New Beginnings Christian Counseling, LLC

07/15/2025

Coping with Uncertainty: Finding Stability in What You Can’t Control

Uncertainty is something we all face — whether it’s about our health, relationships, finances, or future. And while it’s normal to want clarity and security, life often doesn’t give us neat answers. When we don’t know what’s coming next, our thoughts can spiral. We start imagining worst-case scenarios, and suddenly, we’re consumed by fear over things that haven’t even happened.

This is what happens when we catastrophize — when our minds race ahead and assume the worst. It’s a protective reflex, but it rarely brings peace. Instead, it increases anxiety, drains emotional energy, and can leave us feeling powerless.

But the truth is, even when everything around us feels uncertain, there’s one thing we always have a choice in: how we respond. Learning to sit with discomfort, to let go of needing all the answers, and to simply take the next right step is where peace begins. It’s about not forcing things to resolve before their time and instead allowing yourself to live in the “in between” with grace and steadiness.

Emotional resilience in uncertain times is built through intentional care: maintaining structure to your day, nurturing your body with rest and nourishment, and creating space for connection — with others, with yourself, and with God. Self-care isn’t just about what you do — it’s also about what you allow: space to breathe, to feel, and to trust.

From a spiritual lens, this is where our faith becomes deeply personal. Scripture reminds us, “Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10). That invitation to “be still” doesn’t mean doing nothing — it means we stop striving to control what isn’t ours to control, and instead ground ourselves in the assurance that we are not alone in this. We’re held by something — Someone — greater than our fears.

You don’t have to know the outcome to be okay. You don’t have to have all the pieces to move forward. And you certainly don’t have to carry it all by yourself. When you place your trust in God, even in the unknown, you begin to live from a deeper place — not reacting out of fear, but responding with calm, clarity, and faith.

So let things be as they are. Do what’s in your power to do. Care for yourself like someone who matters — because you do. And as the rest unfolds, trust that you’re already being guided, even when the path ahead isn’t fully visible yet.

07/11/2025

As a licensed professional counselor, I often witness the psychological toll that poor boundaries and unmet relational expectations can have on individuals’ emotional wellness. In The Let Them Theory, Mel Robbins presents a pragmatic, yet emotionally intelligent framework for fostering autonomy, emotional regulation, and healthier interpersonal dynamics. I highly recommend this book to clients and colleagues alike.

At its core, this book is about boundary development—intra-personal and interpersonal. Robbins provides a compassionate yet direct exploration of what it means to release the illusion of control over others and to relinquish the expectation that people will adapt to our unspoken needs. Many of us find ourselves resentful, emotionally fatigued, or even dysregulated because we are attempting to manage other people’s behaviors rather than managing our own responses and boundaries. Robbins gently but firmly shifts that narrative.

One of the strengths of this work is its emphasis on self-awareness, emotional attunement, and cognitive reframing. Robbins encourages readers to observe, not personalize, the behaviors of others, and to “let them” be who they are. This simple but powerful reframe fosters acceptance, reduces co-dependency, and minimizes the psychological distress associated with chronic people-pleasing and unmet relational expectations. It’s not about detachment in a cold or dismissive sense, but about cultivating emotional boundaries that preserve one’s own well-being.

The book emphasizes that sustainable relationships are not built on manipulation, control, or the compulsion to fix others. Instead, Robbins proposes a model of relational autonomy—the capacity to engage with others without sacrificing your authenticity or psychological safety. She integrates reflections from professionals in the mental health field and offers real-life examples, enhancing the book’s clinical credibility and relatability.

From a mental health perspective, The Let Them Theory supports the development of core psychological competencies: self-efficacy, boundary setting, emotional regulation, and cognitive flexibility. It encourages readers to replace reactive patterns with mindful engagement, which is essential for emotional resilience and psychological well-being.

What I especially appreciate is that Robbins does not promote the rigidity of cancel culture or emotional cutoff as a primary intervention. Rather, she promotes discernment—inviting us to ask ourselves not “how do I make them change,” but “how do I want to engage with this person now that I know who they are?”

In sum, The Let Them Theory is more than a self-help book—it’s a guide for emotional empowerment. It helps individuals take ownership of their emotional landscapes, reduce toxic relational patterns, and create a healthier internal and external ecosystem. I highly recommend this book to anyone navigating complex relational dynamics, whether in personal or professional contexts.

02/18/2025

In honor of Black History Month, we celebrate the remarkable contributions of Black individuals—not only in America but around the world. While this month is a special time to highlight achievements and excellence, we recognize that Black history is a daily legacy. When Black accomplishments are woven into our everyday lives and education, the need for a separate month may one day fade. For now, let’s uplift the pioneers, trailblazers, and catalysts for change who inspire us all.

02/18/2025

After careful consideration, New Beginnings Christian Counseling has decided to close our physical office in South Oklahoma City. Moving forward, all appointments will be conducted virtually. We did not make this decision lightly and remain committed to providing quality care through accessible, convenient virtual sessions.

02/18/2025

05/06/2024

The connection between food and mood is profound, as the foods we eat can directly impact our mental well-being. Consuming a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins provides essential nutrients that support brain function and regulate mood. Conversely, diets high in processed foods, sugars, and unhealthy fats have been linked to increased risk of depression and anxiety. Making mindful food choices, staying hydrated, and prioritizing nutrient-dense meals can help maintain stable moods and promote overall mental health.

05/05/2024

May is Mental Health Awareness Month!

Let's break the stigma surrounding mental health together!

It's okay not to be okay. Let's talk about the challenges we face and support each other.

Remember, you're not alone! Reach out for help if you need it. There are resources available, including therapy, support groups, hotlines, and online communities. Your mental health matters! 💚