03/19/2025
“I was feeling frustrated. I’d been volunteering at a food pantry. We weren’t even allowed to ask people questions. It felt like we were meeting people’s physical needs, but not their relational needs. It was just: give them a box of food and say ‘bye.’ I said a prayer about the situation, and later that evening I met my friend Abby for sandwiches at the park. She said: ‘I’ve been thinking. Our church says we’re pro-life, but what are we doing to help these moms?’ I took that as the answer to my prayer. We decided to start a New Mom Community Night, because isolation is one of the things that new mothers struggle with most. We held it in our church’s outreach center. That first night nobody showed up, but by then I was convinced that God wanted me to do this. We handed out flyers. We joined Facebook groups for local moms, and whenever someone posted: ‘I don’t have a lot of friends,’ we’d send them a message. We organized a maternity clothing swap, and that’s where we met Aubrey. She’d come out of an abusive situation. She had two little toddlers, and not long after she joined our group, she gave birth to her third. We coordinated around-the-clock care for her toddlers while she was in the hospital. She later told me that she’d never experienced that sort of unconditional love. And that’s exactly what we wanted. To create a place where people could feel known and loved. Consistency was key; it’s the only way to build deep relationships. The group met weekly. We always sat around one big table. We’d bring in outside experts to give lectures, but it was when the expert left that things got real. There were tears almost every week. It wasn’t uncommon for people to still be talking in the parking lot late into the night. We’d been meeting for about eighteen months when I had my miscarriage. The group was strong by then—eight or ten moms. And I remember how much I was looking forward to the next meeting, because I knew that people were going to, like-- love me. Aubrey brought this little card, and little devotional notebook, and a little necklace to remember my baby. It was such a comfort. I remember thinking: ‘Wow. I’m not sure what I would do without this group.'”