Laura Lorber J.D.

11/05/2025

20/03/2025

I'm spending today and tomorrow at Mediate.com's conference on "Incorporating Technology and AI Into Your Divorce Mediation Practice Agenda".

The AI tool I tried out for my homework tonight is Crystal. So far I have my DISC personality - guess I'm in the right field ;). Onto learning about how to use Crystal for my clients.

I am grateful for this amazing opportunity to learn about so many new AI helpers.

I'm looking forward to checking out Nibble AI too - I think this will be a powerful way for clients to channel their anxiety before mediation and prepare themselves to come into mediation ready to communicate as if this were a business deal - even though there will still be a lot of emotion.

27/01/2025

When you find yourself scared of a confrontation because you don't know what you will say - write yourself a series of BIFFs.

Start by writing out all of the things you think (know) the other person is going to throw at you.

Then, practice responding in a way that provides information and works toward resolving the issue.

BIFFs help you keep it conversational (F=friendly), Brief, Informative, and Firm.

This is a good way to prepare and a good way to soak up your anxiety as you wait for the conversation to take place.

The BIFF framework, created by Bill Eddy at the High Conflict Institute is a written framework for stopping blamespeak.

Blamespeak is a way of talking that is primarily to bully, raise drama, and lay blame. It is not intended to effectively communicate or resolve issues.

While there are many BIFF books, I find this one the easiest to use - with lots of examples and checklists.

17/01/2025

"Conflict can feel overwhelming, right? 🙋‍♀️ One thing I've learned is that taking ownership of my part, even when it's tough, actually gives me back control.

Admitting my role in a conflict, even if it feels scary, allows me to approach the conversation with intention instead of defensiveness. It's about taking responsibility for my actions and thinking about how I can do things differently in the future.

This isn't about self-blame, it's about taking charge of my own behavior.

What are your biggest challenges when it comes to navigating conflict? Share in the comments below! 👇 "

02/01/2025

If you've had a chance to talk with me, chances are that you know how much I value my dog walks. When faced with a seemingly intractable problem, it is time to take a dog walk. A few weeks ago, my dog Puddles and I walked three miles up and down steep trails while I contemplated Mac William Bishop's Rolling Stones commentary.

Check out this article I wrote:

We, in this country, have been pushed to the brink. Gone are the good old days of the 1990s when we all found peace in coming together – finding common ground and letting go of the extremes and fringes of political parties.

02/01/2025

Cheers to a fresh start in 2025! 🌟 As a mediator, I’m grateful for the opportunity to help resolve conflicts and create harmony. Wishing you all peace, success, and fulfillment in the year ahead. Hope your holiday season was filled with joy and love—here’s to making this year even brighter! ✨🎉

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13/11/2024

Happy ! As a family mediator, I’m reminded daily of the power of kindness in healing and rebuilding relationships. When we choose empathy, patience, and understanding, we create spaces where families can move forward together. Today, let’s spread a little more kindness to those around us—it just might be the first step toward peace. 🌼

07/11/2024

November 15th at 11am . I hope you can join us at the next “Making Decisions As you Age”. I have been looking for answers to this question for a long time. I finally found the right people, with the right answers.

21/10/2024

🌿✨ Happy Mediation Week! ✨🌿

This week, we honor the power of peaceful conflict resolution through mediation. Whether in workplaces, communities, or homes, mediation helps resolve disputes by promoting understanding and collaboration instead of confrontation.

Schedule a time to chat with me about your Mediation Needs!
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🔑 Why mediation matters:

Encourages open dialogue 🤝
Strengthens relationships 💬
Saves time & resources ⏳
Promotes long-term solutions 🌱
Let’s celebrate those who help us find common ground and create positive change! 💡

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01/10/2024

🍂 Happy October! 🍂

As we step into a new month, it’s a great time to reflect on how we can foster stronger family connections, improve communication, and create harmony within our homes. Fall often brings change, and with that, the perfect opportunity to resolve conflicts, set new goals, and embrace fresh starts.

Whether you’re navigating co-parenting challenges or working through family dynamics, mediation can offer a peaceful path forward. Let’s make this October a month of growth, understanding, and unity for families everywhere!

If you need support, I’m here to help. https://linktr.ee/lauralorber.jd

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30/09/2024

I have been working hard to bring a family into mediation. This morning one of the siblings texted me, "I'm not sure what this is even about" to which I responded "One of your family members is struggling to communicate and feels like a structured conversation would help. She is asking for your help."

Bringing fighting families, or worse, families who have stopped speaking to each other, into mediation is one of the hardest aspects of my job. It is often done when one party has reached their limit, but the other party/ities haven't even considered the idea. Holding these people, engaging them and trying to move forward is a tricky dance.

As I was driving this morning, "Reunion" from the Indigo Girls came on and it struck me that this would be the perfect song to send to someone as an invitation - "This is my situation... It's just about preservation \ I don't want you to feel any obligation... I have no need for anger with intimate strangers."

And that last line is where you absolutely don't want to get to. When you have no need for anger, when those you love become strangers, is when a family has given up. I always remind my clients that the opposite of love is not anger, but indifference.

What do you think?