Anchored Counseling LLC

05/02/2026

With Mother's Day around the corner there is a whole new round of guilt coming for those members of the LGBTQIA+ Community who are no contact with their mothers.

So I want to take this opportunity to explain that this is not a responsibility that falls on you.

And people who think that they get a say in what you do with things that have impacted you so intensely need to mind their own business.

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There is a difference between the inherent gratitude that occurs when you know that someone did indeed give you life and meet basic needs for you.

But also that's the bare minimum expected of a parent.

You do not owe anyone anything especially not a parent who has not shown up for you in the ways you have needed them to or who has pushed your boundaries or not accepted you or made you feel like you are less than just because of who you are as a person or who you love. Or what you do or do not believe in.

I also want to acknowledge that doesn't mean this doesn't hurt. And if this does still hurt you I would encourage you to check out my YouTube channel where I have a long form video about what it's like to be no contact with your mother over mother's Day and some options on how to channel that emotion.

You deserved to have parents who loved you fully and supported you as a human being. And if you didn't have that I'm sorry.

04/29/2026

Bottom line:

- You get to make your own terms
- Don't let anyone rush your process
- Sometimes you have to try a few times
- Trust your gut

Telling people who you are can be scary. It can also feel natural, or empowering, or a thousand other emotions

People love to act like coming out is a single, cinematic moment.It's not.It's the new doctor's office. The first day at a new job. The holiday dinner. Every time you mention your wife to a stranger and pause, just for a second, to check if it's safe.

Parallel parking, of all things, taught me how to hold this.Some spaces are easy. Some require three attempts and one deep breath. Some you decide aren't worth the risk and you drive on.All of it is valid.🏳️‍🌈

04/28/2026

Or, if you can approach it in a healthy way 👇🏼

❌Instead of passive aggressive
✔️ Try direct and honest "There is something about our relationship that I really miss, would it be ok if we talked about it?"

❌ Instead of insulting
✔️ Try acknowledging and complimenting what they are doing that makes you feel close to them

❌ Instead of avoiding
✔️ Try clarifying your place "I love our relationship and I love you. I also feel like there are things that have fallen away. (Share what they are) What do you think?"

There are so many ways to handle things when conversations get difficult.

For legal purposes, the video is satire, the caption is not.

***rcouples

04/27/2026

Some of these might not FEEL super. And I get that.

You came by these qualities because of things that happened to you, which probably seems unfair. But they are characteristics you have, nonetheless, and enjoying them for what they are isn't necessarily a bad thing.

If you are looking for a therapy space where you can work through the ways leaving religion has impacted you, let's talk. I am taking new clients in FL, NY, CO, and some places outside of the US.

Comment "let's go" here, or DM me for details.

04/21/2026

While you're at it...

✨ Relax your jaw
✨ Lower your shoulders
✨ Take you tongue off the roof of your mouth
✨ Take a deep breath in for 3 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds, and breathe it out for 5 seconds.

Maybe do these together if you need a way to refocus.

Connecting with your partner helps you to create safety, so when the tough things come up there is calm and peace between you to handle them.

Make connection a priority.

Not sure where to start? I have openings for couples in FL, CO, NY, VT, or certain locations outside of the USA beginning in May. Comment "let's go!" Here, DM me, or check out my link in bio to see how to sign up to work with me.

***rcouples

04/17/2026

Sure, I definitely believe you when you say WE are the problem.

Being a q***r couples therapist in 2026 is a wild thing. Trying to help people regulate together when the world feels like it is on fire is not something they teach you about in grad school.

Then, watching the things happening that involve mostly straight men (with no consequences) adds a whole layer to an already effed up feeling.

When things get this overwhelming, I have to remind myself and my clients that the people you have directly in front of you are the MOST important people you have. You circle is vital to your peace. So create your circle the best way you can. Trust yourself, trust your people, and fight like hell to keep those relationships healthy.

The crazier the world gets, the more important that circle is.

04/16/2026

Hint: it's not a out is doing what we want when we want.

It's the kid thing. It's dropped off a bit as we have gotten older, I'll admit. But now people's reactions to us not having children is pity.

"You'll miss so much about what's good in life"
"Who will take care of you when you are older?"
"You can't know real love until you are a parent"

All of these things are dismissive and belittling...and untrue. But .ore than that, it's the intrusive nature that people know what's best for anyone else.

The other thing that a lot of straight people don't think about is how much work goes into having kids for a q***r couple. Many can't do it because it is cost prohibitive and bills have to be paid. The majority of people who are child free by choice OR q***r parents have thought a hell of a lot more about parenthood than most cishet parents I know.

So, where are you in the great child debate that seems to be on people's minds these days? Drop your thought in the comments, I'd love to hear them!

***rcouples

04/14/2026

I keep seeing post after post after post with comments about how this group or that is out to get this other group with their attitude or the way they move their lives.

Do we really not get, as adults, that very few people actually think about us as much as we think they do?

It's just not necessary, especially when the world exists the way it does right now, to get so caught up in what people are trying to "do" to us. And if you do get caught up, maybe ask yourself why?

10/24/2025

Myths and Fears -

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.- Plato

07/27/2025

I know why you still haven't booked a therapy appointment.

You also know why.

But the job of the therapist in the room with you and your partner is NOT to tell you if you are going to "make it" or not.

Your therapist's job is to help you and your partner work through your current relationship stressors, help you find the reasons you keep coming back to the same arguments again and again & resolve the things that can be resolved so the relationship can move forward.

If you are worried about a therapist thinking negatively about you or or partner (or your relationship) let me try to put you at ease.

Yes couples who come in doing these things are typically in a more cooperative and "ready to heal" space, I ALSO see these signs when a relationship is healing and becoming stronger.

So if you aren't sure that you are currently willing to face one another when having the hard conversations, or attending to one another while in therapy, or even if you aren't sure that therapy ISNT you or your partner's last real try to repair the relationship, those aren't reasons to not book the appointment.

🤔 Interested in working with a relationship therapist who is also a real human 💁🏻‍♀️? I have some openings for couples starting immediately. Check out the link in my bio, comment LET'S GO here, or DM me for more details on how to work together.

Not quite ready for 1:1 therapy? There's nothing wrong with that, and I still want you to have tools to help your relationship.

P.S. Curious about my other resources? Check out my bio for my Amazon storefront, partnerships, and all things therapy-related!

Reminder: Social media is for education and connection, but it’s no substitute for working directly with a licensed therapist.

***rrelationships