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Master all of your relationships. What are natural principles? Natural principles come from nature and have been a part of our makeup from the beginning of time.

No matter what type of relationship you’re in, whether it’s parent/child, romantic, or work-related, your relationship is governed by natural principles because, YOU are governed by natural principles and so is everyone else. Similar to instincts, these principles tend to govern the way human beings behave. They are underlying factors as to why we feel happy, fulfilled, anxious, or lonely. By understanding what is natural for a person, you can work in harmony with them. When we don’t understand what is natural, we are more likely to make mistakes. For almost twenty years, people have been coming to me when they need help. They come when their spouse is leaving them, when their kids won’t listen, or when they are unhappy in their life and need a change. The way I help every person is unique to their situation, but the paradigm I use is always the same. I use Natural Principles. It is my hope that by sharing these principles with you, you will have a road map that can keep your relationships strong as well as guide you in knowing what to adjust when you run into trouble.

01/23/2026

Conflict is inevitable. But disconnection doesn’t have to be permanent.
We all say the wrong thing sometimes. Or shut down. Or overreact. What matters isn’t whether you make a mistake — it’s whether you know how to repair it.
Repair isn’t about finding the perfect words or delivering a polished apology. It’s about being honest. Owning your part without explaining it away. Acknowledging the impact of your behavior — even if your intention was different. And showing, through action, that you’re willing to rebuild what was strained.
This is a skill. Not a personality trait.
Research from the Gottman Institute shows that the success of a relationship isn’t measured by the absence of conflict — it’s measured by the ability to repair after conflict. The couples who stay connected aren’t the ones who never fight. They’re the ones who know how to come back together afterward — with humility, empathy, and accountability.
You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be willing.
This is one of the core skills I teach in my courses — how to repair after conflict in a way that restores trust instead of leaving both people walking on eggshells.
What does repair look like in your relationships?

01/22/2026

Ever poured energy into fixing something—only to realize it didn’t actually solve anything? That’s what happens when we focus on the symptom instead of the root.
Maybe you argue about chores, but the real problem is appreciation. Maybe the fight is about a late text, but the deeper issue is trust. Research on relationship problem-solving shows that identifying the underlying issue is essential to lasting change.
Before reacting, pause and ask: What’s really driving this conflict? Sometimes it’s not about what happened in the moment, but what it represents.
When you solve the right problem, (the ingredient) you create peace. When you solve the wrong one, (the topic) you just set the stage for another round of the same fight.
Healthy relationships aren’t built on fixing surface issues — they’re built on understanding the deeper needs beneath them.
If you’re ready to get to the root of your relationship challenges and start solving what really matters, visit NaturalRelationships.com.

01/21/2026

Love doesn’t flow well when your system feels on edge. You can care deeply and still feel shut down, distant, or reactive — not because the love isn’t real, but because you don’t feel safe.
Safety isn’t optional in relationships. It’s the foundation everything else stands on.
When you feel safe, you listen better. You speak more clearly. You respond instead of react. But creating that safety isn’t just an inside job. It’s also about how you show up for others. Your tone, your pace, your body language — these things can either open the door or quietly close it.
If your chest feels tight, your breath gets shallow, or you feel the urge to shut down or lash out — that’s your system asking for support. Maybe it’s a break. Maybe it’s a boundary. Maybe it’s just naming what’s happening.
And when you're grounded, not only do you feel it but the people around you feel it, too. It’s easier for them to soften, open, and trust.
What helps you feel safe in relationships and what are things you do to help others feel safe with you?

01/20/2026

📣 NEW COURSE: Never Fight Again
What if conflict didn’t have to tear you apart — but could actually bring you closer?
Most people were never taught how to resolve disagreements in a healthy way. So we yell. Or shut down. Or give in…
It doesn’t have to be that way.
In my self-study course Never Fight Again, I’ll show you exactly how to:
✅ Stay calm during conflict
✅ Be heard without fighting
✅ Repair trust after an argument
✅ Set boundaries without guilt
✅ And finally feel safe and respected in your relationship
This isn’t talk therapy. It’s a practical, step-by-step process based on what I’ve taught for 25+ years as a licensed marriage and family therapist.
You go at your own pace. And you don’t have to wait for the other person to change.
Real peace starts with new skills. And you can learn them.
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01/19/2026

If you’ve ever believed that broken trust is the end, you’re not alone — but here’s the truth: trust will be broken. A promise will be forgotten, a moment missed, or a word said in frustration. It’s not a matter of if it happens, but when, how often, and how severely. That’s part of being human.
Just like riding horses — if you ride long enough, you’re going to fall off. The real question isn’t if you’ll fall; it’s how hard, how much damage, and how well you recover.
Trust is built through consistency — and that consistency creates either positive trust or negative trust, depending on what people learn to expect from the interaction. When my horse, Fancy, was young, I fell off three times. She was ambitious, emotional, and easily overwhelmed at faster gaits. I remember wondering if I’d ever achieve my dream of riding her bridleless - if I couldn’t even stay on. The truth is, I wondered if I would die. Lol!
But over time, we got there. It took patience, repetition, and mutual trust in each other. Each calm, predictable interaction helped us both feel safe.
Because trust isn’t just about them. It’s also about how much you trust yourself — to stay calm, to recover, and to handle what happens next. In fact, what most people think is trusting others, is actually a reflection of us trusting ourselves.
Learn how to rebuild trust — in yourself and others — step by step at NaturalRelationships.com.

