Coffee with Casey Counseling

01/12/2026

I had a friend tell me one time, “I’ll always have your back in any situation. That situation may result in me kicking your ass later, but I’ll still have your back when you need me.”

That’s the kind of friend I want to be.

I’ve had that very few times in my life and I’ve let others down more times than I care to remember.

Here’s how I decide who gets that type of loyalty from me:

1. I’ve rode the river with them.
I’ve got to know that they’re the kind of person who I’d give everything for.

2. Are they givers or takers?
Givers have a hard time taking and takers have a hard time giving.

3. Watch what they do instead of just listening to what they say.
Most folks are full of hot air and short on substance. It’s usually because the substance falls out of their yapping mouth long before it can take root in the soul and bear fruit.

4. Are they overly hard on themselves?
If they can’t give themselves a break, they probably won’t give me a break when something big comes up.

5. Do we share the same values?
Opposites can make for a good time or good conversation, but not good pards for life.

6. Do they let me make excuses?
I don’t want anyone that will let me make excuses for quitting. I want to give my loyalty to someone that will push me as hard as I push them.

I’d like to have your back so I’ll work on myself first to be sure you know I’m worth it.

- Kevin Weatherby

www.savethecowboy.org

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01/02/2026

In the company of horses 🐎

In the company of horses, things slow down.
Not because life gets quieter
but because you do.

They don’t rush your words.
They don’t need explanations.
They don’t care who you were five minutes ago
or who you’re supposed to be tomorrow.

They notice:

your breath

your posture

your energy

Not your stories.

In their presence, masks slip off without effort.
Your nervous system remembers something old and steady.
You don’t have to perform, fix, impress, or prove.

Horses don’t ask you to be “better”.
They ask you to be real.

And somehow, standing beside them
mud on your boots, hay in your hair
you feel more like yourself than anywhere else.

There’s regulation here.
Honesty here.
A quiet reminder that connection doesn’t need words.

Just presence.

And that is often enough. 💛

01/02/2026

Ever heard the saying, "It's easier to fool someone than it is to convince them they've been fooled?"

That's exactly how the devil works. Not by extreme circumstances, but by slow and very calculated maneuvers that start with getting you to agree with him.
You're thinking, "yea right. I would never!"
But here's the thing, you already have. And you don't even notice.
That's what makes it so powerful and effective. Because it's so subtle and he's been at it for a very long time.

Many people struggle with their faith, because they are trading punches with the wrong enemy. They think that they are fighting people, situations, reactions, and circumstances when the real battle is in the unseen. Warfare begins in the mind long before it becomes behavior. The focus on the outward attacks instead of going deeper. That's the foothold the devil gets. Keeping you focused on what's around you, not what's in you.

Here's how it goes down:
It begins with subtle deception with lies that goes unchecked.
Lies like, "this is just who I am," or "I won't ever be able to fix that," and this big one, "God is disappointed in me. I'll never be good enough like everyone else." That deception is what gains our agreement with them.
That agreement with the lies is where the devil gains access to us. That access is what leads to a foothold and over time, it becomes a stronghold that is bo***ge.
Jesus warned us about the primary weapon of the enemy when He said that the devil is a liar and the father of all lies. (John 8:44)

Jesus also declared the truth by saying when you ride for him you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. (John 8:32) When we "fact check" the lies we have believed with scripture, we realize just how much we've been lied to. But, we have to learn to recognize it and challenge it. So, who's word are you going to believe? Jesus says we are to take up our cross, deny ourselves and follow Him, right? Well, part of that is also challenging what the enemy has held us down from battle with for sometimes decades.
Paul gives us the best advice on how to tackle that when he says to take every thought captive (like a hostage) to the obedience of Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:5).

Listen, it won't happen overnight. Maybe even not a week or a month. But it won't happen at all if we don't start somewhere. Try taking one thought captive this week. One about yourself that really eats at you. Fact check it with what Jesus and God say about it in scripture. Then ask yourself, who's word are you going to believe? Do not trust your thoughts. Transformation cannot happen until you believe that Jesus not only died for all your sins but also came to give you eternal life through Him. And the only way to really believe that, is to quit believing what the enemy has deceived you of and start trusting and believing in what God says instead.

