17/05/2023
“You’re so emotional.” If you identify as an empath or as sensitive, chances are high you’ve been told that MANY times.
I know I have!
And, as an empath, I would easily absorb those words as true. So for a long time I thought I was too emotional - I did not identify as being “anxious”.
Fast forward to learning all about trauma and realizing that my empathic GIFT is feeling.
But feeling your feelings is uncomfortable and unsafe if the receiver rejects them, gaslights you, or becomes defensive every time you express them.
So you learn to “overthink” your emotions - to process them, to attempt to metabolize and release them through your mind, even though they’re still stuck in your body. And if those feelings stay in the body too long, they can wreak havoc on it (it was IBD and infertility and anorexia for me).
If you were to fully feel the emotions in your body, if the old trauma stories that your feelings are invalid are not on repeat in your mind - you’d be amazed at how quickly emotions come and go, quite gently.
But the thinking about how you’re feeling, trying to change it, wondering why, what to do about it, what will they think (etc) causes *attachment* to the feeling and it will stay as long as it takes for you to acknowledge and Love it.
Trauma release is that. It is quieting the mind and opening the heart enough to go into the body, identify the stuck emotions, and allow them to pass.
You don’t even have to talk about what happened, if you don’t want to.
This is the magic of Loving presence. Love just is. It receives. It allows. Your entire being is welcome in Love. Even all those beautiful feelings of yours.
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