02/07/2025
https://www.facebook.com/100068490722118/posts/931416242484725/?mibextid=rS40aB7S9Ucbxw6v
Each of the animals has a different reaction to danger -- we can analogize this perfectly to the way that different people react to the same stressor.
For one kid, they might retreat into themselves when they're too stressed. In a school context, for example, this might look like shutdown quietly at their desk. The teacher tells the class to do something, and it's too high-level for them or they didn't understand the instructions, so instead they sit quietly and still and frozen until time is up.
The teacher may or may not even notice, until it comes time to turn in their work. Then they haven't done any of it, the teacher is mad, the child's relationship with the teacher continues to be broken, and the stress cycle continues.
For another kid, they might explode outward when they're too stressed. In that same context, given directions that are too high-level and too overwhelming, they might get "aggressive", shove the paper off their desk and announce "This is stupid!" They probably get more immediate attention than the quiet one, but that attention might not be anything helpful. They might not be recognized as struggling. They might just get punished or sent out of the classroom.
Relationship continues to be broken...stress cycle continues.
A third child in the same scenario might get distractible and start drawing on the assignment instead of completing it. A fourth child might ask a neighbor what it is they're supposed to be doing. A fifth child might know the "proper" way to self-advocate and raise their hand and ask for help.
And that fifth child might be the only one who actually gets the support they need.
But all of the children were asking for support, in the way that made the most sense to their body.
We just have to learn how to see it.
[Image description:
A cartoon by Liz Climo. In the first panel, the crocodile is yelling, "Danger!" at a red panda, a turtle, and a hedgehog.
In the second panel, the red panda has done its startle response of raising its arms up above its head; the turtle has gone into its shell; and the hedgehog has curled up in a little ball.
The crocodile is saying, "Very good, class!" as all of their students have reacted correctly to danger, despite all reacting differently!
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