Awaken Coaching and Consulting

11/28/2025

10/16/2025

09/26/2025

If you’ve spent your life people-pleasing, putting others first, afraid to disappoint—know this: you weren’t weak. You were surviving. Fawning is what you learned when being yourself didn’t feel safe.

You said “yes” when you wanted to scream “no.” You stayed small so others could be comfortable. You forgot what you needed, because tuning into others felt safer.

But the truth is—your needs matter. Your voice matters.
You don’t have to earn love by disappearing.

Healing starts when you turn inward.
When you ask: What do I feel? What do I want?
And you believe those answers are enough.

Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s self-respect.
Saying “no” isn’t rejection—it’s reclaiming.

You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to be whole.

Come back to you. You’ve always been worth it.

09/18/2025

Hi friends!
If you get a request to join a Facebook group that I run, you can ignore and decline (unless you want to!). Facebook sends these out automatically on my business pages behalf. 🙂

08/26/2025

Need Coaching? It’s available to you! We offer: ❤️

- one session advice
- conflict resolution
- weekly or bi-weekly attachment based coaching program to help get you secure
- 2 or 4 hour intensives.
- couples coaching based on attachment
- education on communication
- help with boundaries
- support through breakups and divorce
- parenting advice based on attachment
- personality assessments and education
- narcissistic abuse recovery coaching
- insurance not accepted but can provide a receipt of payment for HSA

Unsure? Questions? Please reach out!

Make an appointment via text at 615-497-1067 or click the link below! You do not have to suffer alone. 🩷🩷

08/19/2025

How did we lose the ability to respect our boundaries? Or never learn them at all?

A few things.

Cultural socializing, as well as enmeshed family dynamics.

In enmeshed family dynamics, children are encouraged to prioritize collective needs of the family or parents, rather than personal boundaries and needs. Often this leads to co-dependency. Enmeshed parents often share their own problems with their children, and the children learn to prioritize their parents needs and feelings. “ If mom or dad isn’t ok, then I’m not ok.”

This begins to blur the lines, of the child’s own personal identity. They begin to take on the parents needs and feelings as their own. This causes unnecessary stress and suffering for the child.

This behavior then gets carried into adulthood with romantic partners, friendships, and then passed down to children.

Learning to tune into oneself often seems so foreign to these adult children. When I ask them what their needs are, they often have no clue. But they can tell you what everyone else’s are. This is one of the first steps I teach my attachment coaching clients! They report it feels freeing to learn these for the first time, ever!

If you’re ready to dive deep, and learn how to set healthy boundaries, reach out! I’d be honored to help you in this journey!

Xoxo
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08/05/2025

https://parentingscience.com/strange-situation/

Researchers use the Strange Situation procedure to measure attachment in young children. How does it work, and how can we raise secure kids?

07/31/2025

🔍 How to Identify Incompatibility Early in Relationships:

1. Observe How You Handle Conflict

• Do you both feel heard and respected during disagreements?
• Is one of you always apologizing or giving in to keep the peace?
• Early red flag: constant tension or avoidance of real issues.

2. Have the “Big Talks” Early

Ask questions like:

• What are your long-term goals (career, family, location)?
• How do you view money, religion, parenting?
• What does commitment mean to you?

⚠️ If your visions are fundamentally different, don’t ignore it hoping one of you will change.

3. Check for Emotional and Communication Fit

• Can you be vulnerable with each other?
• Do you feel safe expressing needs without fear of being judged or dismissed?
• Do your emotional rhythms (e.g., need for closeness vs. space) align?

4. Look at Lifestyle Compatibility

• How do you spend your free time? Social life?
• Are your habits, routines, and energy levels compatible?
• Are your values on health, work ethic, and family responsibilities aligned?

5. Notice How You Feel Around Them

• Are you walking on eggshells?
• Do you feel drained more than energized?
• Do you often feel misunderstood or unfulfilled?

🛠️ How to Work Through Incompatibility (If You’re Already In It)

Not all incompatibility is fatal—but it depends on what kind and how both people respond.

1. Name It Honestly

• Use calm, direct language to express the specific friction.
• Example: “I feel like we want very different things in life, and I want to talk honestly about that.”

2. Assess If the Issue Is Negotiable

• Negotiable: Communication style, how chores are divided, time management
• Non-negotiable: Kids/no kids, core values, transparency issues, emotional or physical safety.

You can compromise on preferences. You can’t compromise on identity or values.

3. Get Outside Help if Needed

• Coaching or conflict-resolution tools can also help with more practical issues.

4. Don’t Rely on Potential

• If your partner’s core values or behavior are misaligned with yours, hoping they’ll change usually leads to resentment.

5. Know When to Let Go

• If the relationship consistently makes you feel small, misunderstood, or stuck—despite effort from both sides—it might not be the right fit.

✅ Quick Self-Check: Are We Fundamentally Compatible?

• Do we want the same future?
• Do we handle stress and conflict in compatible ways?
• Do we feel emotionally safe and seen with each other?
• Do we respect each other’s individuality and growth?
• Are our core values aligned?

Incompatibility comes down to something simple, but not easy; When you’ve communicated your needs to your partner, and are met with either a refusal to meet the need, or a lack of desire to even try, you’ve probably hit a wall and it may be time to evaluate if this relationship can fundamentally survive long-term. Please reach out if you need help working through existing conflict, we’re happy to help!

07/30/2025

You deserve to feel whole and healthy. What can attachment life coaching offer you?

- A place to feel heard and seen.
- A place to explore your patterns of attaching in relationships and be gently and compassionately challenged to grow.
- A place to find real solutions for communication blocks.
- A place to get to know yourself at your deepest level. To uncover why you do what you do, maybe for the first time in your life.

If you are curious if coaching could help you, reach out! We would be honored to help you.
Text 615-497-1067 or visit our website for pricing and availability.

07/29/2025

If you have struggled to set boundaries, and are a recovering people pleaser, people won’t always like the new boundaries you set for yourself. That’s ok! Do it anyways. It gets easier. 😊

07/28/2025

What couples sessions usually look like:
- everything gets blamed on poor communication
- ruminating about the past
- arguing during sessions, then arguing more at home.

What couples sessions look like when they are proactive, solution focused, and attachment based:
- learning you and your partners personality types
- learning your love languages, and putting them to use.
- learning you and your partners personality types era communication styles, and why this matters.
- learning you and your partners personality types are attachment wounds, and how to start healing those.
- learning you and your partners emotional needs, and how to start meeting those.
- learning how to ask for your needs to be met

Couples work should be solution focused, and about creating intimacy and connection, not ruminating on the past. If you’re ready to do the work, give me a call! Often, things turn around quicker than you think they ever could 🩷 Use the link in the comments to book now!