Reset With Renee

08/08/2025

You know what I love about astrology? It has been a way for me to come home to me on my journey of self-reclamation. It does not dictate WHO or WHAT I AM & yet knowing my sun, moon, rising, houses, & more has been a helpful “mirror” to reflect what I know to be true for me about me & my life.

For folks who have had their connection to spirituality corrupted or have no reference to greater consciousness – astrology is an accessible entry point! Folks on a healing journey will NEED & want a bridge to SOMETHING to help when the journey gets deep & dark or the path forward is foggy or unknown.

This month some folks “mark” the Lion’s Gate Portal on 8/8 as a time to set intentions, dream & visualize their heart’s desires, & ready themselves to receive abundance.

An 8/9 planetary event then triggers a switch from “dream” to “do” – which often highlights areas of internal conflicts, fears, patterns that create stuckness, & parts of you that have been ignored.

Like following the new & full moon each moon cycle, following other astrological transits can be a helpful “frame” for your awareness & an anchor to help you move through life decisions & challenges.

The invitation for this month is this:

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO CALL IN, that is a true heart’s desire & WHAT NEEDS TO BE RELEASED so that you can live your dream in an embodied, aligned way?

Growth, healing, recovery, & evolution are not for the faint of heart… each win leads to a new “LEVEL” of awareness, acceptance, & change. The process is not linear; it is a spiral ever deepening with periods of expansion & contraction.

Does this speak to you? Join us in the Reset Collective to connect with others on a journey of growth & evolution!

Or share in the comments below what it is you are aligning with and/or what it is you are releasing.

Does this trigger you? Schedule a 1:1 with Renee to explore & discover what is moving for you.

*Much of the growth process is “learning by contrast” – meaning you don’t know you have a learning edge until you bump up against it!

08/05/2025

Podcast Take 2!

The first release was missing audio;)

Listen to hear Renee give context to her most recent personal reset! She highlights how changes we choose can still be stressful & trigger grief even when you are excited for new beginnings.

Coming home to you is a big milestone in trauma recovery & resoution. When your external circmstances begin to match your internal setpoint it is a cause for celebrating.

Returning to her hometown of STL is a full circle life event for Renee.

And yet, your personality traits & neurology or wiring come with you! Changes in routine, predictable & unpredictable stressors, deep feeling states, & pushing through may be relatable touchpoints for other highly sensitive human beings.

Enjoy this episode & let Renee know what you would like to hear more about in upcoming episodes.

Likes, follows, & reviews are greatly appreciated!

07/30/2025

Do you know how to grieve?

Most folks I talk to don't. It's just not taught in our modern, American culture. And that is for "normal" & expected losses...;)

For many of my clients their survival required them to bury their hurt, loss, pain, & grief.

As they chronologically age, the grief does not go away, but gets buried deep.

Avoidance wins until a "bigger trigger" arrives.

Or, you may feel "finally ready" to grieve but face the challenge of not feeling at all or being engulfed & overwhelmed.

For the layers of hurt & loss are interwoven. One pull of a thread can activate an entire sequence of events across time.

This leaves you questioning yourself & your sanity or it has other people around you judging your lack of emotion or over-emotionality.

Twice this week already I have mentored clients on this path.

There is no timeline for grief & each person is allowed to grieve differently. However, most of us cannot wait for "permission" to do so but for self preservation it helps to have a safe space, place, & person to begin to allow the backlog to come through.

If this is you, please know you are not alone! Time does NOT heal all wounds.

Many emotional & relational wounds invite a process of self recovery & reclamation. The portal to this is often grief.

Have you been brave enough to cross the portal? What worked for you? What is a challenge for you? Share in the comments if called!

Want closer connection? Email Renee to schedule a 1:1 or join the Reset Collective on Mighty Networks (see Linktree IG).

07/28/2025

MY NEXT WFH OFFICE!

Fingers crossed this space will have a minisplit installed this evening - allowing the room to be temperate enough to work in during this STL late July heatwave;)

New flooring has been selected. The room will get a paint refresh. Lots of little steps in between all of this...

And of course I want it all done NOW!

Did you know that "waiting" is a VERY common trigger & it is also a struggle for a lot of - the unknown or not yet knowing.

However, as part of my I have learned to "trust in the unfolding" which also means I need to honor the FLOW instead of FORCING my agenda. I still do my part & yet working with reality as truth is key;)

Leg one of our "move" is done & we are on leg two: rehab. While I play project manager I AM seeing clients virtually just not as many or as many days until my space is more settled.

That's my ...what is yours?

What are you working on, centering, discovering, moving through, or celebrating today & this week?

07/19/2025

Renee is on the move in more way than one!

Good things are unfolding, proof of recovery is solid, and yet the capacity/drive challenge of makes major life changes challenging!

