12/01/2021
While I worked through the , I wanted an opportunity to address biological s*x and personal identity.
As someone who identifies as a woman, I have struggled with my inability to get pregnant and have my own children. My whole life was tied to my fertility. I NEEDED to be a Mother. There was nothing more pressing. My world turned upside down as I began taking medications and my husband was giving me shots in the butt. To no avail, we have yet to have babies and my sense of self has been tampered with.
In the birth world, there is a lot of complex and crucial components to consider when we talk about s*x, gender, and biology. Our genitiles and our reproductive organs are a result of a random egg and a random s***m bringing their cells together. They are not inherently an important component to our identity. As we grow in our individual environments and circumstances, we develop relationships and connections with our gender and what that means varies for us all. For some, this immediately brings confusion and trial as they navigate things like gender dysphoria. For me, it was the unsuspecting fertility issues that disconnected me from my own idea of what it meant to be a woman.
All of these concepts are new and scattered in my brain. I have been working on understanding them and applying what I learn to myself and to my life as a birth worker. I hope to offer inclusive care to every pregnant person, regardless of what complexities they bring to the table. I want to make birth a safe and empowering experience for anyone who seeks my care. To me, that means stripping all of my original thoughts of gender and s*x and opening myself up to the intricate uniqueness that is found within each human being.
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