Jesus died for those thoughts and comments. He died for the lies you are choosing to believe about yourself and others. Quit letting the devil convince you it was all meaningless, and that you are not like everyone else by being excluded from God's mercy and grace. Take up your cross, by giving up your thoughts and giving them to God. Take one small bite at a time. You got this.

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12/31/2025

Lord,

As we step into 2026, we thank You for this community and for the opportunity to grow together. We ask that You strengthen our bodies, steady our minds, and guard our hearts.

Help us remain disciplined in what matters, humble in success, and resilient in hardship. When life feels heavy or uncertain, remind us that we are never walking alone.

You are with us, Lord.

Lord, help us keep our priorities in the right order. Lead us to be fully present with our families, to love, listen, and lead with patience and grace. May our homes be places of peace and renewal, and may our work flow from a strong foundation of faith and family.

Use us, Lord, as instruments of service. Give us eyes to see the needs around us, hearts willing to step in, and hands ready to help without seeking recognition. Let us serve others selflessly, with compassion, courage, and humility, reflecting Your love in both words and actions.

Bind this community together in faith and encouragement. Let us sharpen one another, choose integrity over ego, and serve others with quiet confidence and gratitude. We place this year in Your hands and trust You to guide every step.

“You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.”

Galatians 5:13

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

12/31/2025

Goal achieved !!!
37,000 push-ups, in 2025
I had two sub goals, not missing two days in a row with push-ups, and being able to complete a set of 100 push-ups without taking a break
Achieve both of those goals as well.
One day at a time, one set at a time.
Other goals met this year
Listening to 52 books
Writing 52 devotionals
I fell short on a few other goals, mostly because I didn’t track progress

If you want 2026 to look different than 2025, you’re likelihood of making change is increased nearly 80% when you have an accountability partner

If I can help with anything, please don’t hesitate to give me a holler
I will start releasing devotionals weekly in 2026 through email from
Coffeewithcaseycounseling.com
And will also publish here on Facebook
Whether you think you can or can’t you’re right-Henry Ford

Now offering equine assisted talk therapy

12/31/2025

Mental Health Monday: Letting Go of What You Can’t Control 💙

First responders and military live in a world of “what ifs” and “if onlys.”
Calls you still think about. Decisions made above your pay grade. Outcomes you wish were different.

That weight adds up—especially at the end of the year.

Here’s the hard truth:
You were never meant to control everything. And carrying it all like you could have fixed it alone will crush you.

As this year closes out, it might help to sort things into two buckets:

✅ What’s IN your control:
- How you talk to yourself after a tough call
- Whether you reach out to someone you trust
- Protecting your sleep and basic needs when you can
- Setting boundaries when you’re at your limit
- Taking the first step to ask for help

❌ What’s NOT in your control:
- The calls that came in—or didn’t
- Other people’s choices and reactions
- Every outcome on every scene
- The past and what’s already happened

Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care.
It means you stop punishing yourself for things no one could fully control.

If the weight of this year feels heavy, please reach out:

• National Su***de & Crisis Lifeline: 988
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
• Veterans Crisis Line: 988 then press 1
• First Responder Crisis Line: 1-855-500-7277

You did not walk through this year alone—and you don’t have to walk into the next one alone either. 💪

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12/31/2025

Five ways we aim too low and hit.

1. We settle.
We settle for good in our marriages, work, and life. Good is the enemy of great.

2. We have to do things we don’t want to.
No, we get to things we don’t want to. It’s a matter of perspective. There are countless people that wish they could do what you get to do everyday...or what you could do with the right motivation and attitude.

3. We talk instead of listen.
Even when we do listen, it’s not listening, it’s waiting for a spot so we can talk again.

4. We think being nice is enough.
You know what the difference between nice and kind is? Nice doesn’t really cost you anything. It costs virtually nothing to be nice and hold the door or have good manners. But kindness will cost you a lot...maybe everything. Kindness isn’t praying for someone struggling with alcohol, it’s giving them your spare bedroom until they get back on the wagon.

5. They think heaven can be found on earth.
People miss the most by focusing on material wealth, comfort, and status. No matter how good this life can get, it is nothing compared to what is waiting for every cowboy that makes it to the narrow gate and the end of the hard, narrow trail.

- Kevin Weatherby

www.savethecowboy.org