Seasons of Change KC

03/19/2026

Ever wonder why you react the way you do in love and conflict? Terry Real’s Relationship Grid shows how patterns of boundaries and self‑esteem shape your relationships—especially under stress.

Your place on this grid shows your typical relational stance—whether you tend to:
💛 People‑please
🔥 Control
❄️ Withdraw
💎 Stay distant

The goal? Move toward the center—the “wise adult” space where healthy boundaries and self-esteem create closeness without losing yourself.

If you are ready to learn your patterns and how they are impacting your relationships, go to seasonsofchangekc.com and schedule a free 15 minute consultation

03/12/2026

03/04/2026

In our primary relationships, we often don’t see the original trauma, we see the adaptation. These aren't conscious choices. They're automatic, subcortical responses – fight, flight, or fix.

Reach out and schedule to learn more about your old patterns and how they are influencing your relationships.

02/27/2026

The Winter Newsletter is here! (link in comments)

02/21/2026

“I’ve gone into therapy at 82 years old. Never too late to figure it out.”
— Jane Fonda, on the On With Kara Swisher podcast

This quote is such a powerful reminder that growth doesn’t have an expiration date. Therapy isn’t about fixing what’s “broken”—it’s about becoming more aware, more regulated, and more compassionate with ourselves at any stage of life.

I cherish working with my clients in their 50s and older who share "I've never been to therapy before".
Whether you’re 22, 52, or 82, it’s never too late to explore your patterns, heal old wounds, and create more ease in your nervous system and relationships.

02/11/2026

Your nervous system was not designed for 24/7 breaking news.

We are living in an era of constant access to crisis, outrage, tragedy, and comparison. Your brain processes much of what you watch and read as if it’s happening to you.

More exposure ≠ more control.
More scrolling ≠ more safety.

Consider:
• Setting specific times to check news
• Turning off push notifications
• Taking one screen-free hour before bed

Protecting your mental health is not avoidance. It’s regulation.

01/23/2026

Touching doesn't have to mean s*x, it can be a small kiss, a loving hug, holding hands, even sitting on the couch with your legs next to each other - all designed to build our relationship minute by minute.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/touch-more-touch-often/

01/06/2026

Prince is having a moment after the Stranger Things finale, but his wisdom and brilliance have been in my therapy office for a while 💜

11/19/2025

The holidays can bring joy—and a lot of activation. One of my favorite EMDR-inspired grounding practices is the Earth • Air • Water • Fire strategy. It’s simple, nervous-system friendly, and easy to use anywhere.

As the season gets busy, try moving through these four elements whenever you need to reset. Your nervous system will thank you.

11/13/2025

Such a great morning presenting to students at a local middle school on what it’s like to be a psychotherapist. I noticed their growth mindset sign as well and encouraged that these are the messages they are getting about what success really takes!

11/05/2025

I love seeing the view from my office this time of year. 🍁🍂

09/17/2025

The Seasons of Change Fall Newsletter has dropped! Topics include AI in therapy, Burnout, Couples Therapy and more.

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