10/23/2025
Sometimes it’s not that our children don’t talk — it’s that we don’t truly listen. Not because we don’t care, but because we’re often too caught up — in fixing, in guiding, in rushing to make things right — to slow down and really hear them.
So much of what they’re trying to tell us isn’t in their words at all. It’s in the pauses, the sighs, the change in tone, the things they can’t quite name yet.
True listening means tuning in to what lives beneath the words — the feelings they don’t know how to voice, the stories they’re still learning to tell.
Too often, when we do listen, we listen to reply — waiting for the pause so we can make our point, correct their version, or defend our own. But real listening is presence without agenda. It’s hearing not just the words, but the need beneath them.
Because sometimes the “screaming” isn’t loud at all. It’s in the slammed door, the sarcasm, the eye roll, the withdrawal. It’s their nervous system saying, I’m overwhelmed, and I don’t know how to make you see it.
When we slow down enough to hear what’s beyond the noise — to the fear, the frustration, the longing underneath — we teach them they don’t have to fight to be understood.
And that kind of listening? It doesn’t just calm their voice — it calms their heart. ❤️
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