Lambert Couples Therapy

We get so many questions about couples counseling that we wanted to provide some answers for you here.

Seeking out counseling in a relationship offers many benefits including proactive repair and reconciliation, tools for effective communication and intimacy as well as increased clarity, growth and understanding.

If you have more questions, please let us know.

Interested in booking a session? Sign up for a free-15 minute consult today. Link in bio.

Just a simple hug can make a huge difference! What a great reminder to never underestimate the power of connection and its profound impact on us.
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The benefits of physical touch are often overlooked, but they offer us a powerful way to come back to the physical body and connect with our loved ones.
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Have you given or received a hug today? Maybe it’s time! 🤗

We 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 hearing how therapy and couples work bring people closer and gives them to tools they need to thrive in relationship. ❤️
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Devon and Patrick are one such couple whose love and commitment to building a healthy relationship is truly inspiring. Check out their full testimonial below:
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“𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘣𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘻𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘊𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘨. 𝘔𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘵 𝘊𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘞𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘋𝘦𝘣𝘣𝘪𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘢𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺.

𝘊𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘭𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺, 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘭𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱. 𝘞𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵. 𝘐 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘸𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘊𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘨, 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘰𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘶𝘦𝘴.

𝘋𝘦𝘣𝘣𝘪𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘗𝘢𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘬 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘢 𝘧𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭.

𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘴𝘰 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘸𝘰. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳. 𝘍𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘮 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩!”
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𝙃𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙮 𝙑𝙖𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨 𝘿𝙖𝙮! ❤️
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Debbie and I wanted to share our recommendations on how to make this day special without all the fuss!
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Sometimes the simple gestures are the best. Enjoy!
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♥️𝙊𝙧𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙞𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙖𝙩𝙘𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙛𝙖𝙫𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙚 𝙧𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙘 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙙𝙮
♥️𝙄𝙣-𝙝𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙜𝙚
♥️𝙋𝙖𝙢𝙥𝙚𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 & 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙙 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙖 𝙫𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙖 𝙨𝙥𝙖
♥️𝙇𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙡𝙚𝙨, 𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙮 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙭𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙪𝙨𝙞𝙘 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙣𝙟𝙤𝙮 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙣𝙮 - 𝙣𝙤 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨!
♥️𝙍𝙚𝙛𝙡𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙤𝙣 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧
♥️𝙋𝙧𝙤 𝙩𝙞𝙥: 𝙘𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙖𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣'𝙩 𝙨𝙤 𝙗𝙪𝙨𝙮!
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All of life occurs in relationship. How do you choose to honor your relationships?

How do you nourish your partners soul expression? How do you support their needs and desires?

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Our September 2021 luxury retreat combines the relaxation and romance of a vacation with dynamic workshops on communication, conflict, and intimacy. Our goal? To offer couples like you a much-needed respite and a roadmap for happiness. Learn more and register today at https://loom.ly/U2DY6kc

Date nights are always possible, it's not that we don't have time, it's that we don't make time. TIP: Take turns creating a date. Here's an opportunity to one up your partner! Share your favorite date ideas below.

We’ve been asked, “What differentiates the therapy you provide from other couples counseling?”

Between us, we have six decades of training in state-of-the-art couples therapy. We translate the latest research into compassionate, practical guidance drawing on our expertise to create the best and most lasting results for your unique relationship needs. Every day, we use our own marriage as a living, loving laboratory for practicing and perfecting the skills and techniques that we bring to your sessions.

We know from research that touch is crucial in creating and strengthening romantic relationships. Conflicts are resolved more easily with increased amounts of physical affection. TIP: Make an effort to touch your partner frequently in the ways they love to be touched.

Every day in therapy, we see couples who feel more disconnected and less intimate with each other. As married therapists, we’re gratified to use our own experience and training to guide those couples to a healthier, happier . The truth is that great relationships take work. The secret is that the work can be fun! Combining a with a path to a happier future is the best of both worlds. So mark the date, register today, and pack your bags. September 26th is closer than you think!

https://loom.ly/bQJHtf4

Not being appreciated is one of the top complaints we hear in therapy. We suggest a morning ritual of giving appreciations so your partner feels valued. Try this: "One thing you did today that I really appreciated was..." or "That was important to me because..." or "It made me feel..."

How does it make you feel when your partner asks you for something? When we want to create a giving relationship, the best strategy is to give. How can we give in ways that matter to our partners?

