The Guiding Light Intuitive Life Coaching

05/07/2025

A short read for all of you parents that will be reuniting with your college kiddos ❤️

We packed up college kid number one this week after a pretty solid freshman year. We told her to work hard, be safe, and have fun, and that she did.

As most kids do when they leave the nest, she grew up so much. She was challenged by her classes. She met new people. She learned how to navigate a new place.

But she also had to figure things out. Like how to take care of her physical and mental health and how to set personal boundaries and when to walk away from a dangerous situation.

As I listened to her tell me story after story, it was like I was getting to know her for the first time. It was scary to listen to some of the precarious situations she had been in, heartwarming to hear how she looked out for her friends, and nostalgic for some of my own past experiences.

And then two hours into a 10.5 hour drive, she said, "So what's for dinner tonight?" And my baby was sitting beside me again.

The best advice I received from a fellow mom about how to manage college kid re-entry was this: "They will be exactly the same and totally different. Love and accept every piece of them while they're figuring out how to put all these pieces of their puzzle together for one full human."

Sometimes this can be hard. You may not like their new interests, their new independent behavior, their challenging your norms. But remember, they're trying to figure out who they are outside of your home, and sometimes it takes longer for some than others.

Set boundaries and house expectations as soon as they get home so you're on the same page. Get to know the new person sitting at your table. Celebrate another year come by.

We raise them up, but it's their life to live.

Loving them hard means loving them for the new person they are becoming and for the memories of who they once were.

But loving them through it all is the only thing that matters.

xoxo,
Whitney Fleming Writes

05/04/2025

Food for thought…💜

Last year at a graduation party, I watched as guest after guest asked a young boy where he was headed to college after graduation.

Each time, he sheepishly replied, "I'm taking a year off to work to save money, and after that, I'm not sure."

People responded differently each time. "Well, don't put it off too long." Or, "Maybe you could just take a class or two." Or even, "Oh. Interesting."

Then one of my mom friends came over and asked the young man this: "Are you doing anything fun after graduation?"

And his face lit up. He talked about traveling cross-country with his dad to visit 10 baseball stadiums and starting his new job at a big retail chain. He openly told her that he was also taking the summer to figure out if he thought college was right for him because he struggled in high school.

As graduation season comes closer, and I received my first invitation to a party, I keep thinking about the young man and the awkwardness he felt that day, answering question after question about something that did not pertain to him, making him feel less than his peers and uncomfortable.

I resolved at that moment to stop asking seniors, "Where do you want to go to college?" and instead use my friend's line instead: "Do you have any fun plans after graduation?"

If a young person wants to share if they are going to a college or any other plans, I'll leave it to them, but I don't want to be the reason they feel bad about their choice.

Let's normalize that college isn't for everyone.

Let's congratulate them on whatever choices they make for themselves.

Let's celebrate the young people who make the best decisions for their unique needs.

Let's take the pressure off of what's next and instead ask about something fun.

Let's stop thinking there's only one path to success.

The graduation season is coming fast, and many teens are stressed about their future plans.

Let's try to celebrate where they are at this moment instead of putting pressure on what they are going to do next.

Love hard.

04/25/2025

04/07/2025

She did it!!! PENN STATE here she comes!!💙🤍 Emma, we couldn’t be more proud of you and all that you have accomplished in life. You have worked so very hard throughout your life balancing school, endless days and nights of dance, soccer, volunteering, friends and of course family. All of your time, dedication and hard work has paid off to get you into the school of your dreams!👏🎉🙏 I wanted to share our pride, happiness and love for you as we congratulate you on your commitment to Penn State University School of Engineering!
Dad may not have had any boys, but atleast he got a football school!! 🏈 🙌 💙🤍

Although my heart aches, my tears don’t stop flowing😢😔 and I’m somewhat in denial that this is all happening🥺, the pride and joy we have watching you grow and achieve your dreams, is endless and makes it all worthwhile. Keep shining, keep smiling and making us proud Go get em my Emmalina Ballerina…we can’t wait to see what the future holds for YOU! 💙🤍💙🤍

One twin down, one to GO!! 🎉

12/18/2024

This has been a common topic for me with clients, and moreover, for everyone at one point or another in life...So I'll share one more to support my prior post for all of you who needed it. ♥️

Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory?

I’ll tell you the more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships. Even family can mistreat and disrespect you.

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people. I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected.

Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you,
Let them ignore you.
Let them be "right."
Let them doubt you.
Let them not like you.
Let them not speak to you.
Let them run your name in the ground.
Let them make you out to be the villain.
Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!
Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. They just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. They did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel.
The end.
Let them go.

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go.

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go.

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.

If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.
You are in control of that.

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.

Let them go.
🫶🏻
✍️ Mel Robbins

12/18/2024

There is a quote that has been passed around that says "When people leave you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you, and it doesn't mean they're bad people. It just means their role in your story is over." " These words remind us of a truth that we often forget - that not everyone who comes into our lives is meant to stay forever. People come into our lives for different reasons, to teach us lessons, to share experiences or walking with us through certain seasons. But when they leave, it's important to recognize that their part in our journey has been fulfilled, and our paths must now diverge. Holding on to those who are meant to leave only delays your growth and prevents you from moving into the fullness of your own destiny.It's not about rejecting or blaming the person who leaves, but rather understanding that your story continues beyond the chapter Sometimes their exit gives way to new opportunities, deeper connections, and the discovery of new aspects of yourself. Letting go isn't always easy, but it's essential to moving on to the next stage of your life. This does not diminish the importance of the relationship you once shared. Every encounter has value, shaping who you are and helping you grow. But when someone leaves, it's a sign that your journey is no longer aligning. Their departure doesn't make them a villain in your life story, just someone whose role has come to a natural end. When you release the weight of the departed, you create space for the people meant to stay and enrich your life in meaningful ways. Giving up is not an act of giving up; it's an act of acceptance - embracing the flow of life, understanding that not everyone is meant to accompany you to every destination. Remember, your destiny is yours. No one can take it from you, and no one else can walk the path that has been laid out for you. So when someone leaves, trust there is a greater cause and it will ultimately be for your highest good. They were part of your story, but now the rest is there for you to write. The next step of your journey awaits you with open arms...look forward and don't look back.💫💜🙏🏻

12/05/2024

12/05/2024

Patience visited me
And it reminded me
That good things take time to come to fruition
And grow slowly with stability

Peace visited me
And it reminded me
That I may remain calm through the storms of life
Regardless of the chaos surrounding me

Hope visited me
And it reminded me
That better times lay ahead
And it would always be there to guide and uplift me

Humility visited me
And it reminded me
That I may achieve it
Not by trying to shrink myself and make myself less
But by focusing on serving the world and uplifting those around me

Kindness visited me
And it reminded me
To be more gentle, forgiving and compassionate toward myself
And those surrounding me

Confidence visited me
And it reminded me
To not conceal or suppress my gifts and talents
In order to make others feel more comfortable
But to embrace what makes me happy

Focus visited me
And it reminded me
That other people’s insecurities and judgements about me
Are not my problem
And I should redirect my attention
From others back to me

Freedom visited me
And it reminded me
That no one has control over my mindset, thoughts and wellbeing
But me

And love visited me
And it reminded me
That I need not search for it in others
As it lies within me.
-unknown
💜💙💜

11/26/2024

Some extra Love from my "Happy" Clients! 💕💕🙏🏻🙏🏻
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