named, something softens. We stop repeating what no longer serves and begin to pass down something new—consciousness, compassion, and freedom.

Healing intergenerational trauma is an act of remembrance and release. A way of saying, with love: it can end here.

https://www.saraouimette.com/blog/2025/11/2/healing-the-wounds-we-inherit-a-depth-psychotherapy-approach-to-intergenerational-trauma

Discover how intergenerational trauma shapes emotions and relationships across generations. Learn how depth psychotherapy helps bring unconscious family patterns to light, transforming inherited pain into healing and self-understanding.

10/28/2025

For many highly sensitive people, perfectionism isn’t really about achievement—it’s about safety.

It’s the quiet armor we begin to build early in life to protect ourselves from criticism, rejection, or shame. If we can just be good enough—kind enough, competent enough, flawless enough—maybe we’ll finally feel like we belong.

But perfectionism comes at a cost. It keeps us striving and self-editing, forever chasing approval while losing touch with our spontaneity, creativity, and joy.

In my work with sensitive clients, I often see perfectionism as a form of devotion—an unconscious attempt to preserve love or prevent chaos. Depth psychotherapy invites us to meet this pattern with compassion rather than judgment. To listen to the inner child who believed being perfect was the only way to be loved. To soften the inner critic that still whispers, “You haven’t done enough.”

Healing perfectionism is about returning to your wholeness—the parts of you that ache, create, laugh, and long to rest.

When we are truly seen, not for what we do but for who we are, something inside begins to breathe again.

If you identify as a highly sensitive person caught in the loop of perfectionism, this piece might speak to you.

🕊 Read the full blog here: https://www.saraouimette.com/blog/2025/10/28/perfectionism-in-highly-sensitive-people-how-depth-psychotherapy-helps-you-come-home-to-yourself

10/19/2025

There’s a story I keep coming back to—Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ Stone Child. A child left in the cold, forgotten or lost, slowly turning to stone. Still alive, still waiting—just frozen.

In depth psychotherapy, I often meet adults carrying their own Stone Child—the part of themselves that shut down when life was too painful, the part that learned to survive by numbing out. She’s not broken. She’s waiting for warmth, patience, and care.

Trauma-focused Jungian therapy is about finding her again. Seeing her, listening to her, letting her know she’s safe. It’s in that gentle, relational work that the frozen parts of ourselves begin to soften. The heart begins to beat again. We learn to feel, to trust, to be fully alive.

Even what feels lost can come back to life—if someone stays, if someone listens, if we dare to care for ourselves. ❤️‍🩹🔥

From Frozen to Feeling explores the myth of the Stone Child through the lens of trauma therapy. Learn how Jungian depth psychotherapy and inner child therapy can help heal childhood trauma, recover emotional connection, and restore inner warmth.

10/15/2025

“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.” - Carl Jung

I often think about that when I consider how our culture relates to cannabis today. It’s everywhere—used to unwind, to spark creativity, to soothe anxiety, to feel a little lighter in an unbearably heavy world.

If Jung were alive now, what might he say about this collective relationship?
Perhaps he’d see cannabis as a mirror, reflecting both our longing for meaning and our avoidance of pain.

When used unconsciously, it can become another way to escape the inner work the soul demands. But when approached intentionally—with curiosity, reverence, and reflection—it can serve as a doorway to the unconscious, offering a glimpse of what seeks healing.

My latest blog explores:
🌿 Addiction as a crisis of meaning
🌿 Cannabis as a door, not a home
🌿 The collective shadow of cannabis prohibition
🌿 What intentional use can teach us about the psyche

Jung might remind us that true transformation doesn’t come from what alters our consciousness, but from what we do with what we see there.

Cannabis can open the door—but the courage to enter, to feel, to integrate—that’s where healing begins.

https://www.saraouimette.com/blog/2025/10/14/what-would-carl-jung-say-about-cannabis-today

Explore cannabis through a Jungian lens—addiction as soul loss, intentional use, and the collective shadow. Depth psychotherapy in Oakland, CA.

10/12/2025

As October deepens and the nights grow darker, I find myself thinking about the ancient roots of Halloween—long before the costumes and candy.
At its core, this time of year has always been about death, mystery, and the unseen—about honoring what we can’t fully understand or control. 👻

In depth psychotherapy, we work with the same terrain.
We turn toward the shadow: grief that lingers, trauma that feels like another world, memories that still haunt the body.
Much like the old Samhain fires that once burned through the night, therapy becomes a sacred container where we can face what’s been exiled from awareness—and find that even in darkness, something vital and alive remains. 🎃

Halloween reminds us that fear isn’t an enemy to be conquered, and death isn’t a mistake to be denied.
They are both thresholds—portals to deeper meaning, if we dare to look. 🕯️

If you’re drawn to explore your own shadow, or if you sense something stirring beneath the surface this time of year, you might find this piece meaningful:

“Halloween, Trauma, and the Unseen: A Depth Therapy Perspective”

https://www.saraouimette.com/blog/2025/10/11/halloween-trauma-and-the-unseen-a-depth-therapy-perspective

Explore the history of Halloween through a depth therapy lens. Learn how trauma, grief, and shadow work connect to this ancient ritual of the unseen.

