21/05/2023
Big, bold leaps will shake everything up, produce a MASSIVE hit of dopamine, and potentially have you repeating the same old patterns but in bigger (and even more covert) ways.
I’m not against big, bold leaps — the majority of my life has been big leap after leap, risk after risk. Big, physical moves. Marriage. Divorce. Mastering one discipline, jumping into another.
What I’ve found is that the most defining change and transformation has been in the subtle, the steady, the slow, the incremental.
(Many) Coaches don’t tell you this because (many) coaches define spending big money on support as ‘the leap’ that is required for big change and transformation. It’s the gateway leap to other leaps that you desire (like changing jobs, quitting all together, leaving your relationship, finding true love, travel, mastering a new skill, etc etc etc).
But after you do this a few times you realize that hiring someone is not the thing that will change you (or make you boatloads of money or help you quit your job). It’s doing the work yourself day in and day out.
And if you take any of these big leaps before you are ready, before you are willing and actually putting in the work day in and day our, you’ll find that you just keep repeating the same old cycles but in new environments, relationships, places, and even businesses.
No one can do your work, but you. Before you hire a coach, make sure you are actually ready and willing to be in your work and recognize that hiring a coach is the support for your future leap — it’s not the leap itself.
Because hiring a coach (or taking a huge leap) can change you — but only if you are working in the subtle to change yourself first.
I hope this makes sense. Comment below if you are vibing, if you need more clarity, or if you disagree.
All of you is welcome.
mg
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