Jennifer L. Bristow Cain, MA LPC

07/08/2025

We are honored to provide free access to trauma-informed resources for those impacted by the Central Texas Flooding Disaster.

🔗 https://child.tcu.edu/flood-support

06/25/2025

What's your attachment style?
How is it impacting your life and other relatoinships?

Attachment is a big deal!!! How we were parented and cared for along with our childhood experiences informs our attachment style. Then we grow up, and how we parent our children informs their attachment style. Then they grow up, and how they parent informs our grandchildren’s attachment style (and on and on and on…)

The good news is attachment can change! So making an intentional decision to walk towards your own “earned secure attachment” can have generational impacts.

While this can feel overwhelming it is important to remember that having an insecure style does not mean something is wrong with you. It simply shows the brilliant and beautiful way you adapted to your surroundings and circumstances. Identifying your own attachment patterns can show you the pathway towards earned secure attachment. Doing the processing and work for yourself and your children is a gift! It’s never too late to process your past and the way it impacts your current relationships!

06/25/2025

Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate!

And by the way, this works for everyone, not just kids.... so grab your water today!

05/15/2025

Your future isn’t built in breakthrough moments — it’s shaped in the quiet, ordinary choices no one claps for. The ones where you show up. Say no. Stick to your values.

Growth looks like consistency, not just intensity. And that’s really good news — because it means you can start today… right now.

05/12/2025

Lilyfield is excited to be offering FREE TBRI and Trauma-Informed Classrooms training to licensed childcare centers/providers caring for a child ages 0-5 who has experienced some kind of trauma or adverse experience. Childcare providers will also have access to one-on-one and group consultations to help teachers problem-solve challenging behaviors and build skills to manage these behaviors. Our team will support your teachers in understanding and responding to challenging behaviors in order to make classrooms more peaceful and positive for everyone!

Register for training and consultations here: http://tinyurl.com/ydj9k563

04/22/2025

Free treatment for nightmares!

We are looking for adults who have experienced a traumatic event and are struggling with nightmares to participate in a research study that offers free treatment!
If you are interested, please call us at 918-631-3976 or email us at tu.nightmarestudy@utulsa.edu.
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03/19/2025

Come visit me in my new office, and check out the updated website. I am now in-network with many Blue Cross OK plans!

Do you feel like you’re at a crossroads? Are you discouraged, overwhelmed, or frustrated? Managing, but barely? Ready for more? You are not alone.

03/17/2025

Friends who have experienced the fires, this is a good resource with your kiddos:

Free resource for families who have experienced wildfires developed with NCTSN

08/05/2024

Worth the Watch:

Jia Jiang adventures boldly into a territory so many of us fear: rejection. By seeking out rejection for 100 days -- from asking a stranger to borrow $100 to requesting a "burger refill" at a restaurant -- Jiang desensitized himself to the pain and shame that rejection often brings and, in the proce...

05/29/2024

If you’re looking for resources for yourself or the children in your life after the tornado, NCTSN offers some good places to start. As always, feel free to reach out as needed.

Tornadoes are unusual storms, as their path is often erratic. In the same neighborhood, some houses may be completely damaged while others will not have been impacted.

04/16/2024

02/13/2024

In uncertain times, one thing that is certain is the profound power of you to help their world feel safe enough. You are everything to them and however scary the world feels, the safety of you will always feel bigger.
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When the world feels fragile, they will look to us for strength. When it feels unpredictable, they will look to us for calm. When they feel small, we can be their big.
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Our children are wired to feel safe when they are connected and close to us. That closeness doesn’t always have to mean physical proximity, but of course that will be their favourite. Our words can build their safe base, “I know this feels scary love, and I know we will be okay.” And our words can become their wings, “I can hear how worried you are, and I know you are brave enough. You were built for this my love. What can you do that would be brave right now?”
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We might look for the right things to do or the right things to say to make things better for them, but the truth of it all is the answer has always been you. Your warmth, your validation, your presence, your calm, your courage. You have the greatest power to help them feel big enough. You don’t have to look for it or reach for it - it’s there, in you. Everything you need to help them feel safe enough and brave enough is in you.
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This doesn’t mean never feeling scared ourselves. It’s absolutely okay to feel whatever we feel. What it means is allowing it to be, and adding in what we can. Not getting over it, but adding into it - adding strength, calm, courage. So we feel both - anxious and strong, uncertain and determined, scared and safe ‘enough’.
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When our children see us move through our own anxiety, restlessness, or uncertainty with courage, it opens the way for them to do the same. When our hearts are brave enough and calm enough, our children will catch this, and when they do, their world will feel safe enough and they will feel big enough.♥️


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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.