04/28/2026
Two women joined me recently. One is 20. One is 50.
They have never met. But sit with their stories long enough and you realize: the 50-year-old is the 20-year-old, thirty years from now, if nothing changes.
The 20-year-old is a national volleyball champion. She studies econ at the country’s top university and is heading abroad this summer for an internship. She has worked relentlessly since elementary school. She has a bright future.
Underneath, since adolescence, she has been bingeing. The loss of control around food has eroded the one thing all her achievements were supposed to build — trust in herself. A national champion, quietly doubting herself at the deepest level.
The 50-year-old represented America in figure skating at the Winter Olympics thirty years ago — at the age of the other woman. She has since built a remarkable company — the natural extension of a life accustomed to excellence.
Underneath, for thirty years, she has been bingeing. Body shame, much of it self-inflicted. Weight cycling. As her world expanded, her exposure expanded with it: toxic relationships, abusive dynamics, depression. 1,500 hours a year — the equivalent of a full-time job — spent at war with herself over food and weight for three decades. The same story I have heard thousands of times in the past decade.
I know this would have been my story if I hadn’t solved binge and weight struggles at 20.
And it is the life waiting for the 20-year-old, if she weren’t sitting across from me now.
Here is what surprises people about working with extraordinary clients — the kind whose struggles no one around them can see:
All the victories, the badges, the countries lived in, the zeros in the bank account — most of it is promises kept to other people.
Confidence doesn’t come from any of it.
It comes from the mirror. Not from the reflection. From the the promises one keeps for himself.
When you cannot keep your most basic promise to yourself — to eat normally — every other achievement starts to feel like fraud.
This week, the two of them will be on the same coaching call.
The 20-year-old will see her future.
The 50-year-old will get to give her younger self what no one gave her.
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Leslie Chen — Neuroscience-Based Food Addiction and Weight Loss Expert. 10 years. 400+ transformations.