Sexual Intimacy: Part 1 | Mindful Monday with Craig & Debbie

When we first encounter our partner, intimacy, s*x and romance are in full force. Oxytocin is running like crazy through our bodies so we are on a true hormonal high and our partner can do no wrong. Everything is perfect... until its not. So the question always remains, how do we maintain or bring back intimacy s*x and romance into our lives after the romance period has past? Here, we provide practical tips for how to cultivate and nurture increased intimacy in a relationship.

https://loom.ly/VKmwNaY

Sexual Intimacy: Part 1 | Mindful Monday with Craig & Debbie This week Craig & Debbie explore the hot topic of s*xual intimacy. They address questions from participants on the call and provide practical tips for how to...

A master relationship skill is owning up to your part no matter how small, in a heart felt way… and remembering how much you care about this person, more than being right.

So...what holds people back from saying "I'm sorry?"

“Experiencing conflict as a couple can ultimately bring you closer. We know, it sounds counterintuitive, but at the heart of every conflict is the seed of our desire and unmet needs. Uncovering and communicating those needs and desires is the foundation of a healthy, loving relationship.”

-- From The Mindful Couple by Craig & Debbie Lambert

The path from conflict to love requires a skillset most of us haven’t learned. It’s a bit like asking your accountant to paint your house: it will be messy and the result won’t make you happy. Our job is to help you turn conflict into opportunity. That’s why we are devoting a full day to conflict on our upcoming Luxury Couples Retreat (with , meals, and to keep it light). Are you ready to change your relationship for the better?

“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in relationship?” Because you can’t always have both. You can’t cuddle up and relax with 'being right' after a long day.”

We love this quote from one of Craig's mentors, bestselling author and couples therapist Harville Hendrix. So many couples have the same arguments over and over because they're invested in being right. At our upcoming Couples Retreat, we'll give you the tools to break the cycle. If being right is standing in the way of a happy relationship, please reach out to learn more.

Love matters most but sometimes life gets in the way. At our upcoming Couples Retreat, we’re focusing on the three pillars of relationship health: Conflict, Communication, and Intimacy. Twice-daily dynamic workshops will give you the mindset and tools to thrive, renewing your connection and reinvigorating love!

Learn more by visiting https://lambertcouplestherapy.com/luxury-retreat/.

Here’s a great article from Psychology Today about the pros and cons of taking a vacation as a couple. Creating memories, sharing novel experiences, and stepping away from kids and work can strengthen your love bond. On the other hand, long-haul travel can be stressful, and too much time together might magnify existing tensions. Consider something closer to home like our couples retreat to reap the benefits of a vacation without doing more harm than good.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201803/how-vacations-can-help-or-harm

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"My husband and I attended your webinar last summer. We found it so insightful, helpful and informative...My husband’s little brother just got engaged and as an engagement gift, we bought them The Mindful Couple book. We plan on reading through the entire book with them and having a mini book club together! I just wanted to let you guys know that the knowledge you have received from your teachers and have shared with others is continuing to go forth into the world! We are so grateful to have come into contact with your work and are excited to share it with others."
~ Carole

Thank you so much for your beautiful email letting us know how you are engaging with the book, Carole! It means a lot to us to have people reach out and let us know their experiences.

If you would like to learn more about , our upcoming Lambert Couples Therapy Luxury Retreat, and how you can deepen the bond you have with your partner for the rest of your lives, visit lambertcouplestherapy.com!

What Is a Couples Retreat and Why Should You Plan One?

If you’ve got cabin fever and it’s affecting your relationship, don’t add the stress of vacation planning to your woes. Consider an all-inclusive couples retreat as a way to rekindle the romance without reigniting simmering resentments. PsychCentral has a terrific article about why you should plan a couples retreat. So pack your bags and unpack old patterns of communication and conflict.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/what-is-a-couples-retreat-and-why-should-you-plan-one#1

What Is a Couples Retreat and Why Should You Plan One? Couples retreats, also known as couples intensives or couples gateways are unique vacation like packages combi

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
~ Rumi

Do you feel loved and appreciated? Do you and your partner communicate well? If you long for more connection and intimacy, please join us for the Lambert Couples Therapy Luxury Retreat, a four-night journey to rekindle romance and repair your relationship.

Twice-daily workshops will give you the tools and confidence to achieve positive, lasting change while you stay in the lap of luxury, enjoy fabulous gourmet meals, wine-tasting, and the company of new friends.

Space is very limited for September 2021. See the fully-inclusive itinerary and sign up: https://lambertcouplestherapy.com/luxury-retreat/

Something to Think About - Lambert Couples Therapy

Something to Think About:

Have you ever noticed that we tend to focus on what’s going wrong with our relationship rather than what’s going right? This is what psychologists and sociologists refer to as “negativity bias.” When we experience negativity bias in our romantic relationship what often happens is we assume a negative outcome before it actually happens and often before we have a reason to believe it will turn out negatively.