Listen to this "behind the scenes" episode to hear SOME of what is happening for Renee & what she is "moving" through.

This episode is an affirming listen for other late diagnosed neurocomplex beings as well as for other Cycle Breakers!

If you too have been described as a "luxury sports car that gets in the ditch easily" then you may relate with Renee!

06/19/2025

If each of my clients could be a "fly on the wall" in each other's sessions, they would know WITHOUT A DOUBT that they are not alone.

The above statement was shared this week in the Reset Collective community & it is 100% a COMMON statement of childhood trauma survivors.

In fact, we often have a part of us who literally says (inner self talk):
I DON'T KNOW - as in I don't know what to do or not do.

There can be FEAR or a sense of feeling STUCK or OVERWHELMED that goes with this experience.

This makes so much sense given that many of us were ALONE when scary & hurtful things happened, or worse - we were little ones trying to comfort our “adult” caregiver.

A RECOVERY REALITY & HEALING PARADOX is this:

1) You have everything you need to heal, inside of you already.

AND

2) You likely need to unlearn some automatic ways of coping & learn some skills that your context didn't provide you at a developmentally appropriate time.

There is no shame in this!

You couldn't choose THEN, but you can 100% make active, conscious choices NOW.

When we were wounded in relationship we need a place & process to heal in relationship.

Want to learn more? That is why I created the RESET COLLECTIVE;)

->Join us for a LIVE EVENT
-> 6/25 at 11 am Central for: “Rewire Your Programming “
->Free inside the Reset Collective.

Join the community now:
https://conta.cc/3Wa07Mt

And be sure to check out the Calendar of Live Events & RSVP to save your seat!

06/16/2025

Before my divorce, our marriage counselor once said to me,

"you need to learn how to let go & move forward".

At the time I had no earthly idea what he meant. I was in survival mode & drowning in HURT & FEAR.

More than a decade later I now know what he meant & I want to share with you HOW to move from disempowerment to personal power.

There are 4 concepts that are ESSENTIAL for you to know & embody to get unstuck from your struggle story & allow the kind of movement forward that brings you MORE of the outcomes you want in life & LESSENS the mess.

Cyclebreakers are often tired & are straddling the consequences of decisions made in survival mode. This is SO predictable;)

We can't erase the past.

We can move forward with clarity & conscious choice.

Join Renee & the Reset Collective for this Live, Free event.

June 25th at 11 AM via Zoom

Join the Mighty Network community here:

https://conta.cc/3Wa07Mt

And RSVP to the event. Check out the content that is waiting for you in the meantime;)

06/04/2025

Coming out of my experiential experience in my yearlong training through IPI at the end of 2022, I had the clarity & "download" to focus my physical recovery on my BREATH - I held it during the experience triggering the pulsometer to sound.

Trauma survivors are known to brace their bodies & to breathe shallowly.

Following my “ketamine trip” I began breathwork in a recovery container facilitated by fellow survivor, Tanner Wallace.

Last year I became comfortable enough to guide myself solo and subsequently began to offer breathwork sessions to clients.

This week I had the pleasure of facilitating this practice for a dear client - it brings me joy to share this accessible recovery resource!🥰

Closing your eyes & orienting yourself to your breath is a great FIRST STEP to reconnecting to you, a critical task of trauma recovery.

Adding music as a resource for healing also helps. Music activates "stuff" we might have ignored, minimized, or suppressed AND allows us to anchor into positive mood states when desired.

Clients often send me songs that speak to them & I love it. Resource sharing amongst survivors is next level;)

Instead of sitting on that treasure chest of gold, I am encouraging Reset friends to post their songs & playlists in the NEWLY created space inside of the online community, The Reset Collective: MUSIC THAT MOVES YOU.

We'd love to have you join us to share your resources, wisdom, & PURE GOLD!

Here is your INVITE to the Reset Collective:
https://conta.cc/3Wa07Mt

Or schedule your 1:1 Breathwork session by contacting Renee at: renee@resetwithrenee.com

See what MUSIC & MOVEMENT can do for your MENTHAL HEALTH & WELL BEING!

06/04/2025

Are you dealing with an intense inner experience of:
• The THAW (overwhelm or flood of emotion & energy)
• RESISTANCE (push back, shut down, tune out, go blank, debate & doubt)
• OUTSOURCING (turning to someone or something to make it better for you)

Congratulations! This is "proof" you are connecting inside more!
While uncomfortable, these are PREDICTABLE PARTS PATTERNS!
No shame if you have them in your system!

To shorten the learning curve, you may benefit from connecting with like minded community & participating in group coaching.

If so, plan to join our upcoming Q & A with Renee inside our Reset Collective community.
-->Join with the link below.
--> Go to the Calendar of Live Events to RSVP.
-->Be sure to "follow" the calendar to receive real time updates & reminders!

