Dr Lia Roth

26/07/2025

135,000 feet above Earth, Alan Eustace let go. No rocket. No capsule. Just a suit and a cord. He cut it. And fell. Four and a half minutes. Faster than sound. Alone. Until he landed. Changed.

This episode is about that kind of fall. Not into Earth, but into you. Into truth, ... and into autonomy.

I'm Dr. Lia Roth, psychoanalyst and author of Get In or Get Out But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle. And in this episode, I want to talk to all of us who are in freefall. After betrayal. After burnout. After playing the role so well, we forgot who we were.

We go deep into:

➣ Why emotional roles are survival suits, and what happens when they fail.
➣ Why betrayal is not just heartbreak, but identity collapse.
➣ How fantasy keeps us stuck, and why autonomy only begins when illusion ends.
➣ What it actually feels like to land in yourself, messy, honest, and free.

I’ll share the psychological backbone of what I call the second fall. The moment when your role cracks, your story dissolves, and your body finally tells the truth. This isn’t self-help fluff. It’s survival with soul. And it might be the first time you feel seen outside the script.

➣ This episode is for the ones in mid-air.
➣ The ones waking up.
➣ And to the ones who aren’t trying to fly anymore, but just land soft, and solid. In their own skin.
👉July 27, 2025: https://player.captivate.fm/episode/b3e761d2-57e4-4083-8db0-c04d7cdf2dd1/

Keywords: autonomy, emotional healing, identity collapse, betrayal recovery, personal growth after loss, emotional burnout, letting go of roles, psychoanalysis for self-discovery, falling into truth, nervous system regulation, shame as signal, relationship dynamics, emotional maturity, Alan Eustace skydive, Binary Relationship Theory

Quickly and easily listen to Shrink Me? I am just waking up for free!

23/07/2025

Have you ever pushed someone away, even when all they offered was love?

Have you ever offered kindness… and got backlash instead of gratitude?

You’re not crazy. And you’re not alone.

In this raw and eye-opening episode, Dr. Lia Roth breaks down why some of us feel unsafe in safe relationships, why kindness can trigger defense, and how we end up sabotaging the connection we say we want most.
Inside this episode:

-Why kindness feels threatening when you’ve been hurt
-How emotional roles keep us stuck
-What to do when your nervous system treats love like danger
-3 real tools to stop pushing people away and start letting in real connection

This isn’t self-help fluff. It’s real healing. Come as you are.
FFreud. Shrink Me? I’m Just Waking Up.
https://player.captivate.fm/episode/caa83f1b-7572-4ec4-a665-282f465c80da/

Hosted by Dr. Lia Roth, psychoanalyst, bestselling author of Get In or Get Out, But Don't Stay in the Freakn' Middle, and creator of Binary Relationship Theory.

Quickly and easily listen to Shrink Me? I am just waking up for free!

20/07/2025

Longing for Belonging?

Imagine belonging as a warm light, not a tight squeeze. Too often we twist into roles—Fixer, Martyr, Hero—just so we fit in. But real belonging asks us to stay whole.When we shrink to fit, we lose our spark. Even in company, we feel empty.

What if being you was no longer an apology but a reclamation? The biggest rebellion isn’t becoming someone else. It’s existing comfortable in your own skin.

Try this: share one real piece of you, your quirks, your doubts, your bold ideas. No filters. No performances.

You’ll notice something subtle: a quick thrill, like your favorite song surprising you. That’s your brain lighting up in recognition.

𝗛𝘂𝗻𝗴𝗿𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀?
Tune into 𝙎𝙝𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙈𝙚? 𝙄 𝘼𝙢 𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙒𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙐𝙥: https://pod.link/1813198712.or grab 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙄𝙣 𝙤𝙧 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙊𝙪𝙩—B𝙪𝙩 𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙣’ 𝙈𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙡𝙚: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DPCYLFTV

Let’s keep that spark alive. 💫💫💫

18/07/2025

Ever wonder why you spill your guts on the couch but freeze up with your lawyer? In this episode, I break down how memory actually works, why emotion is the glue that holds it together, and how healing starts when no one’s trying to fix you. We talk representation, transference, silence, survival strategies.

And when you get all this?... well, you also realize how to spark real change through action, thought, or emotion. Because you landed on earth fully ready to make your move.

If you’ve been stuck in a loop, performing instead of healing, this one’s for you.
..But this is my take on the matter, what's yours?
👉https://player.captivate.fm/episode/4c90a71a-2533-44a0-89db-adf40a803aaf/

Quickly and easily listen to Shrink Me? I am just waking up for free!

18/07/2025

𝗟𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴?

What if being you was no longer an apology?

We often think belonging at work means fitting into a corporate mold. We speak the lingo. We match the culture. We mold ourselves to what we think others need. But what if that’s exactly why engagement plateaus and innovation stalls?

What if being you was no longer an apology but a reclamation? The biggest rebellion isn’t becoming someone else. It’s existing comfortable in your own skin.

♤Early on, we learn silence keeps us safe. At work, when you flip that switch, fresh ideas flood the room. You stop blending in and start standing out.

