Dr. Frankie Bashan Dating & Relationship Coach

02/09/2025

Think you know attachment styles? There’s more than just anxious and avoidant. Disorganized attachment—sometimes called fearful-avoidant—can make relationships feel confusing and full of self-sabotage 💔, even when you desperately want connection.

Understanding it is the first step toward breaking patterns, healing old wounds, and learning how to trust again ❤️.

Learn more about disorganized attachment and how it affects relationships: https://littlegaybook.com/lbtq-whats-disorganized-attachment/

28/08/2025

S*x doesn’t end when the scene is over. 💡 Aftercare is how you show your partner care, safety, and respect beyond the bedroom. From cuddles and affirmations to snacks and space—it’s about making sure both partners feel seen and supported.

Watch the full video to learn why aftercare matters (yes, even outside of kink!) and how to practice it well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKR7trWuBK4

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Aftercare isn’t just for kink—it’s an essential part of being a thoughtful, attentive sexual_ and romantic partner. 🌙💬In this video, Dr. Frankie breaks dow...

27/08/2025

Women watch p**n too — and not just a few. Studies suggest up to 40–50% of p**n consumers are women. From videos to erotica to audio apps, women are shaping the way adult content is consumed. 👀

Let’s break the stereotype. Watch the full video now: https://youtu.be/-5v842Sh6Og

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When you picture a “p**n_ consumer,” who comes to mind? For most people, it’s a lonely guy in front of a computer screen. But that stereotype leaves out a hu...

26/08/2025

🐾 Happy National Dog Day from our very own In-House Love Ambassador, Metuka! 🐶✨

She might be fluffy and adorable, but don’t let that fool you—Metuka takes her job seriously. With a “PhD in Cuddle-ology” and expertise in “Pawsitive Vibes,” she’s the true heartbeat of our matchmaking magic. From breaking the ice with her playful antics to offering a comforting paw, Metuka reminds us every day that love is a four-legged word. ❤️

When she’s not busy being Dr. Frankie’s trusted sidekick, you’ll find her sunbathing, dreaming of snack heists, and plotting new ways to spread joy.

Now it’s your turn! 🐕💬 Drop your pup’s name (and a photo if you’ve got one!) in the comments so we can celebrate your furry love ambassadors too.

26/08/2025

Strong. Independent. Unstoppable. 💥 But what does it really take to love — and be loved by — a woman who has it all together?

On the Practicing Love podcast, Dr. Frankie Bashan joins Shana James to talk about intimacy, vulnerability, and building real relationships with strong women.

🎧 Listen here: https://bit.ly/47fGKYK

25/08/2025

Dating apps, rejection, sexting, and keeping your dignity intact—this episode covers it all (with plenty of laughs). 🎙️

Our guest Maureen Pound (), author of How to Get Laid on Tinder (for Men Who Care), spills the truths about modern dating—why effort beats looks, how to write a better bio, and when it’s time to finally get off the app.

Whether you’re swiping, sexting, or just sick of ghosting, this one’s for you.

👉 Listen now:

Spotify: https://bit.ly/461L3Wp
Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/47cLo9S

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24/08/2025

Being close is great—but losing yourself in a relationship isn’t. 💭 Learn what enmeshment is, how it differs from codependence, and ways to build healthier boundaries.

Read the full article: https://littlegaybook.com/lbtq-enmeshment-explained/

24/08/2025

Not every first date is fireworks 💥 — sometimes it’s just… fine. But how do you let someone know you’re not interested without ghosting or making excuses?

Dr. Frankie shares simple, kind, and honest ways to turn someone down after a first date — no awkward overexplaining, no disappearing acts.

🎥 Watch the full video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vlfntjk4LeQ

Navigating first dates can be tricky — especially when the spark just isn’t there. So, how do you politely let someone know you’re not interested without gho...

20/08/2025

💬 Think love should just click? Licensed therapist & confidence coach Talia Bombola says that belief might be the reason so many ambitious women end up over-functioning, breadcrumbed, or stuck in anxious-avoidant loops.

In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Why clarity is the ultimate love language
✨ What anxious + avoidant attachment actually look like
✨ How vague communication breeds resentment
✨ The myth of emotional mind reading

Talia brings humor, depth, and strategy to help you stop performing in relationships and start showing up with self-trust and emotional power.

🎥 Watch the full episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EksiLZiVGx8

If you think love should feel natural, intuitive, or just “click,” you might be setting yourself up for confusion, resentment, and unmet needs.In this episod...

17/08/2025

Dating should fill you up, not wear you out. 💭 If it’s been feeling more exhausting than exciting, stepping back could be the reset you need 🌙.”

👉 Read the full blog here: https://littlegaybook.com/gay-men-should-you-take-a-break-from-dating/

14/08/2025

Join us this year for the Matchmakers Alliance Conference — the premier gathering for elevating your matchmaking skills, connecting with industry experts, and staying ahead of the trends that shape our work. ⚓🌊

Little Gay Book is committed to raising the standard for LGBTQ+ matchmaking and coaching. We lead with the expertise, resources, and depth of understanding that our community deserves but often does not receive at this level. The Matchmakers Alliance Conference is the leading space in our industry for the dissemination of cutting-edge matchmaking education, strategy, and research. As industry leaders, we know that continuing education is not optional. It is essential to ensuring that the work we do is informed, relevant, and impactful for the people we serve.

Last year, Dr. Frankie was a speaker, contributing her expertise to the field and representing our dedication to advancing conversations that matter for our clients. Attending the conference allows us to stay ahead of trends, gain direct access to new tools, and engage in dialogue with other leaders whose work shapes the future of matchmaking.

We come back from the conference not only better informed, but ready to share what we learn with our clients, our community, and our colleagues. That means introducing new strategies for navigating the unique challenges of dating in smaller q***r communities, deepening our understanding of the layers of identity that shape compatibility, and refining how we create safe, affirming matches.

When we invest in our growth and expertise, our clients benefit. Every conversation, workshop, and connection at the conference expands our ability to create introductions that are intentional, well-matched, and rooted in an understanding of LGBTQ+ experiences. This is how we keep our matchmaking and coaching at the highest level, and why the Matchmakers Alliance Conference is part of our ongoing commitment to excellence.

Register Now: 🔗 https://www.matchmakersconference2025.com/