Gokalia Sacred Space

03/11/2026

Have you ever hummed it out?

Everything I learn about spirituality, I always find myself tying it back to foundational skills and early development.

Last night I had a dream where I was being attacked, and in the dream I couldn’t open my mouth to call for help. I tried to scream, but nothing would come out. I woke up hearing myself whimper in pain.

On my drive to work, something clicked in my mind. Even when our mouths can’t fully open… we can still make sound. I remembered the beauty of humming.

One time during an opening circle once, I asked people to share what was heavy on their hearts and minds. But I also understood that not everyone feels ready to speak. Silence can hold space, yes—but humming can also create a bridge.

Humming gives permission to feel without forcing words. When we hum, we are still expressing something. We are allowing vibration to move through the body. It gently opens the throat and releases what feels blocked.

And if we think about it, humming connects back to our earliest stages of development. As infants, before we knew how to articulate words, we made sounds. Even when we needed soothing, our caregivers would calm us down with humming. Those little vibrations were the beginning of communication.

So sometimes healing is simply returning to the basics.

Today I practiced humming again, just naturally letting the sound move through me. It felt incredibly grounding—and during storytime at work I used it. I recognized how the little ones absolutely loved it when we did it together.

So if you ever feel like your voice is stuck… try humming.

You don’t have to know the words yet.
You don’t have to explain the feeling yet.

Just hum.

The vibration will move the energy.
The words, the wisdom, and the clarity will come when they’re ready.

Let me know if this practice has ever helped you.

03/09/2026

What does it actually mean to embody your higher self?

For the longest time, I thought a higher self was someone who was pure, holy, wise, calm, and always knew the right thing to say. Someone who never reacted, someone who had it all together.
But as I’ve been walking this journey and doing deeper work on myself, I’ve come to realize that maybe that’s not it at all.

When I first started waking up to these pieces of myself, the first thought I had was, “Wow… I am so ghetto.” 😅 And I don’t say that in a way to shame myself, but more in the sense that I realized how much of myself I had been trying to quiet down.

I grew up being taught to be a rule follower, a good daughter, someone who exceeded expectations. I was raised to be prepared to be a Hmong daughter-in-law, a wife who serves the family, someone who did everything the “right” way. And those teachings shaped me in many ways.

But as I started exploring the world and really getting to know myself outside of those roles, I realized how deeply conditioned I was to be a certain version of myself. And when those layers started peeling back… I found myself laughing. Because the version of me that was underneath all those expectations wasn’t this quiet, polished, holy version of a woman.

I’m outspoken.
I speak my mind.
I cuss like a sailor.
I laugh loudly.
I drink.
I smoke.
I talk about shaking that ass because moving energy in the body is real.
I enjoy exploring life and being human.

And for a long time I felt ashamed of those parts of me, like I had to hide them in order to be accepted or to be seen as someone who was “spiritual” or “proper.”
But now I’m realizing something important.

My higher self was never meant to be a perfect version of me. My higher self is simply the most honest and liberated version of me. Through a recent quantum session, I’ve had the space to really sit with my identity and understand why I’ve gone through such a deep identity crisis over the past few years.

And the realization that landed for me is this:
I am filled with so much joy.
So much laughter.
So much life.

And I’ve started to notice something. When people look at me, there’s often light in their eyes. There’s happiness. There’s this sense of ease. And I never fully understood why people looked at me that way. But now I see it.

I genuinely love being present with people.
I love serving others.
I love creating spaces where people feel seen, heard, and alive.
That’s the energy I carry. But my work right now is learning how to balance that joy with responsibility. Learning how to get my s**t together enough to sustain the life and work I’m meant to do.

To take the leaps that are required of me.
To continue offering healing.
To continue sharing knowledge.
To support the people who feel stuck, confused, or incapable — just like I once felt.

And maybe that’s what embodying your higher self really means. Not becoming someone new.
But finally having the courage to be who you truly are and using that truth to help others remember who they are too. Because the goal isn’t to become who the world says you should be. The real journey is learning how to come back home to who you’ve always been.

02/23/2026

" eVeRyoNE wAnTS tO BecOmE a SHaMaN NowADaYS. "

No one talks about what it actually costs.

An ex-fiancé who promised he would guide me and support me through this journey… left when it was convenient for him. When his family said I was doing devil’s work. That I was bringing bad luck. That I was using him.

Friends of over 10 years, the ones I trusted, when I asked what I should do next to improve my quality of life… told me a holistic approach wouldn’t bring money in. As if money was the point. I didn’t even give a s**t about that. I just wanted to feel better. I just wanted to live better.

When I confided in my parents, they shamed me. Silenced me. Told me I was chasing something that wasn’t meant for me. That I wasn’t somebody who was supposed to walk this path. That it was all a scam.

I watched the people I loved and valued the most not support me one bit.

Walking this path isn’t something I glamorized. It isn’t something I woke up and decided would be cute or trendy. Even now, I don’t wake up thinking, “I want to carry this.” I wake up wanting to do whatever it takes to get by. To have a better quality of life. To feel alive again. To feel joy. To feel human.

This path is not aesthetic.
It is paralyzing pain.
It is fear.
It is doubt.
It is losing people you thought would stay.
It is being misunderstood by the ones closest to you.

Until it happens to you… until you are forced to embark on it… may you stay filled with joy and never have to know what it takes to get here.

So go ahead and mock it.
Belittle it.
Not understand it.
The universe has a way of humbling everyone in its own time.
But this?
This is just me speaking from my pain.

Most people see my joy.
They see the light.
They see the smile.
They don’t see the depth it took to get here.

Thank you ZooHlub for speaking out and empowering those who embark this path.

