Amy L. Miller//Roots & Keys

19/03/2026

COME HANG WITH ME AND TALK ABOUT STUFF

09/03/2026

🗣️YOUR CHILD SHOULD NOT HAVE TO EARN YOUR LOVE

03/03/2026

HAPPY WOMEN'S HISTORY MONTH!

Only two spots remain in the March 14 Women's Workshop: Be Your Own #1 (1pm-4pm, $145)

Most of us were taught to be good at relationships with everyone except ourselves. This workshop is a reset. It's a chance to get clear on who you are, what you actually value, and how to treat yourself like someone worth knowing. Three hours that might change the way you move through everything else. Join some amazing women (including me!) for a deep dive into all things YOU from a leadership and empowerment perspective.

Link in comments.

Meme for attention but also because it's funny af

24/02/2026

There's no such thing as a perfect relationship, y'all

I recently read a statistic that roughly half of all adults have insecure attachment. So we start out FROM CHILDHOOD being pre-wired for struggle in relationships in part because our parents/primary caregivers and their parents/primary caregivers (etc) were also wired for struggle and failed to suff...

22/02/2026

Relationship Tip:

The thing about relationships that can make it hard to get on the same page is that everybody wants to feel how they want to feel, and that *subjective experience* of that *preferred feeling* is how we assess whether a relationship is working for us (or not).

It's all very nebulous and hard to define, especially if you don't have particularly excellent communication skill (or self-reflection skill).

So the work is often actually about aligning your subjective desire to your partner(s) subjective desire and finding ways to meet each other's need to feel how *they* want to feel.

Point being, you can have a healthy relationship and not actually have the *same needs*, IF you can name your individual needs and you agree to prioritize helping each other find ways to meet those needs.

But this requires- you guessed it - EXCELLENT COMMUNICATION SKILLS.

Come see me. :)

14/02/2026

New Blog Post:

Reminder: most people in the world are just out here doing s**t without thinking too much about it or how it might affect others.

06/02/2026

New Blog Post about "sarcasm"

ANNUAL REMINDER: When people say they're "sarcastic" they usually THINK they're talking about being sort of snarky-funny, maybe in a dark way. But first of all, negativity isn't super funny. It's honestly an energy suck.

04/02/2026

Here are few lil updates and upcoming events!

Happily: my therapy practice is full. Launching the practice in January, I said I wanted to have 6-8 regular therapy clients and use the rest of my client hours with relationship coaching, 1:1 coaching, and group work. Within the first month, I have 8.

SIDE NOTE: This supports my working theories that a) people take therapy more seriously than "coaching" and b) that it's not an awful controlling thing to require folks to come weekly or biweekly. (Pretty sure that's a "me" issue?)

Anyway, so that's exciting! Also, January 2026 was the best month I've had since returning to solo practice in January last year.

My groups have also been filling, which I had hoped would be the case with patience and consistency. I had a session about aging, dying, + death on Sunday with 7 people (+me) which is the perfect number IMO.

Not Church, the biweekly Sunday sessions, are full to where I had to turn away a couple of people in order to honor the small group vibe. (Next cohort begins April 19)

Wednesday, Feb 18: I am providing a keynote at my friend Cassy Vires' event for hospitality folks. My talk is called "Leadership without Toxicity | Don't be the Reason They Quit" and her business is Next Table Strategies. Go give her a follow (and come to the event!) if you're in the hospitality field! A Seat at the Table is the event.

Saturday, Feb 21: I have space for 2 more people in the class "Boundaries + People-pleasing" in my office, from 1-3pm. My website for group stuff is https://www.rootsandkeys.com/home and you can register for the class here https://calendly.com/rootsandkeyscoaching/class-boundaries-people-pleasing-feb-21

Friday, Feb 27: I'm collaborating with my yoga home YogaSix (St Charles) on a Throat Chakra Empowerment power yoga class. I'll be presenting for the first part of class on healthy communication, learning to "use your voice", and the importance of speaking your truth out loud. It will be followed by a flow class focusing on throat openers (backbends, etc) taught by Jerel, who's a great teacher. It'll be fun! Please feel free to join.

I'll offer one big group event in my office each month, and we're scheduled through May:

3/14: Women's Workshop: Be Your Own #1 Fan
4/18: Parents' Workshop: How To Talk To Your Kids About Puberty (and all that stuff)
5/2: Couples' Workshop: Conflict + Repair Agreements (ft Rodney Jo Prather as co-facilitator)

LMK if you have any questions about any of this.

Also...the world is s**t so it's really weird that personally and professionally I am doing fine. Promoting a business feels gross, and I'm grappling with the feelings associated with living normal life alongside such awful things happening. If you're struggling with that too, you're not alone! But we DO have to pay taxes and tuitions and car payments and mortgages during all of this.