10/04/2025

✨ The Witch Wound ✨

The witch hunts aren’t just history.
They live in our bodies—
in the fear of being too much,
in the impulse to stay small,
in the ache of mistrust between women.

For centuries, women who carried wisdom, intuition, and power were exiled, silenced, or burned.
That legacy lingers.

In therapy, I often meet women in midlife who feel something stirring—a quiet rebellion, a longing for truth. The roles of caretaker, pleaser, and perfectionist no longer fit. The old magic is returning.

Depth psychotherapy helps us remember:
🔥 The “witch” is not dangerous—she is wise.
🔥 The “hag” is not ugly—she is holy.
🔥 The “crone” is not to be feared—she is our guide.

To heal the witch wound is to reclaim our voice, our intuition, our belonging with other women.
It is to say: I will not silence myself anymore.

The fire that once burned us can now light our way home. 🕯️

Explore the history of witch burnings, the Salem witch trials, and the archetypes of the crone and hag. Learn how depth psychotherapy and midlife therapy for women can heal the wounds of patriarchy, betrayal, and aging, and help women reclaim their power, wisdom, and voice.

09/30/2025

So many of us know the pull of a trauma bond—relationships that feel magnetic and impossible to leave, yet deeply painful to stay in.

From a Jungian perspective, these bonds are not signs of weakness but the psyche’s attempt to heal old wounds. They reveal where our inner child is still longing to be seen and loved without condition.

Healing begins when we turn inward with compassion—offering ourselves the love we once hoped to find outside.

✨ Trauma bonds can be painful teachers, but they can also become portals to wholeness.

Explore a Jungian perspective on trauma bonds—how unconscious wounds shape relationships, the role of the shadow and inner child, and pathways to healing and self-love through depth psychotherapy.

09/23/2025

I know the underworld.
Not just as a therapist, but in my own body.
Through losses that undid me.
Through grief that hollowed me out.

When I trained as an end-of-life doula, I recognized something I had already lived—
that sometimes the only thing we can do is sit at the threshold.
To witness.
To walk with.
To hold presence when words collapse.

This is the archetype of the psychopomp—
the one who accompanies souls through the dark.

It’s how I’ve come to see myself in my work — holding the unspoken, sitting with grief that doesn’t fit the world’s timelines, and being with the kind of burnout that feels like a slow death.

We’re not meant to cross these thresholds alone.
And we don’t have to.

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Discover the archetype of the psychopomp—mythical guide of souls through death, grief, and transformation. Learn how, as a depth psychotherapist, I embody this role by accompanying other therapists through loss, endings, and life’s deepest thresholds with presence and compassion.

09/18/2025

Carl Jung was wary of psychedelics — a warning that feels urgent today. 🌿✨

He knew that opening the unconscious too quickly could overwhelm, inflate, or destabilize us. Visions alone don’t heal; they are only the beginning of a deeper journey.

True transformation comes from integration — from translating what the psyche reveals into the rhythm of daily life, into story, symbol, and soul.

Depth therapy is the container Jung would have endorsed: a steady, compassionate space to hold what’s been revealed, make sense of it, and let it become part of who you are.

Psychedelics may crack the door open, but it’s how we walk through — slowly, carefully, fully — that shapes our transformation. 🌙

Explore Carl Jung’s perspective on psychedelics—why he was deeply cautious, the risks of inflation and psychic flooding, and how his warnings remain relevant today. Learn why integration through depth psychotherapy is essential for true transformation.

09/15/2025

I’ve always felt the world a little more—
the quiet tension in a crowded room,
the ache behind someone’s smile,
the sudden beauty that takes my breath away.

I’ve been told I’m “too sensitive.”
Carl Jung called it innate sensitiveness—a permeable psyche.
A heart and mind that let the world in, sometimes all at once.

It can be exhausting. And lonely. And overwhelming.

But Jung also saw it as a gift:

“This excessive sensitiveness very often brings an enrichment of the personality and contributes more to its charm than to the undoing of a person’s character.”

Your sensitivity is not a flaw. It is your compass—guiding you toward beauty, empathy, creativity, and the deepest parts of yourself. 🌿✨

Discover what Carl Jung said about sensitive people and how his depth psychology offers insight into the highly sensitive person (HSP). Learn how sensitivity can be both a challenge and a gift, and how Jungian therapy in Oakland and online can help you embrace your sensitivity with compassion and st