⚡️Groups that belong don’t just follow directions. They challenge, they innovate, they push boundaries—without fear of being labeled “too much.”

🛟 Belonging isn’t about surviving the next meeting. It’s about waking up excited to dive in. It’s feeling aligned with work that matters to you.

➿ Ready to unlock that power? Pick one piece of yourself you’ve been hiding. Let it shine in your next check-in or brainstorm. Feel heads nod. Feel energy pulse.

🪐Want more tips on owning your space? Listen to “Shrink Me? I Am Just Waking Up,” or dive deeper in Get In or Get Out—But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle. Let’s do this together. Belonging born from authenticity changes everything.

𝗛𝘂𝗻𝗴𝗿𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀?
Tune into 𝗙𝗙𝗿𝗲𝘂𝗱. 𝙎𝙝𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙈𝙚? 𝙄 𝘼𝙢 𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙒𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙐𝙥: https://pod.link/1813198712.or grab 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙄𝙣 𝙤𝙧 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙊𝙪𝙩—B𝙪𝙩 𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙣’ 𝙈𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙡𝙚: https://books2read.com/getinorgetout

Let’s keep that spark alive. 💫💫💫

14/07/2025

When you are moving forward, every step counts.

Sure, you can leap ahead. You can go chasing higher, faster, louder.

But jumping past the in-between moments? That robs us of the view. The lessons that come from transitional moments. Shifts that only happen in motion.

So today, I’m not rushing.

I’m pausing to celebrate this one:

Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle just made it to the shelves at Left Bank Books, one of STL’s top libraries. Go, visit one of the top STL bookstores and grab your copy.

Me? I am claiming this moment (this win), for myself, with you.

12/07/2025

𝗣𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗧𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗦𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗹𝘀 𝗨𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴

I’m peering through my kitchen window as my old peach tree finally breaks into that shy, first smile—tiny green fruits glowing like morning light. A single brush-tickle across each blossom, and suddenly the tree is heavy with promise. It wasn’t magic. It was chemistry, patience, and one small act of care.

That quiet miracle is what belonging feels like. It’s not a grand invitation or a flashy wink. It’s the rich soil feeding a bud, the bee whispering to a petal, that single brush-tickle sparking a bloom. We’re all part of that loop—your small kindness touches someone’s life, and theirs ripples on to the next.

Watch this chain in motion, and you’ll feel that rush—from your fingertips to your heart. It’s the thrill of knowing you matter in something bigger than yourself. Hungry for more of these sparks?

𝘍𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘬? 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮.

Listen to 𝙎𝙝𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙈𝙚? 𝙄 𝘼𝙢 𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙒𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙐𝘱—new episodes every Sunday.
Snag 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙄𝙣 𝙤𝙧 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙊𝙪𝙩—B𝙪𝙩 𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙣’ 𝙈𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙡𝙚 and learn to show up fully, every damn day.

Let’s keep feeding the chain.

05/07/2025

Two sisters.
Two countries.
One mission: to make you feel so damn good that we can drown the world in kindness.

👉 Follow the conversation by tuning into 𝙎𝙝𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙈𝙚? 𝙄 𝘼𝙢 𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙒𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙐𝙥: https://pod.link/1813198712

📕 ..or grab a copy of 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙄𝙣 𝙤𝙧 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙊𝙪𝙩—B𝙪𝙩 𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙣’ 𝙈𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙡𝙚: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DPCYLFTV

🛜 Want more? Visit us at https://www/drliaroth.com/LR2

Let’s keep that spark alive. 💫💫💫

25/06/2025

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝘆’𝘀 𝗙𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘁 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗜𝗺𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗦𝘆𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗲

👀 Ever feel like your family’s unspoken rule is running your life? I see over and over in my work: a quiet family trait that hijacks our self-worth. It’s not just who gets the praise. It writes our future without asking.

It hands out roles like costumes—Golden Child, Ghost, Rebel. We orbit that same sun, performing to stay “in.” Or we fight it to carve our own space. Either way, the trait still owns us. ⛓️‍💥

If your clan worshipped intelligence like mine, even a small mistake felt like exile. Speak up? Risk the hush. Ask for help? Betray the myth of tough perfection. So we learn to hustle under that silent whip in our bloodstream.

That’s where imposter syndrome lives. It isn’t just fear of failure. It’s the echo of a family decree: “Be smarter. Be stronger. Be perfect—or else.”

Anxiety breathes in that “or else.” Judgment sharpens its teeth. Late at night, whispers of “what if” and “if only” trap us in the same loop.

Let us spot this pattern together. Notice how that old family rule still shapes your inner critic. Then watch it lose power the moment you name it out loud. ♡

Craving more? Listen to “The Family Trait You Didn’t Know Owned You” on 𝙎𝙝𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙈𝙚? 𝙄 𝘼𝙢 𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙒𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙐𝙥: https://pod.link/1813198712.or grab 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙄𝙣 𝙤𝙧 𝙂𝙚𝙩 𝙊𝙪𝙩—B𝙪𝙩 𝘿𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙎𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙣’ 𝙈𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙡𝙚: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DPCYLFTV

Let’s keep that spark alive. 💫💫💫