08/30/2024
This is a non-stick frying pan. Why in the world am I posting a photo of a non-stick frying pan, you might ask. It would be a fair question! And I’m so glad you asked.
It’s about self-talk. That constant chatter in our minds that we all experience. For some it is more negative, for others more positive and for most of us, it is incessant. The mind goes. The mind doesn’t stop! We should be grateful for that. And what we might try to aim for in our self-talk is not overly negative OR positive self-talk but rather PRODUCTIVE self-talk. Talk that facilitates whatever we are trying to accomplish. Informational self-talk regarding a correction to make or how to adjust. Motivational self-talk that helps bring our right energy to what we’re doing. Those are what we are after.
So much of the talk around self-talk is about trying to change, control or otherwise reframe negative self-talk to positive. But false positive self-talk can be harmful too! And if we think we are the greatest gift to God’s green earth, that can get in our way too. If we celebrate too much after a success, that can harm us too. Conversely, we know for certain that negative self-talk can harm our ability to perform our best. Productive and NEUTRAL self-talk (neither good nor bad) may be best.
Remove the stickiness of your self-talk by working on slowing the pace of the chatter over time. How? Keep it task focused. When you notice your mind has gone astray (too negative or too positive), bring it back to focusing on WIN (What’s Important Now). Usually that will be the task at hand. Of course, like so many of the mental skills, this is easier said than done. The key is practicing over and over again, returning to an anchor (like the breath, like the task at hand).
Later, rinse, repeat. Go again!