Lighting the Path

28/04/2026

(Part 2.) Celebrating my business’s 4-year anniversary broke me open to practice my values in an even deeper way.

Creating a conscious business required me to look at my own beliefs around service-based businesses.

I had to look at my own fears and willingness to take risks.

**Questions that guided my business framework:

- Am I focused on building a business to make money or make a difference? 💫


- How can services be offered to everyone, not just the privileged? 💫


- Can trust be built on a platform despite personal reservations? 💫


- How can I preserve nuance in a world of ‘hot takes’ and character limits? 💫


- How do I help people understand the universally applicable concepts and interventions, theoretical orientations, frameworks, and approaches when I’m encouraged to pick a “target audience”? 💫


- Am I ready for “public consumption” & the inevitable critiques? 💫


- How do we, myself and clients, co-conspire/co-create navigating the intersections of healing & human potential? 💫


cocreation

11/04/2026

As a coach, I see patterns of self-abandonment, loss of personal power, the “over giving paradox”, and the never-good-enough-syndrome.

Hi, my name is Bethany and I am recovering from all of the above… I GET IT!

Ambitious women live in a “toxic trap” where the very traits that fuel their success—like attention to detail and high standards—become the weights that drag down their daily quality of life.

10 Things Every Ambitious Woman Secretly Battles

1. The “Push for Perfection” Trap

2. The Invisible “Mental Load”

3. Putting Wellness on the “Back Burner”

4. Fear of “Playing Small” vs. Being “Too Much”

5. The “Guilt-of-No” Trap

6. The Difficulty of Delegating

7. The “Always-On” Performance Pressure

8. The Isolation of Success

9. The “Time Scarcity” Mindset

10. Negotiating Worth

Your ambition isn’t a burden—it’s your blueprint. Ready to build a life that feels as good as it looks?

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09/04/2026

(Part 1.) In February, I celebrated the four year anniversary of my business. I had no idea that it was going to break me open. I have no idea I would be confronted to practice my values in an even deeper way.

Yes, it took me to age 40 to deeply be honest with my beliefs about capitalism, colonialism, religious dogma, misinformation of s*x, intimacy, & relationships.

(Small town America. Not an excuse. Just a fact.)

I could be ashamed by this. Sure. Is that helping anyone? Nope.

Shadow shame is that deeply held belief that “I’m not good enough. I’m not lovable. Something is wrong with me.”

Been there. Done that.

Architect your ascent is 6 coaching sessions that I developed for me. Ha! If you want in on it, DM me.

05/04/2026

This is me unfiltered. I just got home from a workout. I’ve gained 15 pounds over the last few months. 10 years ago this would have put me into a complete tailspin, avoiding the camera & social situations.

Fast forward. Age 42. I’m proud of the inner work that allows life to live thru me. Instead of me using the metrics of society, I’m using MY metrics to live my life fully.

I’m not here to be pretty. I’m not here to beat myself up for weight gain as I go thru perimenopause. I’m not hear to judge myself or others.

I am here to do the work for me and my community.

I am here learn the delicate balance of healing & human potential.

I’ve been working 10 to 12 hours a day since September 2025. I’m tired. My mind-body-soul is. IN. IT... trying to help my clients navigate the storms of their lives amidst the social political landscape, while holding myself above water.

This is me practicing what I preach.

Authenticity.
Compassion.
Fierce love.
Embracing the messiness of life.
Persistence.
Wisdom.

10/02/2026

Part 3: Handcrafted Desire: Limited to Liberated

I began to create my own rituals for intimacy. This involved letting go of expectations, fears, and self-judgment. It involved slowing down and exploring sensory pleasure. I focused on somatic healing. I openly communicated fantasies to partners who hold space for me with curiosity. I discovered that delving deeper into my truth, traversing intimate terrain, and building lasting connections was my kryptonite....

http://lightingthepath.com/2026/02/09/part-3-handcrafted-desire-limited-to-liberated/

09/02/2026

Part 3: Handcrafted Desire: Limited to Liberated

I began to create my own rituals for intimacy. This involved letting go of expectations, fears, and self-judgment. It involved slowing down and exploring sensory pleasure. I focused on somatic healing. I openly communicated fantasies to partners who hold space for me with curiosity. I discovered that delving deeper into my truth, traversing intimate terrain, and building lasting connections was my kryptonite....

I began to create my own rituals for intimacy. This involved letting go of expectations, fears, and self-judgment. It involved slowing down and exploring sensory pleasure. I focused on somatic heal…

28/01/2026

Part 2: The Hidden Curriculum in S*x and Intimacy
Delving deeper into the impacts trauma has on the body-mind has given me a front row seat into my own challenges as an adoptee with hip dysplasia and respiratory issues. Wearing a brace for the first 6 months of my life and being placed daily in a childcare environment marked by violence and substance abuse significantly impacted my nervous system.
For me, hiding the fullest version of self was celebrated through public shaming, religious judgment and persecution, and cultural adoptions of harmful language and behaviors. The hidden curriculum conditioned me to believe my relationship to, within, and between s*x and intimacy needed to be quiet and subdued, omitted from medical and mental health conversations, and guided by the church or government.

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I have an eclectic taste in music. You can catch me dancing around the house to the Scissor Sisters, Sara Bareilles, Sofi Tukker, Ray Lamontagne, Florence and the Machine, Nahko and Medicine for th…

28/01/2026

Part 2: The Hidden Curriculum in S*x and Intimacy

I have an eclectic taste in music. You can catch me dancing around the house to the Scissor Sisters, Sara Bareilles, Sofi Tukker, Ray Lamontagne, Florence and the Machine, Nahko and Medicine for the People, or my new favorite Soca Playlist. I am also a fan of reggae. Ziggy Marley said it best, “If you keep hiding your true self, your life becomes like slow death....

I have an eclectic taste in music. You can catch me dancing around the house to the Scissor Sisters, Sara Bareilles, Sofi Tukker, Ray Lamontagne, Florence and the Machine, Nahko and Medicine for th…

06/01/2026

Growing up in a conservative town, with shame-based beliefs, and the facade of connection, I thought I was broken. I could not figure out why I had desires and longings. I did not understand why I wanted physical closeness. I was so preoccupied by honest, non-judgmental connection... the religiocentric culture was the only way to build and keep relationships. So, obeying those explicit and implicit rules was the primary way to be “accepted”. Hiding parts of myself were essential.

Writing about my experience has been cathartic and healing. Read more below…

S*x, intimacy, and connection have been a central theme in my life for 20+ years. Growing up in a conservative town, with shame-based beliefs, and the facade of connection, I thought I was broken. …

15/12/2025

So excited to start yet another certification.

15/12/2025

I got accepted!! 👏

I begin my S*X THERAPY certification program in February. 🎉📚