Dr. Samantha Rae • Licensed Psychologist in Orlando

08/17/2023

I’m so happy to share that I’m officially able to provide online therapy in 39 states! 🎉

I’ve been waiting for Florida to join PSYPACT (an interjurisdictional compact for psychologists) and they finally did in July!

The compact works like a driver’s license here in the states. Once you’re licensed in your home state and join the compact, you can practice in other states too.

As a fully online therapist this was a dream of mine!

Now I can offer my services to more soulmate clients, less restricted by geography.

My 🦄 clients:
I love helping ambitious professionals and entrepreneurs get unstuck from old ways of thinking and behaving that are no longer working, so they can feel happier and more secure in their personal & professional lives.

Please consider sharing this post with a friend or colleague who always helps everyone else and deserves their own support!

🧡dr. sam

07/15/2023

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Do you find yourself worrying, even obsessing, about loved ones and what they're doing or not doing? It makes sense. It's painful to see someone you care about struggling, or not living up to their potential. 🥺

For some, those painful emotions trigger "lifesaver mode," where you go all in with your time, energy, resources, and often, unsolicited advice, trying to push or pull your loved one wherever you think they "ought" to be headed.

This kind of helping isn't healthy or sustainable. Whether it's your partner, friend, family, or even a client, it's bad for everyone when you sacrifice your well-being in the interest of "help."

So what are you "supposed" to do when someone you love is suffering? Do you just stand by and watch the train wreck you anticipate is coming?

Here are few suggestions...

1. Try to accept the difficult reality of where your loved one is right now. In other words, allow it to be exactly as it is. Open your heart up and make room for their pain. Expand with it. Release the urge to change it.

2. Meet your person where they are, not where you think they could/should be. What is one thing you can do to support them here and now, without sacrificing more than you can give?

3. Remember life is always changing so there's still hope for a brighter future even when things look bleak. Holding space for your person's pain doesn't mean you have to let your hope burn out. Connect with what lights you up.

🧡dr. sam

05/18/2023

Curious about my journey to becoming an accidental entrepreneur? In this interview, I talk about burnout & coming out on the other side, plus what I think it takes to succeed as a private practice therapist. 👇🏼

We're excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Dr. Samantha Sciarrillo. We hope you'll enjoy our conversation with Samantha below. Alright, Dr. Samantha thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. Was there an experience or lesson you learned...

06/10/2022

The most frequent question I get about burnout is what the heck to do about it. ⁉️

Difficult truth: there’s no straightforward cure for burnout. It’s not as easy as “do this thing, and it will go away completely.”

However, if you take a holistic approach to understanding how it affects your *whole self* you can, without a doubt, heal from burnout.

It takes time & intention. Think about how long stress was building before you reached the point of totally burnt out. Expect to put in consistent effort to get back to “normal.”

You’ll never be the same after a serious case of burnout, and that’s a good thing. It will make you grow.

I promise healing from burnout is 💯 worth it.

Questions? Drop them below.👇🏼

05/27/2022

When humanity aches, so do you. 💔

The ability to be connected around the world in an instant is not a reality our nervous systems were wired for. It’s both a blessing and a burden.

Some will say it’s a privilege to turn off the news, close out of social media, and return to yourself. It is. And also, it’s necessary sometimes.

I’m not worried about you forgetting to return to the causes that fuel your helper spirit because that is part of you. You were born for this work.

Please take the space you need right now and return when you’re feeling refreshed & ready because changing the world is a long game.

In solidarity,
A sensitive therapist

05/14/2022

You’re a goal-getter. 🏆 You don’t stop until you achieve what you set out to do.

I love that about you. 😍

Unfortunately, most of the high achievers I know don’t give themselves the credit they deserve. As soon as they check off one accomplishment it’s onto the next. And the next. And so on.

Here’s the thing, my ambitious friend: you will feel HAPPIER when you celebrate your progress along the way.

What does this look like?

1. Pause — you can’t celebrate what you don’t notice.
2. Check-in — “what’s going well?” “how am I expressing my values?” “what’s something I’m doing that my younger self would admire?”
3. Recognize — think of ways you celebrate others, like a special dinner, flowers, a card, etc.

You’re always growing and you deserve to be celebrated for it. 🥳

05/02/2022

What’s the last thing that really disappointed you? Did it go how you expected? 🤨💭

Your pain was real. Whatever feelings you felt were warranted, albeit difficult to feel. But what’s even more difficult is when you get stuck in your feelings because you think you should feel differently.

👉🏼 We suffer when reality doesn’t meet our expectation.

Here’s a personal example:

Several years ago, I moved to a new city to start my career. 🥳 I landed my “dream” job with the office, title, and name plaque I waited so long for. On paper, everything was perfect… I bet you see where this is going.

It didn’t feel perfect. In fact, it felt pretty terrible after a few months. The work environment was wreaking havoc on my mental health. 🤕 It was painful. It wasn’t at all what I expected. If I had stopped right there and told myself that, my burnout recovery might have gone smoother.

Instead, I questioned “What is wrong with me?” “Why aren’t I grateful?” “Why can’t I manage like everyone else?” I expected to feel differently, and I punished myself with criticism when I didn’t.

I existed in that mental prison (for months) until I understood what burnout was and what healing entailed. 💡 [If you’re wondering what to expect from burnout recovery, read my latest article @ link in bio]

👉🏼 What I want you to remember:

It’s important to set realistic expectations and to constantly update them.

If I was still operating with the expectations set by 20-year-old me about what life would feel like after 30, I’d be disappointed/suffering constantly. (tbh, sometimes I do fall into this thinking trap and it sucks!) This is why we have to run regular updates like we do for our electronic devices.

So, how are your expectations impacting your well-being? Have you run updates recently? Comment 👍🏼👎🏼 below.

04/01/2022

“Should I quit my job?” I asked myself this question a lot when I was burnt out.

The answer is different for everyone.

Will you feel better if you leave a toxic workplace? No doubt.

My toxic workplace is what sent me over the edge, from functioning under the high stress I considered normal (thanks grad school) to dreading each work day, and questioning my career.

I’m so glad I quit the 9-5 and started my own business. Leaving a toxic workplace was the START of my burnout recovery. 🏁

THEN, I had to figure out some things about myself. 🤔💭 Like what makes me susceptible to burnout? And how I can prevent it?

⚠️ I tell my clients they can’t skip this step or they’ll end up burnt out again (and again) no matter where they work.

You can reclaim your energy⚡️and even feel connected to your dreams again🔮, by doing the deep work. 💪🏼