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Closure resides in the truths you already know, not in the answers you seek

11/24/2025

March 31, 2021
I ended the relationship. He agreed. We both said it was over. Mutual recognition that it wasn’t working.
But surprise… it didn’t stay over. 😒

He talked circles around me until I let him stay. Looking back it’s pretty clear why: he didn’t have anywhere else to go. The suspicion was already pretty solidified in my head. Honestly it still feels true.

At that point I was just trying to make it through the semester. I even failed one of my classes because instead of focusing on school, I was stuck monitoring his behavior, in person and on his phone, just to try and keep myself sane.

11/22/2025

Spring 2021 - It was peak COVID. I was taking my college classes at home, and instead of focusing on school, I found myself constantly worried about whatever he was doing behind my back. Turns out, for good reason.

During one of my video meetings for class, I got a message from a random Facebook account. Flirty, pushy, and very obviously not legit. When I stepped away from my desk, I realized that when I replied to the message, his phone went off. I could literally see him through the window responding as this ‘mystery person.’ 🫩

He had this habit of trying to set people up, make it look like they were doing things they weren’t. I kept telling the fake account that I had a boyfriend, but apparently even responding at all was enough to start a whole new round of drama.

It started feeling like he wanted a fight or an excuse to walk away guilt-free. If he could make it look like I cheated, then he wouldn’t have to feel bad about what he was doing.
The problem for him was simple: I didn’t cheat. And the setup didn’t stick. He couldn't stand that so sh*t escalated again.

11/02/2025

By that point, it was the same fight on repeat. Him accusing me of sleeping with everyone within a ten-mile radius 🙄. I still hadn’t even been nice to anyone else, much less hook up.

So one day in May 2021, we weren’t on great terms but still ended up at the dock, fishing off the back of the shrimp boat we worked on at the time. The boss walks up to talk about boat stuff and the ice machine. I went to the car to grab my coat… and that’s when R decided to open his lying mouth.

Later I found out that while I was away for those few minutes he’d started talking trash to the boss out of nowhere. Telling him, ‘me and her are arguing right now,’ and, ‘just wanted to let you know because me and you are friends.’ 🤦‍♀️ WTF?! Why?!

When I confronted him about it, he tried to downplay it. He wanted credit for mentioning that I wanted to keep my job. He brushed over it so quickly that the boss didn’t even hear it. 😒

10/31/2025

December 2020 through May 2021
It was just a constant cycle of fighting, breaking up, and pretending to start over. I was actually enrolled in college that spring, trying to do something good for myself and finish my degree. Which gave him time to do his usual shady sh*t. 😡

One time while I was in the middle of class, he messaged me from a fake Facebook account flirting with me, telling me to “ditch my man and get with him” 😒 Like I wouldn’t figure out it was him. But when I busted him red handed he kept using it against me as if it was a real thing and not something he fabricated. I have screenshots of it.

It was definitely a “WTF” moment.
That’s the level of manipulation I was dealing with while just trying to learn something and pass my classes.

Looking back, that should’ve been the 100th final straw. But when you’re in it, you just keep hoping they’ll finally be who they claim to be. But it doesn’t work that way. They are who they show themselves to be. That’s it. It’s that Simple.

10/28/2025

November-December 2020-

The month of November was when I started to really put pieces together. Things that didn’t add up suddenly started making way too much sense. Let’s just say one of the things I found out was that he’d been living a double life, and not in the “other woman” kind of way. It was deeper, darker, and way more disturbing than I ever expected. That discovery made me feel sick.

After spending 30 days in jail for stealing my iPad and blasting my private life online, he moved in with a friend of his, well call him ‘HT’. He also reached out to me. I won’t say I’m proud for answering, but I had questions. I wanted closure and I wanted to understand ‘wtf’ and ‘why’.

I got none of that, instead he came out swinging with accusations. He wanted to know who I’d been talking to while he was locked up, and he swore I’d ‘talked sh*t’ and spread lies about him. The worst thing was that he didnt ask me questions respectfully, he INSISTED that i had slept with a bunch of people.
The truth? I didn’t sleep with anyone else the entire time we were together.
He finally admitted (years later) that he cheated on me with 3 others within the first year of us being together, but we’ll get to that.

I didn’t talk bad about him to anyone, either. I just listened to the people who started telling me what he had been saying about me since day one. Of course, he denied all of it. But by then, I trusted strangers more than I trusted him.

Throughout December I was walking on eggshells, just trying to get answers and clear my name. He wouldn’t hear a word I said. Everything went in one ear and out the other. He’d twist my words, talk over me, and double down on the same tired accusations.

After the incident in July the violence wasn’t directly aimed at me but that would change soon. He took it out on my car, my property, my peace of mind. Every day was filled with constant noise, chaos, lies, and emotional whiplash.

10/17/2025

Incident #2 – The iPad
Late October to Early November 2020

For a week or two, he’d been “borrowing” my old phone. I thought it was harmless. I had no idea he’d been snooping through it. Then one night, after an argument, he left. And he took my iPad.

That same night, he used what he’d found in my old phone to fuel his jealousy. He made a fake Facebook account under my name with explicit photos. It went public. People I knew saw it before I even knew it existed.
He also sent group texts to everyone in my contacts, including people at a new job I’d just started. I was fired immediately.

The police saw the activity happening in real time while I was standing right there. They tracked him down and arrested him.

The audio from that night shows him accusing me of things that made zero sense. I'm still not completely sure whether he believed his own bs or if he was trying to gaslight me. Either way, it showed exactly how manipulative and dangerous he was, and I will never forget what he did.

09/25/2025

⚠️ Content Warning: This post contains descriptions of physical violence and threats. Please take care while reading.

Incident #1 — July 2020: First Physical Assault

Context:
Both of us were fresh out of divorces. Mine was finalized in Oct 2019, his within the month before this incident. Money was tight, and I had just sold my wedding band from my previous marriage. It was emotional and painful for me, but instead of offering support, he focused on the endless drama with his ex and kids. (Red flag #1: no empathy for what I was going through, only his obsession with his past relationship.)

What happened:
I called him selfish and went to the bedroom, he followed me. He got on top of me, choking me and saying he was going to break my neck.
But I fought back! I hot him off of me, kicked him in the head, and got him in a choke hold. He was saying things like “I’m about to pass out, stop, please I give up.” That moment sticks with me: I stayed clear-headed enough to defend myself, and I refused to let him keep control.
I told him to leave. He refused. I retrieved my firearm and fired one round into the ground as a warning then he left.

Aftermath:
Police were called, and I have the report. He was arrested, spent two days in jail, and then was released on his own recognizance. Whether or not he really had a “judge friend,” as he claimed, the fact remains: he was violent, I defended myself, and the system let him walk.

Pattern note:
This was the first physical assault, and it set the tone for what would become a repeated cycle of violence, deflection, denial, and cruelty. It wasn’t a one-off “fight.” It was an abusive pattern that escalated quickly and I documented as much as I could.

09/23/2025

This page isn’t about pity, revenge, or “poor me.” It’s about truth.

For too long, what actually happened has been buried under lies, denial, and manipulation. I’m not here to argue with anyone, I’m here to document. Every post on this page comes with receipts — dates, screenshots, statements, and facts.

Why? Because silence protects abusers, and distortion destroys trust. Sharing the truth matters, not just for me, but for anyone who has been told their reality didn’t exist.

What you’ll see here is not a single bad night or one mistake. It’s a clear pattern of abuse, gaslighting, and cover-up. This page is my way of putting the truth in one place where it can’t be twisted or erased.

Read it like evidence, not like a diary. I’m not asking for sympathy, I’m asking for awareness.

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