05/12/2026
Okay sometimes I literally say out loud “that was a good one and I might reuse it later.” 😂 My most recent one was: “Setting boundaries is like holding up an umbrella in a rain storm, you can prevent the rain from falling on you, but you don’t have any control of where it goes after that and that’s okay.” I think this is the hardest part of setting boundaries for most people. People fear that if they set a boundary, they will be responsible for the consequences. Everyone is responsible for their own behaviors. As long as you’re setting the boundary to be kind to yourself without the intent of harming someone, it’s not mean. Actually, there’s an ethical principle to this I just learned about from that trolley article.
When you go to set a boundary, you may foresee a possible negative consequence, but as long as you do not intend the negative consequence, you’re probably good. Just make sure your intention is protecting your peace.
Source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6642460/