Day of Birth, LLC

11/30/2025

It’s okay to say no.

Sometimes no is choosing rest instead of forcing yourself to show up drained.
Sometimes no is turning down a project that pays well but costs your peace.
Sometimes no is closing the chat, leaving a message on “seen,” and protecting your mental space.
Sometimes no is skipping a gathering because your heart needs quiet more than company.
Sometimes no is stepping back from people who take more than they give.
Sometimes no is refusing to be guilt-tripped into commitments you never agreed to.
Sometimes no is letting yourself heal without performing strength for anyone.
Sometimes no is saying you’re not ready, you’re not okay, or you need time—even when others expect you to bounce back quickly.
Sometimes no is choosing boundaries, choosing truth, choosing God’s timing—over pressure, noise, and comparison.

And yes, your no can disappoint people. It can feel uncomfortable. It can feel like letting someone down. But choosing honesty over people-pleasing, choosing obedience over overcommitment, choosing health over hustle—that’s sacred. That’s growth.

Your yes matters.
But your no? It carries wisdom, courage, and dignity because it honors the God who never asked you to be everything, just faithful to what He actually called you to do.

And in a world that keeps asking for more of you, choosing what’s healthy, honest, and aligned with God… that choice is holy too.

—Ruth.

11/29/2025

Let’s Talk About Outgrowing People You Still Love

Note well: growth is not betrayal, it’s becoming.

Indulge me.

One of the quietest heartbreaks a person carries is realizing that they’ve outgrown people they genuinely care for.

Not because they think they’re better.
Not because they’re unkind.
But because they have become someone their old environment can no longer hold.

And here’s the tension:
You still love them…but you can’t shrink for them.
You still honor them…but you can’t stay where they stopped.
You still value them…but you can’t pretend the season hasn’t changed.

Growth has a way of revealing misalignment.

You start craving deeper conversations, but they still want gossip.
You want purpose, they want pettiness.
You’re praying for strategy, they’re repeating old cycles.
You’re healing, they’re committed to chaos.
You’re setting boundaries, and they’re offended by them.

The space that once felt familiar now feels foreign.
Not toxic.
Just too small.

And this is where many people get stuck:
Trying to hold on to relationships God has already lifted them from.
Trying to stay loyal to comfort while betraying their own evolution.
Trying to fit into environments that can’t hold their growth.

Listen,
Love does not always equal longevity.
Some people were part of your story, not your future.
Some relationships were meant to awaken you, not accompany you.
Some friendships were meant to shape you, not stay with you.

And maturity is learning to bless the chapter without forcing it to continue.
Because if you dim your growth to make someone else comfortable, you will resent what you were meant to release.

Here’s the truth:
You can love someone deeply and still outgrow the role they play in your life.
You can pray for them sincerely and still not walk with them closely.
You can wish them well… and still move on.

Outgrowing people is not arrogance.
It's alignment.

It’s your spirit refusing stagnation.
It’s your clarity demanding a new space.
It’s your purpose stretching beyond old patterns.

Here’s the bottom line:
Some relationships won’t survive your healing.
Some circles won’t survive your boundaries.
Some bonds won’t survive your clarity.

And that’s okay.

Outgrowing people you love is painful, but staying where you no longer belong is suffocating.

Move with grace.
Move with gratitude.
Move with God.

And trust this:
The people aligned with your next level will not fear your growth; they will value it.

11/28/2025

11/27/2025

Covert narcissists hide in churches because the environment gives them exactly what they crave most: unquestioned admiration with minimal accountability. In church spaces, people often assume the best in others, extend automatic trust, and avoid confrontation. A covert narcissist knows this. They blend into the spiritual atmosphere by acting humble, gentle, or “deeply wounded,” using religious language as a shield that protects their image. It’s the perfect stage for someone who thrives on appearing righteous while behaving very differently behind closed doors.

They also hide there because faith communities tend to prioritize forgiveness and unity over calling out harmful behavior. A covert narcissist knows that if they ever get exposed, they can spiritualize their actions — “We all fall short,” “Don’t judge me,” or “The devil is attacking our unity.” They weaponize scripture to silence anyone who notices the truth. This keeps them insulated from consequences, because the church becomes a place where their victims worry they won’t be believed.

Another reason is access to influence. Covert narcissists love positions where they can subtly control narratives: ushering, leading small groups, praying for people, volunteering, or staying close to leadership. This puts them in circles where admiration flows easily. They become the “helpful one,” the “loyal one,” or the “super spiritual one.” Meanwhile, they quietly study everyone’s weaknesses, building a form of social power that looks nothing like the Gospel they preach.

Churches also give them a steady supply of empathy — something they crave but never give back. When they play the role of the struggling believer or the misunderstood servant, people rush in to comfort, encourage, or uplift them. That “support” becomes fuel. They drain emotional energy from spiritually generous people without ever offering true vulnerability or honesty in return.

And finally, covert narcissists hide in churches because it keeps them looking holy while they continue doing harm privately. The church becomes their camouflage. It protects their reputation while giving them access to people who don’t suspect manipulation. They fear exposure more than anything, so they choose environments where confrontation feels taboo. That’s why survivors who speak up are often silenced — not because they are wrong, but because the narcissist has already built a perfect disguise under the language of faith.

11/26/2025

We should not have to hide God’s goodness to keep people happy with us.

His Word says to rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn. Romans 12:15

We’re good at the mourning part but the rejoicing feels like she’s stolen something from us.

That👏is👏not👏true!

Not being able to cheer for our friends means we think God got it wrong. And if we were really honest, it means we believe she doesn’t deserve it.

Ultimately we don’t trust that God has more than enough.

That’s not friendship it’s envy & it’s gross.

Women can pick up on these vibes and so we withhold, belittle, or hide blessings because we feel responsible for other people’s response.

Let me tell you something someone needs to hear today…You are allowed to celebrate God’s goodness without fear that people will judge you as bragging.

Those friends exist. I have some. And when you find them and they win, cheer like they just won the Super Bowl!

- Ashley

11/23/2025

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