It’s free to join & attend!

EVENT: June 11th at 11 am Central via Zoom, Q & A with Renee

Send your challenge or question to Renee in the community chat, leave ?s in the "Ask Renee" space, or email Renee directly:.

Renee is here to support your recovery, resolution, & cycle breaking🥰

Reset Collective Invite:
https://reset-gathering.mn.co/share/Z2B41TXYimz0wgrm?utm_source=manual

Renee's email: renee@resetwithrenee.com

05/30/2025

This solo episode is an answer to a listener question - one that comes up pretty often!

My answer illustrates the reality of "BOTH AND" in coming to terms with the impact of early attachment injury. When survivors choose to heal they face confusion as they absorb information that can be confusing without nuance & context.

For instance:

You have everything you need to heal.
Healing is best done in relationship.
You must love yourself before you can love another.

--> It can be hard to discern when information is relevant to YOU when you are healing because your recovery challenges differ at various STAGES on the journey.

--> While there ARE predictable patterns & considerations, each person has UNIQUE variables & contexts to consider as well.

Reconnection to YOU is always the recommended starting point.

Once "enough" inner attachment repair is done, then you are BETTER equipped to turn towards your relationships & make choices that are anchored in truth & health versus trauma energy & fear.

Listen, learn, & leave a comment if this topic resonates with you!
Want to deep dive some more? Join the Reset Collective for community & resources. It is hosted by Renee;)

LINKS:

PODCAST Episode #45 on Spotify
(or available on other major platforms):
https://conta.cc/4jqUTEL

The Reset Collective (online community on the Mighty Network App)
https://conta.cc/3Wa07Mt

05/28/2025

I AM ALWAYS THE PROBLEM

• Are you the family scapegoat?
• Are you the targeted “problem child” – even in adulthood?
• Are you the deep feeler & deep thinker that notices everything around you that nobody else wants to see, feel, or know?
• Do you hold empathy & compassion for others but find yourself on the receiving end of extreme or intense negative energy?
• Are you the responsible & dependable ONE but if you have a NEED you feel like others turn away or worst turn AGAINST you?

If so, you are NOT alone; this prompt was highly resonant for members of the Reset Collective as an answer to a recent poll.

Unhealthy family systems follow 3 Rules.

The Rules Are to NOT:
1. Feel
2. Talk
3. Trust

And if you do, & attempt to call attention to what is a problematic behavior or dynamic, you are likely to receive someone else’s DISCOMFORT & quick…😉

Working with projection is something many of us rumble with. I continue to work with this myself.

There are beginning, intermediate, & advanced skillsets.

Want to know what helps with projection, no matter how far along you are on your healing journey…?

----> the ability to handle negative & critical energy WITHOUT absorbing it!

Bad News: Ugh. I know. No easy answer here. It takes “work”.
Good News:
I am happy to share what I have learned to “Cut the Crap” & “KISS”.

If you want to learn how to SHORTEN the learning curve, join us in June in the Reset Collective. Your invitation is here for you now:

https://conta.cc/3Wa07Mt

05/27/2025

Are you someone who has danced with DARK ENERGY? (TW)

Trauma survivors are often the victims or recipients of this energy.
Trauma survivors can also be the ones to dish this out.
BOTH ARE POSSIBLE.

This is one of the most challenging energies to rumble with.
And yet it is COMMON to find it in family lineage, present day systems (church, military, work, & more), & throughout history.

This is one of the HARDEST energies my clients struggle to deal with & have difficulty FINDING someone FAMILIAR with this energy to help them.

If this resonates, please know you are NOT alone.

This energy is extreme, is hypercritical, & abusive for a reason: protection & defense.

Dealing with this energy requires an ADVANCED skill set.

But before you can approach this protective part (in you or others) you need to:
• understand some foundational concepts
• have built a repertoire of skills.

Are you interested?
If so, join us in my free community on Mighty Networks:
the RESET COLLECTIVE.

In June, we will be working with a POSSEE of PROTECTIVE PARTS commonly referred to as: INNER CRITICS

• Some critics are subtle; some are NOT;)!

• Either way, inner critics hold BELIEFS, convey MESSAGES, & apply STRATEGIES inwardly & outwardly to achieve PROTECTION.

STRONG, SOLID, leadership is required to work with this energy. You are CALLED to:
• Be STEADFAST & CONVICTED
• EMBODY PERSONAL POWER in the face of extreme, destructive, energy masquerading for disempowerment.

Need an example of the energy I am referring to?

Watch the infamous movie clip, "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!"
https://conta.cc/44QV74x

Want to uplevel your leadership & skillset?
Join us here: https://conta.cc/3Wa07Mt

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