Awaken Coaching and Consulting

02/04/2026

Need attachment-based relationship coaching? Reach out!

02/03/2026

Hey friends!
Did you know when you discuss what you read, you actually retain more than if you just read alone?!

Good news! I am starting a virtual BOOK CLUB for attachment-based learning and growth!

I am excited to offer this, especially for this community! I have been a part of virtual book clubs over the years, and they are such an asset to healing. The community aspect is SO important for healing, learning, and growth.

Here is what it will look like:
* We will read 1 book a month together.
* We will use the app Marco Polo to discuss the book daily, weekly, or bi-weekly. (Depends on how fast you read and how much)
* There is no set schedule for you to follow, so NOT another task to check off.
* Safe space for you to discuss things with the community as they surface from reading.
* You may use video chat or voice recordings.
* Cost is $25 per month.
* All books will have a theme towards helping us towards secure attachment.
* This will be open to all of my community groups.
* Book suggestions welcome from members, but I pull from my library of client suggested reading.

I will be in the group daily or every other day giving my reflection from reading.

** You will be getting multiple different reflections from members on what you read, so different takes on the same reading.

Email me at: awakencoachingandconsulting@gmail.com
You may also text at 615-497-1067

Our first book will be Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.
You don't want to miss this!

01/24/2026

What is Codependency and what the heck does it have to do with attachment?

Codependency is a relationship pattern where your sense of safety, worth, or identity gets tied to another person.

You feel responsible for other people’s emotions or problems.
You prioritize their needs while ignoring your own.
You fear conflict or abandonment, so you over-accommodate.
You get validation from being needed, helpful, or “the good one”.
You stay in unhealthy dynamics longer than you want to or know you should.

At its core, codependency isn’t about caring too much—it’s about needing the relationship to feel okay inside yourself.

Anxious attachment (what that is)
Anxious attachment is an attachment style formed early in life (often from inconsistent caregiving). It shows up as:
-Fear of abandonment or rejection
Hyper-sensitivity to changes in tone, availability, or behavior (Micro expressions)
-Strong desire for closeness and reassurance
-Rumination (“Did I do something wrong?” "Am I enough?)
-Feeling calm only when the relationship feels secure right now
-Anxious attachment is about how you bond and regulate emotions in relationships.

How they’re connected (but not the same)
Think of it like this:
Anxious attachment is the emotional wiring.
Codependency is a behavioral pattern that can grow out of it.
People with anxious attachment may develop codependent behaviors because:
Keeping others happy feels like survival
Losing connection feels physically distressing
Self-abandonment becomes a way to avoid abandonment by others

So you might see:
Over-giving to keep someone close
Difficulty setting boundaries
Staying in relationships that don’t meet your needs
Confusing intensity with intimacy
But important nuance 👇
Not everyone with anxious attachment is codependent, and not all codependency comes from anxious attachment. Trauma, family roles, addiction dynamics, and cultural conditioning can also lead to codependency.
The key difference
Anxious attachment: “I’m afraid you’ll leave me.”
Codependency: “I’ll lose myself to make sure you don’t.”

The hopeful part 🌱
Both are patterns, not personality flaws—and both are very workable. They are programs that we developed that are outdated and no longer useful.

Healing usually involves:
Learning self-soothing instead of outsourcing regulation. This takes time and practice!
Practicing boundaries without guilt
Building a sense of self that exists OUTSIDE relationships.
Understanding your own needs.
Being able to ask for your needs to be met.
Developing secure attachment behaviors over time.

If you resonate with this post, reach out! Let's talk and start working on a secure dynamic and a health sense of self!

01/21/2026

Wanted to share this quick and effective way to calm the nervous system!!! ♥️

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01/14/2026

Hi group members!

