The Relentless Lifestyle

10/10/2025

10/09/2025

It's and for the first time in forever, I missed it last week and this week is blah. A little bit of real talk thrown in with this weeks!

Stress has got the best of me and I guess I'm on the tail end of a cold or something which is fine....I rarely get one so I'm for that.

I could deal without the damn canker sores though (3 of these fu***rs). I'm NOT for those AT ALL. IYKYK.

But that all tracks with the amount of stress I've been under for a while now. Crazy how it manifests, huh? I can't imagine how much worse I'd be if I didn't prioritize my health on the regular.

We have had 4 surgeries in 11 months in this house and ongoing on issues with previous ones.

The girls are about to turn 16 so getting all their driving stuff done and looking for a car for them has been like a third job. But I NEED them to drive for my sanity.

We've had a lot of changes in our office set ups at the gym and home.

I'm pretty sure I'm in the throws of menopause or as we like to call it, 'cougar puberty' so that's been fun.

BUT, I am still thankful for my people, for my overall good health so I can take care of my damn family and knowing cooler temps are coming (right?! It's okay to lie to me).

How are things in your world? Like REALLY? What can I celebrate or commiserate with you about?

10/08/2025

I'm about to say something that'll p**s off every fitspo account...

That 23-year-old with abs posting about "no excuses" and "you just need to want it bad enough"?

She has NO business telling you how to lose weight.

I don't care how many followers she has. I don't care how good she looks in a sports bra. I don't care if she's "certified."

She has never been pregnant. She's never had her hormones hijacked by childbirth - let alone with twins.

She's never tried to meal prep while simultaneously making three different dinners because everyone in her house eats something different.

She's never woken up in a literal puddle of sweat at 3am wondering if this is just her life now.

She's never had to choose between her workout and attending her kid's game.

She's never felt the soul-crushing exhaustion of the mental load.

She's never had her body completely betray everything it used to do effortlessly.

Her metabolism is still running on rocket fuel. Her recovery is measured in hours, not days. Her sleep actually RESTORES her. Her body responds to a deficit like it's supposed to.

And yet she's out here telling YOU that you're just not disciplined enough? That you're making excuses? That if you REALLY wanted it, you'd find a way?

F**k. That.

Here's what she doesn't understand: You're not failing at her plan. Her plan is failing YOU.

You don't need more willpower. You don't need to "want it more." You don't need another 6-week shred program designed for someone whose biggest responsibility is remembering to water her succulents.

You need an approach that was actually built for your life. Your body. Your stage.
You need someone who understands that "just waking up earlier" isn't the answer when you were up three times last night for reasons you can't even control. That "just saying no to treats" isn't realistic when you're navigating your kid's birthday parties, team celebrations, and holiday dinners every other week. That your energy levels aren't a motivation problem - they're a HORMONAL problem.

I'm 44. I have twin teenagers. I've been where you are. And I can tell you with absolute certainty: The advice that worked for her will NOT work for you.

And honestly? It shouldn't have to.

You don't need to become a 23-year-old to get results. You need a plan that actually fits the woman you are RIGHT NOW.

So maybe stop following the girl with the ring light and the macro-counted bento boxes and start listening to someone who's actually lived in your body, your life, your stage.

Ready to try an approach that actually makes sense for your life? I'm here when you are.

10/08/2025

UNPOPULAR TRUTH 👏

Fat loss takes TIME. It’s unrealistic to expect fast results.

Pretty sure those extra 10–100 lbs didn’t appear overnight. 🙃

One week of clean eating & workouts isn’t going to yield major results. Hell, even a month won’t. The industry & influencers do a s**tty job advertising rapid weight loss, and it sets people up for failure.

It likely took years to reach your current state, and it will take TIME to restore balance.

I’m sick of hearing: “But I’ve been eating better and joined a class… shouldn’t I be seeing more weight loss?” No Judy. It’s been a month. You’ve treated your body like a dumpster fire for years.

Look at people who stay in shape or those who lost weight & kept it off for YEARS. They’ll tell you—it took a LONG time to build habits & it takes way more than a month or two to see lasting results.

Is it frustrating? Absolutely. Does that change anything? Nope.

Sound familiar? You crush it for a few weeks, then hit a plateau, quit, and say “what’s the point?”

Not-so-glam truth: Real changes take TIME.

This journey is never-ending. It’s NORMAL. Just because you don’t see changes doesn’t mean progress isn’t happening.

Think about the non-scale victories:

-better sleep
-more energy
-mental clarity
-improved libido
-fewer meds
-better mood
-more endurance

These. Things. Matter. If you focus on health instead of just the scale, the fat loss follows.

Moral: Check yourself, give grace & commit for the long haul.

And yes, if you’re on a GLP-1, I’m here for you too—because lasting change still takes work.

10/07/2025

👋👋 LISTEN UP 👋👋

We may be smiling here (well, one of us is) but trust me… this is what I want to do when I see people pushing garbage supplements.

Diet pills. Magical fat-burning collagen on a spoon. Patches. Wraps. Waist trainers. Fat burners. Carb-blockers. Detox teas.

💥 ALL. MARKETING. BU****IT. 💥

And they do. not. work.

Before you clutch your pearls and say, “But Bre, I took XYZ when I started working out and lost 10 pounds in a month!”

Well, Judy… newsflash:

✨ It wasn’t the supplement.
✨ You did NOT lose 10 pounds of fat in a month (unless you’re morbidly obese, and even then—eh).

Here’s what actually happened:
✨ You went from NOTHING to SOMETHING
✨ You stopped eating like an as***le
✨ You finally started moving your body

Of course you’re going to see quick results when you go from zero to consistent effort. DUH.

It’s NOT the magic pill, shake, or spoonful of unicorn dust.