02/02/2026

One of the things that makes me an effective marriage/relationship coach is that I can almost always understand where each person is coming from, and translate for their partner. This ability to understand, empathize, and translate is key.

Me: I totally understand why you might feel that way, especially given your . But it sounds like ..."

Seems simple, right? But that is also one of the things that makes doing work with a professional more likely to yield progress (vs just having the same arguments over and over on your own and
hoping things will get better).

When you have another person in the room to observe your patterns, The Relationship becomes the main character, and you may find you are both **equally responsible** co-actors. It often becomes more clear that there isn't necessarily anyone to blame for the dynamic since you have co-created it.

The simple act of being observed and reflected changes the tone of the conversation to where you might be willing to take responsibility in a way you couldn't when you tried to discuss it alone.

Defenses are lowered, nervous systems are calmed, because (while I am not always successful) the intention is to create an entirely safe container for all the words to be said and all the feelings to be sorted.

I have observed the patterns for many years and would say that the topics partnered, cohabitating people are most likely to fight about, in no particular order, are: communication, s*x, parenting, money, roommate s**t.

Some of that you can probably navigate on your own, or decide to just live alongside. But some of it really NEEDS that safe container in order to actually root it out.

Doing "work" on your relationship is a gift to each other, and I am so honored to be invited in to help.

NOTE: This is a sign from the universe if you have been wondering whether you should see someone about your marriage or your LTR...if you've thought about it or talked about it more than a handful of times, you definitely should.

(It doesn't have to be me! Everyone has different needs and comfort with different styles. But you absolutely should do something with someone! Your relationship will benefit.)

22/01/2026

PARENT WORKSHOP: LEARN TO TALK TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT PUBERTY AND THEIR BODIES
Saturday, March 7 1-3pm at my office in the CWE

Developed and facilitated by a clinical social worker, communication expert, and mom of a precocious nine year old girl...because I know how hard it can be to know the right words -at the right time- to give kids the information they need in an age-appropriate way!

NOTE: This is for parents who are progressive and s*x-positive, or aspiring to it. There is no space for judgemental or shaming attitudes here unless it’s from a “I really struggle with this and don’t want to pass it on to my kids” place, which is welcome. But “s*x is bad and we call it a hoo-hah and pretend no one masturbates” is not the vibe.

So this is not about giving you a perfect script or having “the talk.” It is about becoming the kind of adult your child can actually come to, knowing you will respond calmly and without freaking out.

You will leave with more confidence, better language, and - hopefully- a nervous system that does not panic when your kid asks a real question.

Objectives / What you will gain:

⭐️Increase comfort using accurate, non-shaming language for bodies, development, and s*xuality (including tips for gender expansive or trans kids + diverse emerging s*xualities)

⭐️Understand what kids actually need to know at different ages

⭐️Practice staying grounded when your own embarrassment, history, or social conditioning gets activated (and learning to recognize those cues in your body)

⭐️Learn how to respond to questions about periods, erections, ma********on, breast development, body hair, etc without panic or over-explaining

⭐️Build skills for creating ongoing conversations instead of one big, high-pressure “talk”

⭐️Learn how to normalize curiosity without encouraging secrecy or shame (so you can say “you can ask me anything” and actually mean it!)

⭐️Develop language that supports bodily autonomy, consent, and respect

⭐️⭐️MOSTLY, strengthen your ability to be a calm, trustworthy source of information

This workshop is for parents and caregivers who want their kids to grow up with accurate information, healthy boundaries, and a relationship to their bodies that is based on respect and knowledge instead of fear or avoidance.

You do not need to be an expert. You just need to be willing to get a little more honest and a lot more comfortable so you will always be the person your kid(s) know they are safe to come to.

My groups are casual and conversational. Even if you're not a "group" person, you will find comfort in knowing other parents are dealing with the same things you are!

22/01/2026

I have added several classes and workshops for this Winter/Spring cycle.

Please note: You do NOT have to be a "group" person to enjoy getting together in my space.

Last weekend for my conflict class, I looked around and nearly everyone had their shoes off and were cozied up comfortably. It made me so happy. We always laugh a lot, cuss a lot, sometimes cry...and never ONCE has anyone said they were uncomfortable in one of my groups. In fact nearly everyone who has come to ONE group session ends up signing up for more. Because it works and it feels good. It's community + connection, + learning + growth.

Roots & Keys//HeldSpaceSTL Winter/Spring 2026 Group Calendar: (FULL) Dates for Not Church: January 11 + 25, February 8 + 22, March 8 + 22 Next Not Church cohort dates: April 19, May 3 + 17 + 31 (earlybird registration will open in February!!!) *email me to be on the waitlist* 2/1 SUNDAY DEEP...