01/17/2026

Horses don’t need yelling. They need clarity. A whisper with intention is more powerful
than a shout with frustration.

It’s the same in relationships. Raising your voice doesn’t make people hear you better—it
usually makes them shut down. What really calms conflict is clarity. When you speak simply
and directly, without blame or noise, people feel safe enough to listen.

Think about it: have you ever tuned someone out because they were yelling? And have you
noticed how much easier it is to hear someone who speaks calmly but with intention?

Clarity builds trust. Loudness builds walls.

If you want a step-by-step program that teaches you how to communicate with calm, clear
confidence—so your words land instead of backfiring—you’ll find it at
NaturalRelationships.com.

How can you be more clear in your communication—without raising your voice?

01/16/2026

When something feels off in a relationship, many people assume they just need to talk it out—and some are prepared to talk for hours.
But more words don’t necessarily bring more clarity. Often, they bring more chaos.
When emotions run high, extra talking can make things worse. We flood each other. We repeat ourselves. We say things we don’t mean. And instead of resolving the issue, both people walk away more frustrated than before.
The problem isn’t always a lack of words — it’s the quality of the words. The tone. The timing. The delivery.
Good communication isn’t about saying more. It’s about saying things more clearly. More kindly. More slowly.
Research in high-stakes communication has shown that when people pause, lower their voice, and speak with intention, the listener's brain is more likely to stay regulated and receptive. This isn’t just theory — it’s biology. And it’s true in all kinds of relationships.
Here’s what usually works better than talking more:
Shorter sentences
Slower pace
Thoughtful pauses
“I” statements when sharing how you feel
Simple requests like “From now on, would you please…”
Less pressure. More patience.
Talking better takes practice. But it’s worth it. Because when your communication improves, your connection often does too.
These are the kinds of skills I teach in my courses — how to talk so others can actually hear you, and how to keep connection intact even in conflict.
What’s one thing you could say more clearly today — in fewer words?

01/15/2026

Emotional closeness isn’t built in grand gestures; it’s built in the everyday moments.
Like caring for a horse or a garden, it’s the daily attention that makes something thrive.
Start with presence. Put away distractions and give your full attention, even for a few minutes. True closeness comes from being fully with someone, not half there while scrolling through your phone.
Next, express appreciation. Research shows that gratitude strengthens relationships, and it doesn’t have to be complicated. A simple, “Thank you for making dinner,” or “I love how you make me laugh,” nourishes connection more than you might think.
Touch is another powerful builder of closeness. A hand on a shoulder or even sitting close communicates safety and belonging.
Closeness also grows when you share yourself. That doesn’t mean spilling everything, but letting your partner in on your inner world — your hopes, your worries, your ideas. Authenticity is the soil where intimacy grows.
Finally, laugh together. Playfulness is often overlooked, but joy creates resilience. Couples who laugh together feel safer and stronger.
Emotional closeness isn’t complicated; it’s cultivated through small, consistent acts of care.
If you want to deepen connection and bring warmth back into your relationship, visit NaturalRelationships.com.

01/14/2026

You don't have to wait for the other person to change. And you don't need to overhaul everything at once.
If a pattern keeps repeating — the same fight, the same withdrawal, the same stuck feeling — try shifting just your part -even slightly. You might be surprised at how quickly the dynamic begins to shift. This isn't about blame or taking responsibility for another person’s behavior. It's about recognizing your influence. You have more than you think.
Sometimes the smallest shifts create the biggest changes. One new response. One pause. One boundary. One clear sentence. That might be all it takes to interrupt the old pattern and create space for something new.
The pattern that felt so fixed and unchangeable can suddenly feel hopeful again. Have you ever made a small change — and seen the whole interaction go differently?

01/12/2026

If you’ve ever thought, “If they really loved me, they’d change,” you’re not alone — but that’s not how change works.
People don’t transform just because someone else wants them to; they change when they want to, when they’re ready, and when they feel safe enough to try. Love can inspire change, but it can’t force it.
As counterintuitive as it may seem, real opportunity for change begins with acceptance — valuing someone as they are, not as you wish they’d be. And sometimes, they may not be the only one who needs to change. Because relationships are relational — what one person does always has some affect on the other. Things might start to improve not because they changed, but because you did — in your tone, your boundaries, or your reactions.
I’ve worked with populations that many would consider difficult to change — at-risk teens and men in prison. Yet many of them did change, and not for me. They changed when they were given an environment that supported growth, and because something inside them wanted better.
If you want someone to change for you, I’d invite you to consider something much more powerful — and within your control. Start by you changing for you.
Learn how to create healthy, lasting change — step by step — at NaturalRelationships.com.

01/10/2026

If you chase a horse, they’ll run. But if you center yourself, get still, and become inviting,
they’ll often come to you.

The same is true in relationships. When you chase after love, attention, or reassurance, it
usually pushes people further away. Desperation feels heavy. Pressure makes people
retreat.

But when you show up with confidence, calm, and clarity, something shifts. People feel safer
around you. They relax. And often, they draw closer without being pushed.

This doesn’t mean you stop caring—it means you stop gripping so tightly. You give the
relationship space to breathe. You trust that what’s real doesn’t have to be forced.

True connection isn’t about chasing someone down. It’s about becoming the kind of steady,
grounded presence that others want to move toward.

If you want a step-by-step program that teaches you how to build this kind of calm, steady
confidence—piece by piece, moving from tension and chasing to trust and closeness—you’ll
find it at NaturalRelationships.com.

When have you seen someone come closer because you stopped chasing?

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