07/24/2024
I remember one night at work years ago while I was still in grad school and working multiple jobs that a friend asked me if I happened to know where a screwdriver was so he could fix something. I said, “Actually, I think I have one that I keep in my car.” I came back in with the tool and he said, “Wow, you’re like everything to everybody”, and he said it in a sarcastic tone. I’ll always remember the panic attack I had immediately following those words because it became so real to me in that moment how hard I was working to please everyone and say yes to everything at the altar of my health, my faith, and depth in relationships. Yes, all of that over a screwdriver.
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I’d love to say I learned my lesson right then and there, but if I’m honest, I’m still learning how to say no, how to dial back my calendar and expectations, how to care for my body, and how to prioritize my faith.
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I’m learning that “no” is a full sentence. I have to put my own oxygen mask on before I can serve others. And I can’t perform my way to God’s grace.
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Come join me in the journey anytime you’re ready. We can navigate it together in counseling and work to increase your margin, set healthy boundaries, and learn to say “no”. 🪴
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