02/19/2026

Most my life, I was deeply ashamed of who I was.

Ashamed of being too weird.
Ashamed of not fitting in.
Ashamed of trying so hard to be "normal."
I used to do the most to myself just to be accepted.
To conform. To not stand out.
But what I’ve learned on this journey is this:

When you’re destined for something, it will find you anyway.
No matter how much you try to hide.
No matter how much you try to dilute yourself.

Healing has taught me to embrace the very things I was once shamed for — my softness, my depth, my femininity, my intensity, my way of feeling and witnessing life.

And here’s the biggest lesson:
It’s the mindset.

Life will happen.
People will judge.
Experiences will unfold whether you want them to or not.
You lose more than you win.

Despite the outcome,
your choice of responding shapes how you choose to move forward.
How you honor your body’s truth.

There are always two sides to every story.
There is always growth inside discomfort.
So lean in then let go.

Walk into the season of trusting your inner knowing.
Even when no one understands.
Even when the outcome is uncertain.

Keep choosing yourself.
Keep moving forward.

Every breath in life is an opportunity to begin again.

02/18/2026

Note to self: come as you are and learn as you go. 💝

02/17/2026

The "final shedding" has been such a deep downward spiral the past few weeks. From historical trauma, old seggual trauma wounds, addiction, and self sabotage it has been interesting what I have been secretly carrying with me still.

During my meditation I asked how was I to let go all of this weight. And spirit showed me ✂️✂️✂️which then made me feel so stupid. 😅

Through this I have noticed true choice compared to unconscious patterns I have programmed from early years of my life.

Happy first day of the fire horse season. May this season of life will you focus on tending to your own garden and sharing the fruits of your labor to those who value your garden. I usually go with white roses, but to start off the fire horse year I am welcoming hydrangea in my space. ❤️

02/04/2026

My talented soul sister ❤️ located Wausau, WI

01/28/2026

***Please help share and sign up***

This is an emotionally challenging time for our state, especially for communities of color who are deeply affected by recent federal immigration violence and racial profiling resulting in fear, grief, and isolation. This is an opportunity for us to be in community from the safety of our homes, taking care of our bodies, restoring a sense of safety and rest. Please sign up and join us.

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~Yin Yoga for Emotional Healing & Rest ~

Join Hennepin County and Ka Zoua Xiong, founder of Soul Ya Yoga, for a FREE Yin Yoga session created to support rest, regulation, and emotional grounding.

This gentle, slow practice offers longer-held poses, mindful breathing, and quiet stillness to help soothe the nervous system, release held tension, and create space to process what words often cannot. Yin Yoga invites you to slow down, listen inward, and feel supported during uncertain times.

This is a space to pause, feel grounded, and remember that rest is healing and something we all deserve, especially when the world feels heavy. Whether you are feeling overwhelmed, grieving, or simply in need of calm, you are welcome here.

This event is free and open to the community.

🫶🏽 Session will be offered in both Hmong and English.

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*link will be emailed out before Sunday

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🙏 Thank you Hennepin County for your partnership in organizing and sponsoring this healing circle session.

01/25/2026

🤍

Beloved Source of all life,
Great Light of love, peace, and wisdom,
We invite Your presence now.

We ask that Reiki flow gently and powerfully
through the land of Minnesota,
through its rivers and forests, its cities and fields,
through every home, every heart, every soul.

May this healing energy bring peace where there is unrest,
comfort where there is sorrow,
clarity where there is confusion,
and hope where there is fear.

We ask that all who live here
be surrounded in divine light,
guided by compassion, understanding, and respect.
May kindness grow in every interaction,
and may justice, dignity, and unity be restored.

Let Reiki support the leaders, the healers, the teachers,
the parents, the children, and the elders.
May they act from wisdom and love
for the highest good of all.

We send healing to those who are suffering,
to those who feel unseen or unheard,
to those who carry heavy burdens in their hearts.
May they feel held, protected, and valued.

May Minnesota become a beacon of peace,
a place where hearts awaken,
where diversity is honored,
and where love is stronger than fear.

We give thanks for this healing,
knowing it is already flowing,
already working,
already complete.

With gratitude and humility,
we place this prayer in the light.

And so it is.
🙏✨

01/21/2026

Did you know your hips hold a lot of stored emotion?
If your glutes or hips have been feeling tight, consider this your permission slip to twerk. 😉

That’s exactly what I did this morning—I woke up feeling tight so I turned on some music from the clubbing days, and gave myself permission to shake that asssssss. It felt good to shake all that stagnant energy off of me!

We’re still in that snake shedding season, and apparently my body had a few more things it was ready to let go of.

Allow movement to be medicine. ✨

01/16/2026

Apparently 2016 is trending right now. And reflecting back on these images, it made me realize this was the build up which led to my first spiritual awakening. 😅 I think I'm finally ready to start sharing my awakening story. I'll let yall enjoy these photos first. 🤭

01/12/2026

Hello everyone.

The Flow State will be holding 3 sessions this week. Today, Wednesday and Friday, to offer and hold space for the community.

We will be offering space for individuals to do circle share, do movement together, meditate, and do a collective energy cleanse.

In these times where our media is saturated with fear, anxiety, and upheaval, The Flow State hopes to offer a little peace and stillness in this time.

These spaces are free and open to the community. You can choose to attend one or all depending on where your needs are.

Reserve your spot with the link below:
https://www.theflowstatewholenessinhealing.com/event-details/a-place-for-peace-safety-and-centering-2026-01-12-18-30https://www.theflowstatewholenessinhealing.com/event-details/a-place-for-peace-safety-and-centering-2026-01-12-18-30