Lindsey Stewart, LMFT, LPCC - Roseville Therapist & EMDR

10/03/2025

09/27/2025

09/24/2025

I recently spoke with Therapy Everywhere about narcissistic abuse. Check it out and let me know what you think!

In this powerful interview, we explore the impact of narcissistic abuse and the path to healing:-How does narcissistic abuse affect mental and emotional heal...

09/12/2025

Here is a recent article from my website about healing after infidelity.

Why infidelity can feel like trauma
Infidelity does not only break trust. For many people it shocks the nervous system in a way that mirrors trauma. You may notice intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, difficulty sleeping, waves of fear or anger, and a constant urge to scan for new threats. These reactions are common after betrayal and can look similar to symptoms of PTSD. Naming this experience as infidelity trauma can be validating and is often the first step toward healing.

No two relationships are the same, and there is no single timeline for recovery. Some people feel numb for months. Others move between grief, anger, and hope in the same day. Your pace is your pace. Healing is possible with the right support and the right tools.

Common signs of betrayal trauma
Intrusive images or mental replay of discoveries

Sudden spikes of anxiety or irritability

Emotional numbness or feeling detached from your life

Difficulty concentrating or making decisions

Avoidance of reminders and conversations about the affair

Body symptoms such as headaches, stomach pain, or exhaustion

Doubts about identity, self-worth, or attractiveness

Feeling pulled between staying and leaving....

For more, click the link below

https://resilienceandhealing.com/healing-after-infidelity-when-betrayal-becomes-a-trauma/

Why infidelity can feel like trauma Infidelity does not only break trust. For many people it shocks the nervous system in a way that mirrors trauma. You may notice intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, difficulty sleeping, waves of fear or anger, and a constant urge to scan for new threats. These reac...

08/26/2025

I was recently interviewed by Devorah from Therapy Everywhere on the topic of narcissistic abuse dynamics and treatment. We talked about a lot from gaslighting, flying monkeys, triangulation, coercive control, to healing with emdr, boundaries, insight and self empowerment. Devorah is always a joy to talk to. Check out the video and let me know what you think. If you have questions about narcissistic abuse that we didn't cover, let me know and I will address them in future videos.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jv_vkgLyk2Y

08/16/2025

Over the past 20 years I have focused on the speciality of personality disorders. This has coincided with a recent focus by our culture on narcissism, which is a personality disorder.
I recently watched the series Smoke. While it’s a drama that is…dramatic, I do think they did a great job portraying grandose narcissism. (Spoiler alerts).
There were a few moments that really hit. First the main character plays such a convincing narcissist his co workers cant believe bad things about him at first. In fact when the show revealed he wasnt what he seemed to be i felt so betrayed i had to turn it off for a few days.
Secondly there is a moment where his mask slips and his nice guy persona is replaced by seething petty rage in a way that is so common it gave me chills.
From the impulsivitiy and recklessness to the non bizarre delusions of being better than he actually is…they really nailed this personality type.
The scariest part is people like this are good at fooling people so even if a person can see through the facade they often end up gaslighted or expelled from the people who are still clamoring for some scrap of sunshine from the manipulative narcissist.
It’s painful to be connected to a narcissist. Its painful to leave. Pick the path that leads to healing.



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08/06/2025

If you are somebody who has broken free from narcissistic abuse or manipulation, set boundaries or even seen through their games, be aware that the narcissist will become fixated on you. Even after you are long gone from their lives, they will try and get others to mistreat you, shun you or target you. This shows they are trying to discredit you so that the truth you know about them will be less believed. Stay strong and surround yourself with healthy people.

https://www.facebook.com/selfcarehaven/posts/pfbid0fGydNnC6ZoK57W3Gm7aUkABCX3vLyHnK2ZPi1wwkeHZCCMoqbgKdMr7agJG2nTMil

🤍🧿🤍 Want more tips on how to navigate manipulators? Learn more in my bestselling books on narcissism, Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare and Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse.

Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths is available in all major physical bookstores including your local Barnes and Noble and everywhere books are sold. 🤍🧿

07/27/2025

🧠 Common Myths About Therapy

Thinking about therapy but not sure what to expect? Let’s clear up a few common myths.

🔹 Myth 1: Therapy is only for people with serious problems.
Truth: You do not have to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. Many people come to explore relationships, manage stress, or build emotional awareness.

🔹 Myth 2: The therapist tells you what to do.
Truth: Therapy is collaborative. You will explore your thoughts, feelings, and patterns with guidance, not prescriptions.

🔹 Myth 3: Therapy is just venting.
Truth: While talking things through can help, therapy also offers tools, insight, and strategies that support real change.

🔹 Myth 4: If therapy works, it works quickly.
Truth: Change takes time. Therapy supports lasting growth, not quick fixes.

Therapy is a place for reflection, growth, and healing. Whatever you are facing, support is available.

Reach out today: https://resilienceandhealing.com/contact/

07/24/2025

Mental load vs. emotional labor: What’s the difference?

Mental load is the invisible task of keeping everything organized—remembering appointments, managing to-do lists, planning meals, and making sure things get done.

Emotional labor is the work of managing feelings—your own and others’. It includes staying calm during conflict, offering reassurance, and smoothing over tension.

In many relationships, one person silently carries both. Over time, that imbalance can lead to burnout, resentment, or disconnection.

Therapy can help clients name what they are carrying, create healthier boundaries, and work toward more equitable dynamics—at home and beyond.

Reach out today: https://resilienceandhealing.com/contact

07/18/2025

📌 How to Know If Your Therapist Is the Right Fit

Starting therapy is a big step. Finding the right therapist can make all the difference.

Here are a few signs your therapist might be a good fit:

✅ You feel safe enough to be honest, even when it’s uncomfortable
✅ You don’t feel judged, dismissed, or rushed
✅ They listen closely and remember what matters to you
✅ You leave sessions with new insight, clarity, or direction
✅ Your therapist welcomes feedback and adjusts the approach if needed

Therapy is not always easy, but it should feel collaborative and respectful. If you feel unseen or stuck in sessions, it is okay to speak up or explore other options. The relationship itself is part of the healing process.

🧠 You deserve support that truly feels supportive.
Reach out today: https://resilienceandhealing.com/contact/

07/10/2025

🤍💗 Have you encountered a female narcissist or psychopath? Their bullying behaviors and malicious envy in the spaces of female friendships gives them away.