Selfcare and Wellness with Dee

Selfcare and Wellness with Dee GiGi to a spunky 5 yo grandkid. I want to help others live healthier and happier. šŸ’•

06/05/2024

This!!!

I don't want to sit in circles where I have to strive to fit in.

I don't want to squeeze myself into small spaces that aren't meant for me.

I don't want to "tone down" my personality so I'll be liked.

I don't want to wear the right things or own the right things to feel like I belong.

I've done it all before and it left me empty and lonely.

I've realized that fitting in was never the same as belonging and that being in "that circle" was never worth sacrificing who I am.

Now I find spaces that have room for me to be me, and want you to know that when you sit by me, there's room for you to be you too.

03/25/2024

There will be seasons when you are a bad friend.

Hear me out.

In good, deep, friendships it's so important that we love well. It's so important that we give (even when we're tired) and we show up (even when we're busy). We talk about that all the time. Friendship requires investment.

But, sister, you are going to go through seasons where you can't.

You can't give in the way you'd like. You can't show up like you usually do. You can't fill needs that you wish you could. You can't meet expectations. You just can't. You're empty, dried up, tapped out, run ragged.

It will be hard, and some people will not understand.

Some people will be disappointed. (Woo, that's tough.)

But listen, you aren't anybody's savior. You're human and you're never going to be perfect (in fact your chock full of imperfections just like the rest of us). You have limits and sometimes you can't.

Sometimes you can't, even when people think that you should, and that's okay.

Rest up, and when you can again, I'll be cheering for you.

03/17/2024

This is SO IMPORTANT!!

IF YOU DO NOTHING ELSE, put a beneficiary on all of your financial accounts like checking savings CDs, Life Insurance, investments etc. You don't need a will for them to get to your money, just a death certificate. And make a list, preferably by hand instead of your computer, either give it to your trusted person, spouse or put it in your security box at the bank. If the person doesn't know you have a savings account or a CD at XYZ Bank, they can never go get the money. Make sure you have a trusted person that is a signer on the security box at the bank.

šŸ—£ IMPORTANT information to get your affairs in orderā€¼ļø

šŸ’°Make sure all bank accounts have direct beneficiaries. The beneficiary need only go to the bank with your death certificate and an ID of their own.

šŸ” TOD = Transfer On Death deed if you own a home. Completing this document and filing it with your county saves your heirs THOUSANDS. This document allows you to transfer ownership of your home to your designee. All they need to do is take their ID and your death certificate to the county building and the deed is signed over. Doing this will avoid the home having to go through probate.

šŸ‘Øā€šŸ‘©ā€šŸ‘§ā€šŸ‘¦Living Will: Allows one to put in writing exactly what you want done in the event you cannot speak for yourself when it comes to healthcare decisions as well as other final decisions.

šŸ‘©šŸ½ā€āš–ļøDurable Power of Attorney: Allows one to designate a person to make legal decisions if you are no longer competent to do so.

šŸ„Power of Attorney for Healthcare: This document allows one to designate someone to make healthcare decisions for them.

šŸ›Last Will and Testament: Designates to whom personal belongings will go to, who the Administrator will be. But if you have a beneficiary on any of your financial accounts, that will override a will.

For instance if you say I leave all of my possessions to my daughter Susie, but on your savings account the beneficiary is your best friend, then the money goes to your best friend

🪦Funeral Planning Declaration: Allows one to say exactly one’s wishes as far as disposition of the body and the services.
If the above documents are done, you can AVOID probate.

If all the above is not done, you have to open an estate account at the bank. All money that doesn’t have direct beneficiaries goes into this account. You have to have an attorney to open the estate account. The attorney also has to publicize your passing in the newspaper or post publication at the county courthouse, to allow anyone to make a claim on your property. - It’s a complete PAIN.

šŸ“š šŸ’³Make a list of all banks and account numbers, all investment institutions with account numbers, lists of credit cards, utility accounts, etc. Leave clear instructions as to how and when these things are paid.

Make sure heirs know where life insurance policies are located. šŸ“‚

šŸ“Make 100% sure SOMEONE knows your Apple ID (if you have an Apple product), bank ID account logins and passwords! Make sure they know the passcode for your phone.

šŸš— Make sure you have titles for all vehicles, campers, etc!

Set up a TRUST for intended beneficiaries, especially those that are too young, and appoint a trustee of said trust.

MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! - Talk with those closest to you and make all your wishes KNOWN. Talk to those whom you’ve designated, as well as those close to you whom you did not designate. - Do this to explain why your decisions were made and to avoid any lingering questions or hurt feelings.

āš”ļøHope this helps! āš”ļøHope this lights a spark to encourage all your friends and family to take care of these things to make it easier for those we all leave behind!

My hope is that the above list at least helps you start an important conversation with your loved ones...

(REPOST-I DID) and it’s a very necessary conversation

03/16/2024

Life is too short 😢 Years ago we were all like family. Everyone looked out for each other. We ate together and drank together, worried about each other. We need to get back to this again. We need to look after each other instead of tearing each other down. I'm going to bet, that out of my "family" and "friends" that less than 6 will take the time to copy and post this.

I’m optimistic. I’m gonna bet more than 6.
I’m one of the worst with this but I’ll do my part to get better

02/01/2024

Found this on someone else’s page and had to share it.

ATTENTION ALL TEACHERS AND PARENTS

This is an article that needs to be repeated:
Every Friday afternoon Chase’s teacher asks her students to take out a piece of paper and write down the names of four children with whom they’d like to sit the following week. The children know that these requests may or may not be honored. She also asks the students to nominate one student whom they believe has been an exceptional classroom citizen that week. All ballots are privately submitted to her.

And every single Friday afternoon, after the students go home, Chase’s teacher takes out those slips of paper, places them in front of her and studies them. She looks for patterns.

Who is not getting requested by anyone else?
Who doesn’t even know who to request?
Who never gets noticed enough to be nominated?
Who had a million friends last week and none this week?

You see, Chase’s teacher is not looking for a new seating chart or ā€œexceptional citizens.ā€ Chase’s teacher is looking for lonely children. She’s looking for children who are struggling to connect with other children. She’s identifying the little ones who are falling through the cracks of the class’s social life. She is discovering whose gifts are going unnoticed by their peers. And she’s pinning down- right away- who’s being bullied and who is doing the bullying.

As a teacher, parent, and lover of all children – I think that this is the most brilliant Love Ninja strategy I have ever encountered. It’s like taking an X-ray of a classroom to see beneath the surface of things and into the hearts of students. It is like mining for gold – the gold being those little ones who need a little help – who need adults to step in and TEACH them how to make friends, how to ask others to play, how to join a group, or how to share their gifts with others. And it’s a bully deterrent because every teacher knows that bullying usually happens outside of her eyeshot – and that often kids being bullied are too intimidated to share. But as she said – the truth comes out on those safe, private, little sheets of paper.

As Chase’s teacher explained this simple, ingenious idea – I stared at her with my mouth hanging open. ā€œHow long have you been using this system?ā€ I said.
Ever since Columbine, she said. Every single Friday afternoon since Columbine.

Good Lord.

This brilliant woman watched Columbine knowing that ALL VIOLENCE BEGINS WITH DISCONNECTION. All outward violence begins as inner loneliness. She watched that tragedy KNOWING that children who aren’t being noticed will eventually resort to being noticed by any means necessary.

And so she decided to start fighting violence early and often, and with the world within her reach. What Chase’s teacher is doing when she sits in her empty classroom studying those lists written with shaky 11 year old hands - is SAVING LIVES. I am convinced of it. She is saving lives.

And what this mathematician has learned while using this system is something she really already knew: that everything – even love, even belonging – has a pattern to it. And she finds those patterns through those lists – she breaks the codes of disconnection. And then she gets lonely kids the help they need. It’s math to her. It’s MATH.

All is love- even math. Amazing.

Chase’s teacher retires this year – after decades of saving lives. What a way to spend a life: looking for patterns of love and loneliness. Stepping in, every single day- and altering the trajectory of our world.

TEACH ON, WARRIORS. You are the first responders, the front line, the disconnection detectives, and the best and ONLY hope we’ve got for a better world. What you do in those classrooms when no one is watching- it’s our best hope.copied for hope to save more Children

11/26/2023

I'm NOT TAGGING ANYBODY!!! MY ARMY VETS BETTER SHOW UP IN FULL FORCE!!! Calling ALL My Soldiers. My circle may be small, but I got enough SOLID brothers and sisters in my life. I am doing a battle buddy check-in showing support for one another. I need 7 warriors to post this message to show you are ALWAYS there if someone needs to talk. I have no idea who will say Done in my post but I have faith!

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