Stepfamily Foundation Inc.

Stepfamily Foundation Inc. Two out of three fail. WE CHANGE THAT At Stepfamily Foundation, we focus on managing the dynamics and rules within the family.

COUNCELING
for Stepfamilies

CERTIFICATION, 501(c)(3)
Professionals

Call 646.789.2525

Today, stepfamilies make up more than
half of relationships in the U.S. We believe that we’ve lost sight of a fundamental aspect of family life: coming together for meals and meaningful conversations. Sadly, this simple practice is becoming less common. It’s crucial that we revive these moments of togethernes

s, where we can discuss problems, share ideas, express expectations, and address failures. We offer counseling for:
* Stepfamilies / Blended Families / Remarried Families
* Divorce
* Single Parents
* Living Together with Children
* Remarriage

Our counseling approach is directive, focusing on techniques tailored for the successful blending of stepfamilies. We provide counseling, typically consisting of 5 to 7 sessions. Our office has been specializing in stepfamily and couple relationships for over 40 years and has authored four books that offer valuable insights and solutions. For more information, reach out to: 646-789-2525. Learn more at: http://www.stepfamily.org

11/03/2025

GETTING PREPARED
There are many areas in which we need to develop strategies and strengths before entering a step relationship. Success in any of them does not come easily, but the benefits to future relationships make the effort worthwhile.

11/03/2025

TEN STEPS FOR STEPS:
1. Recognize that the stepfamily will not and can not function as does a natural family.
2. Recognize the hard fact that the children are not yours and they never will be.
3. Super stepparenting doesn't work.
4. Discipline styles must be sorted out by the couple.
5. Establish clear job descriptions between the parent and stepparent and the respective children.
6. Know the unrealistic expectations beget rejections and resentments.
7. There are no ex-parents...only ex-spouses.
8. Be prepared for the conflicting pulls of s*xual and biological energies within the step relationship.
9. The conflict of loyalties must be recognized right from the beginning.
10. Guard your sense of humor, and use it.

10/28/2025

There are many stepfamily sites. Why are we different?
We’ve been doing this for 40 years.
We bet there isn’t a question that we haven’t answered.

10/28/2025

Most who enter stepfamily wonder what to do.
Help is here.

10/28/2025

His kids
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10/28/2025

In BIO FAMILY you do A and get B.
In STEPFAMILY you do A and get Z.
Prepare!

10/27/2025

At The Stepfamily Foundation, we are committed to enlightening and educating stepfamilies, equipping them with the knowledge and tools to navigate the complexities of blended family life with confidence.
We believe that by learning to honor differences, families can transform challenges into opportunities for deeper connection, creating a harmonious and thriving home environment.

10/27/2025

"LADY LIBERTY" by Dr. Jeannette Lofas
My mother was an immigrant
And, yet in accented voices
she taught me America's song
We travelled forth to Europe
And always back
Entering the New York harbor,
No matter...what time
too early or too late
Mom summoned us on deck
Standing, shivering we'd wait
for Lady Liberty to go by
And often Mom would just cry.

10/22/2025

People entering stepfamily are often surprised to find that they have to create new models, new responsibilities, and new job descriptions for each family member. They don't realize at first that a whole new set of step manners is needed.
Instead of family relationships that develop naturally, stepfamily relationships require that a new system be created and enforced by the heads of the household.
Each step system becomes a new team with new strategies, new positions, and a new team spirit. Actions and behaviors can't be left to chance, but must be spelled out by the couple so that all of the members know their roles.
OUR WEBSITE: stepfamily.org

10/22/2025

An important difficulty in step is finding agreed-upon roles and rules for all family members. Specific rights and responsibilities fall to the parents and each of the children, according to s*x and birth order. When a stepfamily is formed, all the rules change, and the players often shift in their roles.
OUR WEBSITE: stepfamily.org

10/22/2025

STEPFAMILIES ARE DIFFERENT FROM BIOLOGICAL FAMILIES - not better or worse, just different. They function according to a different paradigm of the family and a different set of dynamics and behaviors.
Distaste for the word "stepfamily" and the desire to make the stepfamily mimic the biological family creates a wide range of false expectations. They also lead to a denial of the many adjustments that the members of the stepfamily must make. The way to overcome problems is to identify them, most of the problems in step situations are due to the failure of stepfamily members to acknowledge that the step situation does, indeed, create a special need for education and understanding.
OUR WEBSITE: stepfamily.org

10/21/2025

5 OUT OF 5 MAJOR RULES IN A STEPFAMILY "WE DISAGREE RESPECTFULLY".
This is perhaps the most powerful rule for a stepfamily, as disagreements are inevitable. It teaches that conflict is normal, but it must be managed with grace and civility. The focus is on the respectful process of disagreement, not on avoiding the disagreement itself.
Impact: Normalizes healthy disagreement, prevents arguments from devolving into personal attacks, and helps children and adults develop the skill of asserting their views without damaging relationships. It emphasizes that love and respect can coexist with differing opinions.
OUR WEBSITE: stepfamily.org

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334 Division Street
Sag Harbor, NY
11963

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