Jen Siladi Therapy

07/13/2025

https://www.jensiladi.com/blog/signs-youre-a-people-pleaser

Many of us want to be kind, helpful, and loved, but sometimes this desire can spill over into people-pleasing behavior that we don't even recognize. If you're the kind of person who always puts other people’s needs before your own, you might be unknowingly stuck in a cycle that leaves you feeling ...

06/29/2025

https://www.jensiladi.com/blog/emotional-caretaking

Break free from feeling responsible for others' emotions with therapy. Learn to care without carrying - put that weight down and prioritize your well-being.

06/15/2025

https://www.jensiladi.com/blog/overfunctioning-in-relationships-masks-anxiety

Overfunctioning can look like care, but it's often rooted in anxiety. Learn how to stop overfunctioning and build healthier, more balanced relationships.

06/09/2025

https://www.jensiladi.com/blog/setting-boundaries-feels-selfish

Setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s essential. Learn how to say no without guilt and take back your time, energy, and peace of mind.

05/23/2025

We’re living in the age of connection; WhatsApp group chats, YouTube channels, Zoom calls, Instagram reels, TikTok videos. And yet, so many people are lonelier than ever. In fact, loneliness has become such a common and serious problem that in 2023, the U.S. Surgeon General declared it a public he

03/23/2025

https://www.jensiladi.com/blog/why-you-keep-having-the-same-argument

Same Fight, Different Day Have you ever noticed that no matter what you and your partner argue about, the fight always ends up feeling the same? One minute, you’re talking about who left the dishes in the sink, and the next, you’re caught in a cycle of blame, defensiveness, or shutting down. It....

02/07/2025

Check out my latest guest blog post on Melissa Orlov's ADHD Marriage website, on the topic of ADHD and shame

Posted by Jen Siladi LMFT on Fri Feb 7th, 2025 - 12:47pm Start here For many people, one of the most painful parts of having ADHD is shame. It’s hard to avoid that feeling when you’ve just thrown away expired food that you forgot you had in the refrigerator, missed another important deadline or ...

08/31/2024

07/19/2024

100% this! When working with couples, we sidestep the ‘intentions’ part and focus on the impact - acknowledging it, understanding it and empathizing with it.

I know it can be hard to believe in the middle of a fight, but the only person who cares about your intentions is you. Most people do not intend to hurt their partners, but they do anyway. The first step in repairing the pain you’ve caused is to fully take responsibility. Justifications are not necessary and will often make things worse.

06/09/2024

https://www.jensiladi.com/blog/attachment-styles-and-relationships

The attachment style of each partner in a romantic relationship can have a big influence on how the couple interacts, and will also play a role in predicting how compatible they will be.

05/28/2024

From Conflict to Connection: Getting your Emotional Needs Met

Stuck in Conflict When you are trying to express yourself to your partner, do you often end up feeling worse than when you started? During a conversation or conflict with our partner, we often tend to focus on our surface emotions, thoughts and perceptions, but far less so on our deeper, core em