30/09/2024
For years, I felt like I was fighting a losing battle with my grief. It was like trying to blow out trick birthday candles—you know, the ones that flicker out for a second, only to reignite, no matter how hard you try to extinguish them. I spent so much energy trying to blow away the pain, only to have it flare back up, leaving me more exhausted and frustrated than before.
That’s how unresolved grief feels. No matter how many times I tried to burn it away, to overcome it, the pain would return. And I’d be left wondering why nothing I did ever seemed to make it disappear for good.
Over time, I’ve learned something important: not all grief can be burned away. It’s not about overcoming or blowing out the flame for good—it’s about tending the fire differently. In some of my fire rituals, where I used to focus on “letting go” and “transmuting pain,” I’ve started to build new fires—fires that cleanse and refine, rather than erase. Fires that may never fully disintegrate my pain, but instead transform how I carry it.
This is the essence of SoulEase.
In SoulEase, we’re not trying to blow out the grief or burn it away entirely. Instead, we’re learning to tend the fire within us—the one that refines our inner light, that makes us stronger, more resilient. We are finding the light that won’t burn out, the one that lives inside us because we’ve learned to tend to the fires that strengthen us, rather than the ones that burn us.
Here’s what SoulEase offers:
1. No Expectation to Overcome or Burn Away Your Grief 🔥
We’re not here to push for closure or demand that you overcome your pain. SoulEase is a space where your grief is allowed to exist, without the pressure to fix or extinguish it. Just like those trick candles, sometimes the flame flickers back to life. And in SoulEase, that’s okay.
2. Learning to Build New Fires 🔥
Instead of trying to blow out your pain, we’ll learn how to build new fires—ones that cleanse rather than consume. Fires that refine your inner strength rather than burn you out. You’ll learn how to release the weight differently, knowing that some pain may never fully disappear, but it can be transformed.
3. Finding Your Inner 💡 Light
The heart of SoulEase is discovering that you have a light within you that’s stronger than any fire that burns you. We’re here to help you tend to that light, to keep it steady, even when grief flickers back into your life. This is about learning to rise with the fire, not in spite of it.
4. A Community to Tend the Flame Together 🔥
Unresolved grief can feel isolating, but in SoulEase, you’re surrounded by others who are tending their own fires. We’re here to hold space for each other, to share in the experience of grief that doesn’t go away but changes over time. Together, we’ll nurture the flames that strengthen, not consume us.
I created SoulEase because I’ve been there—exhausted from trying to blow out a pain that refused to leave. What I’ve learned is that healing doesn’t mean extinguishing the grief. It means learning to carry it differently, tending to the fire inside us that refines us, rather than the one that consumes us.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re always trying to blow out the candles too--only to see them reignite, SoulEase is for you. Let’s build a different kind of fire together, one that nourishes your soul instead of draining it.
And now, I’m offering two opportunities this fall to join me in SoulEase:
1) Monday Night SoulEase Program---This is a closed container, meaning we will be committing to this space and each other for six weeks—no drop-ins or late sign-ups. This is an intimate group, where we can support one another deeply and build a foundation of trust and care.
Tomorrow, we start the 6-week SoulEase journey together—where we’ll discover how to transform our pain and refine our inner light.
This is your last chance to join us before the container closes. No drop-ins. No late sign-ups. Just a space to heal, together.
📅 Starts: Monday, September 30th
⏳ Limited spots available!
🔗 Sign up today to join: https://mailchi.mp/98a988f3e962/soulease-monday-night-practice
2) SoulEase One-Day Immersive Experience: If you can’t make the Monday program, I’m offering a one-day in-person immersive experience on Sunday, October 12th, in Stockton, NJ. This is a full day of deep connection, reflection, and healing—designed to help you tend to your inner fire and find SoulEase. Space is extremely limited, so please sign up today to reserve your spot.
Whether you choose the 6-week program or the one-day experience, SoulEase is here to support you in transforming how you hold your grief. Let’s tend these fires together.
Learn more here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/soulease-a-workshop-for-navigating-loss-and-ambiguous-grief-tickets-993897463067