Would you like help individually outside of this group? Reach out! We offer:

- one session advice
- weekly or bi-weekly attachment based coaching program to help get you secure
- 2 or 4 hour intensives.
- couples coaching based on attachment
- education on communication
- help with boundaries
- support through breakups and divorce
- parenting advice based on attachment
- personality assessments and education
- narcissistic abuse recovery coaching
- insurance not accepted but can provide a receipt of payment for HSA

Unsure? Questions? Please reach out!

Make an appointment via text at 615-497-1067 or click the link below! You do not have to suffer alone. 🩷🩷

01/08/2026

Healing is truly a choice, and WE have to make that for ourselves, no one can make it for us. Time does NOT heal wounds, it buries them alive.

Join a small group of women, as we take 14 weeks and work on active healing together!

Week by week we will break down lies that keep us stuck, and begin replacing those lies with truth and tools to get unstuck for good!

* Group coaching has many benefits vs. one to one coaching.

* Small group allowing you to be vulnerable to share.

* $899 total for full 14 week program (Payment plan available if needed)

* LET GO of resentment, bitterness, and isolation from your divorce, breakup, betrayal, or trauma of any kind. ❤️

* We begin in 2 weeks!

* Daily and weekly accountability and support from your small group via Marco Polo.

* Weekly Zoom meets

*Group hosted by certified life and relationship coach.
Awaken Life and Relationship Coaching

Message me to signup! 🫶🏼❤️❤️ Tag a lady who needs this group ☺️

01/06/2026

01/04/2026

Ladies, it’s a new year and it’s time to be the best YOU!

Group Coaching Announcement 📣

Healing is truly a choice, and WE have to make that for ourselves, no one can make it for us. Time does NOT heal wounds, it buries them alive.

Join a small group of women, as we take 14 weeks and work on active healing together!

Week by week we will break down lies that keep us stuck, and begin replacing those lies with truth and tools to get unstuck for good!

* Group coaching has many benefits vs. one to one coaching.

* Small group allowing you to be vulnerable to share.

* $899 total for full 14 week program

* LET GO of resentment, bitterness, and isolation from your divorce, breakup, betrayal, or trauma of any kind. ❤️

* We begin in 2 weeks!

* Daily and weekly accountability and support from your small group via Marco Polo.

* Weekly Zoom meets

*Group hosted by certified life and relationship coach.
Awaken Life and Relationship Coaching

Message me to signup! 🫶🏼❤️❤️ Tag a lady who needs this group ☺️

01/01/2026

Happy New Year! ♥️

12/31/2025

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12/31/2025

Trust Through a Disorganized Attachment Lens 🧩

For disorganized attachment, trust isn’t confusing because you “don’t know what you want.”
It’s confusing because connection and danger were paired early on.

Your nervous system learned:
“I want closeness… but closeness doesn’t feel safe.”

So trust must be built slowly, clearly, and predictably.

Using the Cs of Trust:

🧠 Competence (Self-Regulation First)
Trust grows when you can pause instead of spiraling or shutting down.
You don’t need to be calm all the time—you need to be aware and responsible for your reactions.

🧭 Character (No Mixed Messages)
Disorganized attachment is deeply impacted by contradiction.
Trust forms when words, tone, and actions match consistently—not just during “good moments.”

🤍 Caring / Compassion (Gentle, Not Overwhelming)
Too much intensity can feel as unsafe as emotional absence.
Trust builds when care is steady, warm, and non-intrusive, with room to breathe.

🔁 Consistency (Safety Over Chemistry)
High chemistry without consistency often recreates old trauma bonds.
Your nervous system learns safety through boring reliability, not emotional highs.

🗣️ Communication (Clear + Repair-Focused)
Silence, ambiguity, or sudden withdrawal triggers fear responses.
Trust grows when conflict includes repair, reassurance, and clarity—not disappearance.

✨ Disorganized Attachment Truth:
If someone activates both longing and fear, your system will oscillate back and forth.
That’s not intuition—that’s trauma memory.

Trust isn’t about intensity.
It’s about predictability, repair, and emotional coherence.