08/26/2025
When talking to Someone Who’s Depressed
1. Create a Safe, Nonjudgmental Space
Speak in a calm, grounded tone.
Choose a quiet setting—maybe during a walk, crafting, or sitting together in nature.
Avoid rushing the conversation. Silence can be sacred.
“I’m here with you. You don’t have to go through this alone.”
2. Listen More Than You Speak
Use open-ended questions: “What’s been weighing on you lately?” “Can you tell me more about how you’ve been feeling?”
Let them share without interruption. Nod, affirm, and hold space.
Listening is medicine. Your presence is the healing.
3. Validate Their Feelings
Avoid minimizing their pain with phrases like “It could be worse” or “Just stay positive.”
Instead, reflect their emotions:
“That sounds really heavy.”
“I can see how that would make you feel overwhelmed.”
4. Offer Gentle Encouragement
Depression often distorts self-worth. Remind them of their strengths, roles, and relationships.
Share stories of resilience—especially those rooted in community, tradition, or elders.
“You carry so much wisdom. Even when it’s hard to feel it, it’s still there.”
5. Avoid Trying to “Fix” Them
You’re not there to solve everything. You’re there to walk beside them.
Instead of advice, offer support:
“Would it help to talk to someone together?”
“I can sit with you while you call the clinic.”
6. Respect Cultural and Spiritual Dimensions
Depression may be tied to grief, historical trauma, or spiritual imbalance.
Encourage reconnection with ceremony, prayer, or traditional healing if they’re open to it.
“Would you feel okay talking to a medicine person or elder about this?”
7. Know When to Seek Help
If they mention:
Thoughts of su***de
Feeling like a burden
Wanting to disappear
Stay with them. Gently encourage professional help. You can say:
“You matter to me. Let’s find someone who can help carry this with you.”
In San Carlos, S**T Wellness Center is a trusted place to start: 📍 106 Medicine Way 📞 +1 928-475-1500 🌐 scatwellnesscenter.com
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