Christy Song Lmft-S

11/21/2025

The moment I realized “holding space” also meant holding myself.

There’s a lesson I return to again and again in my work as a therapist, supervisor, and human:
You can’t hold someone else more gently than you hold yourself.

Years ago, early in my career, I was pouring everything I had into my clients. I thought that was what good therapists did—stretch, open, offer, absorb. I mistook self-abandonment for presence. I thought the calm I offered others didn’t require me to have any of my own.

But my body kept telling a different story.

It wasn’t burnout exactly. It was something quieter: a subtle leaving-of-self. A feeling of being slightly outside of my own skin. A dissociative hum that whispered, “You’re here, but you’re not home.”

That was the beginning of my deepest shift.

I learned that good therapy isn’t about disappearing into someone else’s story.
It’s about staying solidly in your own body while you walk beside theirs.

Now, my practice is shaped by that truth.
By pacing with intention.
By honoring my nervous system as much as my clients’.
By choosing presence over performance.
By remembering that healing isn’t a transaction—it’s a relationship.

Some weeks I still catch myself leaning too far forward, stretching too thin. When I do, I come back to the reminder that saved my career:

“Your nervous system gets to be held, too.”

And honestly? That changed everything.

— Christy

11/20/2025

Today, on Transgender Day of Remembrance, we hold space for the sacred truth that remembrance is not passive—it’s an act of resistance, of care, of naming what systems would rather erase.
We honor those we’ve lost to violence, neglect, and the ongoing impact of anti-trans legislation and stigma. And we honor the living—Trans people who fight every day to exist in a world that wasn’t built with their safety, joy, or humanity in mind.
My work, my writing, my supervision, and my heart are committed to building a world where Trans and gender-expansive people are not mourned, but celebrated. Where safety is a baseline, not a privilege. Where healing is possible because community makes it possible.
If no one has told you today: your life matters. Your joy is revolutionary. Your existence is a gift.
🕯️ May remembrance move us toward accountability.
🕯️ May grief sharpen our resolve.
🕯️ May trans liberation be non-negotiable.

11/19/2025

In supervision, I remind my clinicians of something simple but radical:
✨ You don’t have to earn your right to take up space. ✨
Supervision isn’t about performance. It isn’t about proving your competence.
It’s about slowing down long enough to notice what’s happening inside your body, your work, your boundaries, and your heart.
The best supervision doesn’t tell you who to be.
It helps you come home to yourself—your instincts, your values, your clinical voice.
As a q***r supervisor, I center consent-based practice, decolonial frameworks, and the understanding that therapists deserve just as much care as the clients they serve.
You are not a machine. You are a human being doing sacred labor in complex systems.
If you’re a clinician who needs softer supervision, deeper reflection, sacred boundaries, and a space where your humanity is not an inconvenience—
you’re welcome here.
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🪷 Queer-affirming, trauma-informed supervision
🪷 EMDR + dissociation specialty
🪷 Certification in antagonistic relational stress
🪷 PhD concentration in Equine-assisted psychotherapy
🪷 Polyamory & relationship diversity expertise
🪷 Decolonial and liberation based work

11/18/2025

✨ Dissociation & Healing Tuesday ✨

How we come home to ourselves, slowly… and without force.

Some of us didn’t learn how to stay in our bodies because staying wasn’t safe. Dissociation was the wisdom that kept us alive — the doorway our nervous system built when the world gave us no other exits.

But healing isn’t about shutting that doorway.
It’s about learning that we can walk back through it with tenderness.

Sometimes “coming home” doesn’t feel like a grand emotional breakthrough — it feels like:
🌿 Noticing a temperature shift on your skin.
🌿 Feeling your breath deepen by half an inch.
🌿 Remembering you have a body before remembering how it feels.
🌿 Letting presence be optional, not demanded.

This is the truth I return to again and again in my work:
Your nervous system is not the enemy.
It’s the historian.
It remembers everything you survived — and it learns safety through gentleness, not pressure.

And when safety accumulates, moment by moment…
That’s when we start finding our way back.

11/18/2025

There is an ache that lives beneath many holiday tables — the ache of wondering whether what you remember is real.

11/17/2025

11/17/2025

Supervision can be inspiring, grounded, and real.
It’s a space to grow your confidence, deepen your clinical voice, and reconnect with the “why” behind your work.

My supervision approach blends trauma-informed EMDR education, systemic perspective, and nervous-system awareness — creating a supportive space where authenticity and curiosity are welcomed.

I offer individual and group supervision for therapists and interns who are heart-centered, reflective, and eager to provide affirming, inclusive care.
Together, we explore what it means to be a present, attuned, and compassionate clinician.

✨ Supervision is where your professional growth meets your humanity. ✨

👉 Now accepting new supervisees for Winter 2025.
Learn more at ABCcounselingTX.com
or reach out to connect.

11/17/2025

✨ Memory networks are constellations of our healing. ✨
Each light point is a moment — some bright with joy, some dimmed by pain, all connected by the threads of experience.
In EMDR, we don’t erase the stars that hurt.
We help the nervous system remember that the sky is still vast — and safe.
Healing is not forgetting. It’s remembering differently.

If you’ve ever wondered how EMDR helps untangle trauma, think of it as teaching your brain to see the same constellation under a gentler sky.



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11/17/2025

Had the most amazing time at The Center - Pride Center San Antonio mixer! It was wonderful to support the community and get to meet so many people similarly passionate about supporting each other. Thank you to all who organized this great event!

11/14/2025

🌿 Personal Insight Friday 🌿

There was a moment early in my career when I realized that healing doesn’t always look like progress.

Sometimes it looks like exhaustion after trying to hold it all together.
Sometimes it looks like setting a boundary that no one understands.
Sometimes it looks like still being here — even when your body remembers pain your mind can’t name.

What shaped my practice most wasn’t the perfect session or the “aha” moment — it was learning to sit with people in their becoming. To trust the quiet parts of healing. To honor the slow, steady work that no one claps for.

If you’re in that space today — the messy middle — I see you. You’re not behind. You’re becoming. 🌙