Read more: https://lambertcouplestherapy.com/something-to-think-about/

Something to Think About - Lambert Couples Therapy Negativity bias can cause problems in an otherwise strong relationship. Where does this show up in your own assessment of your partner?

2021 Couples Retreat - A Luxury Experience | Craig & Debbie Lambert

We’re excited to announce that registration is now open for our Luxury Couples Retreat Sept. 26-30, 2021!

View the complete itinerary and register today at https://lambertcouplestherapy.com/luxury-retreat/

2021 Couples Retreat - A Luxury Experience | Craig & Debbie Lambert Save the date and join our interest list for the 2021 Lambert Luxury Couples Retreat in Valle de Guadalupe.

2021 Couples Retreat - A Luxury Experience | Craig & Debbie Lambert

The wait is over! Click below to see the day-by-day itinerary for our upcoming five-day, four-night Couples Retreat in the stunning Valle de Guadalupe.

Learn proven strategies to deepen your connection while enjoying luxurious accommodation, private winery tours, gourmet feasts, plenty of laughter, and the company of new friends.

As a reminder, participation is strictly limited to 12 couples who want to create a happier, more loving relationship. Join our interest list today to be notified when registration opens!
https://lambertcouplestherapy.com/couples-retreat/

2021 Couples Retreat - A Luxury Experience | Craig & Debbie Lambert Save the date and join our interest list for the 2021 Lambert Luxury Couples Retreat in Valle de Guadalupe.

3 Ways Homeschooling Could Affect Your Marriage (and What to Do about It)

Is homeschooling taking a toll on your relationship?

Let’s face it: though the end of the pandemic is in sight, we still have to navigate through a maze of geometry, history, and other challenges a little longer. As we juggle our work commitments and our kids’ frustration, our loving connection can suffer from the added stress.

Take a break to read "3 Ways Homeschooling Could Affect Your Marriage (and What to Do About It)." In addition to identifying the primary issues, it outlines simple steps we can take to prioritize our partnership while virtual class is in session.

https://www.purewow.com/family/ways-homeschooling-affects-marriage

For more tips on staying connected during Covid, check out our article on having fun: https://lambertcouplestherapy.com/having-fun-the-secret-ingredient-to-boost-your-immune-system-and-your-relationship/

Stay happy and healthy!

3 Ways Homeschooling Could Affect Your Marriage (and What to Do about It)  

Intention versus Impact - Lambert Couples Therapy

When we say things that upset or offend the person we love, our immediate reaction is to explain our real intention. However, our partner doesn’t want to hear about our intentions. Feeling wounded, they want us to care about the outcome of our actions, the impact. Click below to read more:

https://lambertcouplestherapy.com/intention-versus-impact/

Intention versus Impact - Lambert Couples Therapy We judge ourselves by our intentions. However, our partner will always judge us in the moment based on the impact of those words. Learn more.

Which Couples Therapy Is the Best Couples Therapy?

WHAT IS THE BEST TYPE OF COUPLES THERAPY?

Read as we share our thoughts with Adam Bulger:

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/best-couples-therapy-for-you-pros-cons/

Which Couples Therapy Is the Best Couples Therapy? Understanding the differences between specific types of couples therapy can help you and your spouse get the help you need.

To our surprise, the response to both "Emotional Intelligence: For Men Only" and "The Stuff You Learn in Couples Therapy" was much greater than we ever anticipated. Right now, registration is closed for both webinars. We apologize to those of you who were planning on attending but did not register yet. Please know that we will be working on another offering toward the beginning of next year. We will redesign the offering to allow for greater participation.

Many thanks to all of you in our community. We appreciate and are very grateful for your ongoing trust and support!

The Mindful Couple - Modern Intimacy

Ever wonder what it means to be mindful in your marriage or relationship?

https://www.modernintimacy.com/mindful-couple/

The Mindful Couple - Modern Intimacy A Mindful Couple realizes that the way they trigger each other has something to do with their childhood wounds or wounds from a previous relationship. This awareness fuels curiosity and care about how they can show up to help in the awareness and healing of those wounds.

Surviving an Affair | Mindful Monday with Craig & Debbie

Did you miss our Mindful Monday episode on Surviving an Affair?

Affairs are incredibly difficult, heart-breaking, and painful experiences in relationships -- but they do not need to signal the end. Craig & Debbie have found that couples who can survive an affair can even thrive on the other side of it.

Catch a replay here: https://youtu.be/3oUN3Hiy7_s

Surviving an Affair | Mindful Monday with Craig & Debbie On this week's Mindful Monday, Craig & Debbie explore the topic of Surviving an Affair. Affairs are incredibly difficult, heart-breaking, and painful experie...

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