Awaken Coaching and Consulting

03/20/2026

Lets talk about communication. 🗣️

There are 3 types of conversations- informational, competitive, and connecting. Think hard about this. In your daily life, how many of the conversations you are having are connecting versus just informational? Or even competitive? Here's what they sound like:

• Informational conversations = exchanging facts (“Did you pay the bill?” “What time is the meeting?”)

• Competitive conversations = trying to be right, win, fix, or defend (“That’s not what happened…” “You always…” “Well I had it worse…”)

• Connecting conversations = trying to understand and be understood emotionally (“That actually stressed me out more than I expected…”)

So much of the time, we really believe when we sit down with our partners, we are connecting, but it's not landing the way we had hoped. Or maybe it even backfires. 🔥 😐

It's not your fault. Most of us have never learned proper connecting communication, or really learned communication at all. Most of us are simply repeating patterns we saw and heard in childhood.

There IS a better way and we can be heard and get our needs met. Honestly, with simple tweaks and practice.
If your conversations aren’t going the way you hoped… there’s a reason—and a better way.
Message me if you’re ready to learn. 🙂
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03/09/2026

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03/04/2026

Need Coaching? It’s available to you through this group! We offer: ❤️

- one session advice
- weekly or bi-weekly attachment based coaching program to help get you secure
- 2 or 4 hour intensives.
- couples coaching based on attachment
- education on communication
- help with boundaries
- support through breakups and divorce
- parenting advice based on attachment
- personality assessments and education
- narcissistic abuse recovery coaching
- insurance not accepted but can provide a receipt of payment for HSA

Unsure? Questions? Please reach out!

Make an appointment via text at 615-497-1067 or click the link below! You do not have to suffer alone. 🩷🩷

Awaken Life and Relationship Coaching offers Attachment Based Counseling and Couples Coaching. Enhance your connections and thrive in your relationships!

02/16/2026

A secure attachment (more accurately called secure attachment style) is a concept from attachment theory in psychology. It describes a healthy emotional bond between people — usually first between a child and caregiver, and later in adult relationships.

🔹 Secure Attachment in Children

A child with secure attachment:

Feels safe exploring their environment

Gets upset when a caregiver leaves

Is comforted when the caregiver returns

Trusts that their needs will be met

This develops when caregivers are consistently responsive, warm, and reliable. The care giver is attuned to the child's needs naturally, with empathy, curiosity, and responsiveness.

🔹 Secure Attachment in Adults

An adult with a secure attachment style:

Is comfortable with intimacy

Communicates openly

Trusts their partner

Handles conflict in a healthy way

Maintains independence while staying emotionally connected to others. In romantic relationships, a secure partner seeks inter-dependence with their partner.

🔹 Why It Matters

Secure attachment is linked to:

Higher self-esteem

Healthier relationships

Better emotional regulation

Lower anxiety in relationships

02/16/2026

Growth is hard- keep pushing past your current belief with curiousity

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02/14/2026

One of the biggest signs of growth- no longer entertaining the idea of proving your worth.

02/13/2026

02/10/2026

Today a client said something that stayed with me:

“Things have been hard before… but I feel different this time.”

From an attachment lens, that word different matters.

Different isn’t that the relationship suddenly feels easy.
Different is that she’s no longer organizing her safety around changing her spouse.

In the past, hard seasons may have activated protest, pursuit, self-abandonment, or hyper-focus on the other person. This time, the shift is inward. She’s learning to regulate her own nervous system. To get curious about her patterns. To stay connected to herself even when the relationship feels uncertain.

That’s the attachment pivot.

When we stop trying to secure connection by controlling or fixing others, and instead build internal safety, everything reorganizes. Reactivity softens. Boundaries clarify. Choices become intentional instead of fear-driven.

The situation may look the same on the outside.
But the person inside it is no longer the same.

And that’s the kind of “different” that changes everything.

That "different" is available to all who want it, and are willing to do the work to get it. It's true peace.

If you're curious about what that could look like for you- reach out. Email or text me and let's begin your journey to different.
Awakencoachingandconsulting@gmail.com

02/07/2026

Healing with boundaries usually feels quieter than people expect—and a little uncomfortable before it feels empowering. It’s less about building walls, and more about finally standing on solid ground. Your ground.

Here’s what it often looks like in real life:

🔴You pause instead of auto-reacting.
You notice the urge to explain, fix, or over give… and you don’t immediately do it. There’s a beat of silence where you check in with yourself first.

😎 Guilt shows up—but doesn’t run the show.
Early on, setting a boundary can feel “mean” or selfish. Healing is realizing the guilt is just an old alarm, not a moral truth—and letting it pass without backing down.

🤚 Your “no” gets simpler.
You stop over-explaining. Fewer paragraphs. Less emotional labor. Sometimes just: “I can’t do that.” And you don’t add a smiley face to soften it. :)

😥 You tolerate other people’s discomfort.
This is a big one. Healing means accepting that someone else can be disappointed, annoyed, or confused—and you don’t rush in to rescue them from those feelings.

👫 You notice who respects you. And who's there for YOU.
Some relationships deepen. Others get strained or fade. Healing is recognizing that this information is valuable, not a failure. You recognize who stays, when you stop over giving.

💜 Your body feels different.
Less tightness in your chest. Less resentment. Fewer “why did I agree to that?” moments. Boundaries often register in the nervous system before they feel logical.

😊 You choose alignment over approval.
You start making decisions based on what feels right to you, not what keeps the peace or earns love.

And maybe the clearest sign:
You trust yourself to handle the fallout.
Even if it’s awkward. Even if someone doesn’t like it. You know you’ll be okay. 🥰

If you need help to explore difficulty in setting healthy boundaries, reach out! Let's talk.

02/04/2026

Need attachment-based relationship coaching? Reach out!

02/03/2026

Hey friends!
Did you know when you discuss what you read, you actually retain more than if you just read alone?!

Good news! I am starting a virtual BOOK CLUB for attachment-based learning and growth!

I am excited to offer this, especially for this community! I have been a part of virtual book clubs over the years, and they are such an asset to healing. The community aspect is SO important for healing, learning, and growth.

Here is what it will look like:
* We will read 1 book a month together.
* We will use the app Marco Polo to discuss the book daily, weekly, or bi-weekly. (Depends on how fast you read and how much)
* There is no set schedule for you to follow, so NOT another task to check off.
* Safe space for you to discuss things with the community as they surface from reading.
* You may use video chat or voice recordings.
* Cost is $25 per month.
* All books will have a theme towards helping us towards secure attachment.
* This will be open to all of my community groups.
* Book suggestions welcome from members, but I pull from my library of client suggested reading.

I will be in the group daily or every other day giving my reflection from reading.

** You will be getting multiple different reflections from members on what you read, so different takes on the same reading.

Email me at: awakencoachingandconsulting@gmail.com
You may also text at 615-497-1067

Our first book will be Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.
You don't want to miss this!