
02/19/2023
When someone you care about won't do what you want, it can be frustrating and challenging. Here are some things you can consider:
Ask clearly: Ask for what you want in the form of a question. "Would you please...?" Don't use statements because a statement is not really asking and don't ask in the form of a complaint. 'I do everything around here and you do nothing,' is not a request. Do you really have to ask? Yes!
Listen to the other person's perspective: Try to understand the other person's point of view and why they might not want to do what you're asking. Listening to their concerns and opinions can help you find common ground.
Be respectful: Common courtesy goes a long way. Avoid being snarky or rude. Instead, approach the situation respectfully. Being respectful can help defuse tension and make it easier to find a solution that works for both of you.
Keep it win/win: If one of you loses, neither one wins. Keep looking until you find a middle ground that you both can agree on.
If all else fails, consider letting it go: If you feel stuck, consider if it's really worth holding onto. Accepting differences can be a healthy way to move forward and avoid unnecessary stress and tension. You can't control another person's actions but you can focus on finding alternatives to achieve your goals.