Sure, you “feel more energy” — okay. That’s probably the caffeine buzz mixed with eating better, moving more and sleeping better. Guess what? Increased energy is a natural side effect of that, not the gimmick.

Stop wasting your money on crap that sounds too good to be true because it IS.
How many times have you seen these “miracle” products cycle through? How many have you tried? How many worked long-term?

Exactly.

Something is hot, then it fades, because it doesn’t deliver. Same as diets—they cycle in, they cycle out. They don’t last.

Stop overcomplicating this.
🥩 Eat real food.
🚶‍♀️ Move your freaking body.
🌞 Get some sunshine.
💧 Drink your water.
😴 Sleep like you mean it.

Prioritize those things and the rest gets a whole lot easier. Promise.

(Yes, there’s a time and place for GLP-1 or medical intervention—but that’s not what we’re talking about here. And most people don’t need that either. 😉)

Drop your favorite emoji if you’ve ever tried a “quick fix” weight loss gimmick or fad! 👇

10/03/2025

Happy Friday! It's Homecoming weekend - if you need me...well, don't. 😂

10/02/2025

S*E*X

Now that I’ve got your attention… let’s talk hormones, weight loss, and libido.

If you’re around my age (44. Not sure how that happened so quickly but I digress), you’ve probably noticed some changes that no one really warned us about. I’m not here to overshare or get into details (that’s private!), but I am here to be real. I will also save the women's lack of proper medical care and education talk for another day!

Here’s the truth most women don’t know:

1️⃣ Your libido will ebb and flow with your cycle—it’s higher around ovulation and lower before your period. That’s normal.

2️⃣ Hormones decline 1–2% every single year as we age. By your 30s, 40s, 50s—that adds up fast. No wonder it feels like you’ve hit a wall.

3️⃣ Having zero libido? That’s not just “part of getting older.” It’s a sign something is off.

4️⃣ If you’re struggling with both libido and weight loss—it’s not a coincidence. That’s your hormones raising their hand.

Why am I talking about this? Because that was me.

At 36/37, I went to my GYN because I had no desire for s*x and my husband was DONE. Like, I could’ve never had it again and been fine. He ran labs and told me everything was “fine” and “in range.” But I knew in my gut—it wasn’t right. While I still didn't care about the s*x piece, I did want to feel better and I knew my husband deserved better.

When I saw my wellness provider, he immediately caught what was missing: my testosterone was basically nonexistent. Combine that with birth control and my hormones were wrecked.

I ditched the BC, started a very low-dose HRT, and within a few months everything shifted—my libido, my energy, my sleep, my mood, even the stubborn weight. I felt like myself again.

I’m not saying my exact path is the one for you. But I am saying: if something feels off, don’t settle for “fine.” Advocate for yourself until you get real answers. You deserve to feel good in your body again. ❤️

10/01/2025

We hear “diet” and instantly think food. But honestly? Your diet is so much more than that.

It’s the shows you watch, the music you listen to, the books you read, the people you hang around. All of it feeds you in some way. *See yesterday's post

And just like with food, some of it will leave you feeling better… and some of it will leave you drained.

Lately, I’ve been paying more attention to what I allow in—mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Because at the end of the day, it all matters.

Something to think about: what are you “consuming” daily that’s actually stealing your energy instead of fueling it?

This is what The Relentless Lifestyle is all about—being intentional with the things that shape your health, inside and out. A reminder that the little things you consume daily matter more than you think.

09/29/2025

I shared this a couple years ago and it bears repeating. I do not and will not discuss politics on social media. An in person discussion though? Yes. My point? Don't even go there in the comments because I'll delete it. 😁

It’s no secret—I don’t watch the news. Like, ever. And before you roll your eyes, hear me out… this has everything to do with your health.

I’m not naive. I know what’s going on in the world. But I refuse to let the media dictate my mood, my choices, or the way I live my life.

Because here’s the truth: you can spot the people who do let it in. They live in fear. They carry a constant cloud of negativity. And that kind of stress? It’s toxic.

Is there chaos out there? Absolutely. 1000%.

Do I believe “they” (whoever “they” are) spin things to fit an agenda? 100%. Doesn’t matter which side you’re on—it’s all twisted to divide us, keep us angry, and make us think the world is only doom and gloom.

But you know what? That heaviness disappears when you turn off the damn news. Doesn't mean s**t isn't going down and we should turn a blind eye to things either. I'm talking about being IN IT all.damn.day.

Same goes for your social media feed.
👉 If it drains you—unfollow.
👉 If it makes you angry more than inspired—unfollow.
👉 If someone’s shoving their agenda down your throat—see ya.

Instead, go have real face-to-face conversations. You’ll find out we have way more in common than the internet wants us to believe. Most people are good. Most people want peace. And disagreements? Nine times out of ten, they can actually be worked out by talking, not hiding behind a screen.

Your opinion is shaped by your life experiences. Mine is shaped by mine. Neither one is fact. And that’s okay. We can disagree and still be kind. We can disagree and still be friends.

So why am I sharing this? Because health isn’t just about protein and workouts. It’s also about protecting your peace. Managing what you let in. Choosing what (and who) you give your energy to.

That matters for your health more than you think. 😉

09/26/2025

We’ve got it backwards.

People are legit scared to eat more than 2 eggs… or God forbid put butter on their steak.

Meanwhile, donuts, drive-thru “coffee” that’s basically liquid dessert, and packaged junk all day long? Totally normal.

Eggs aren’t wrecking your health. Butter isn’t the enemy. A steak isn’t the problem.

It’s the endless parade of processed crap we call “food” that’s draining your energy, wrecking your hormones, and keeping you stuck.

Stop blaming real food. Start looking at the junk you keep pretending doesn’t count.

👉 Swap ONE “fake” food for a real one today and watch how quickly things start to change.