06/07/2014
I'm not sure where to start, so I'll just start.
One of the pitfalls of practicing law for 30 years was that I got staid in the way I speak and write. Maybe "precise" is a nicer way to say it. I had to be precise--there were strict rules to follow and time limits to comply with. Otherwise, I got into trouble with a court system and, if not done right, a client could suffer. Not a good outcome.
I had to retire for health reasons, and boy, has it opened up my eyes to myriad of dilemmas that people have to deal with day in and day out. They don't always know how to deal with them, they may not have the time to deal with them, or they may just get fed up with the red tape of dealing with them. It was one thing to represent a client in a lawsuit against, for example, an insurance company for policy benefits. At least then, there were "formal rules of engagement"--court rules, the necessity of contacting only your opponent's lawyer, rather than the insurance company itself and sitting on hold for 30 minutes. In that sense, it was a great deal easier.
One of the things that happened to me because of my illness
was that I was on the front end of having to deal with not just the illness, but with all that comes with it--getting diagnoses, treatment, hospitalizations, insurance, billings-the whole gamut of stuff. And that doesn't even consider the long recovery from the medical problem such as finding professionals to help with that. I had a little head start because I had a more broad understanding of how the system worked, but even at that, once I was a patient, I could not call the shots (no pun intended).
I was not the only one affected by the medical problem. My wife and son had to do a yeoman's task of picking up the slack-and they still do. Most physicians and medical-like people do a great job in fixing the patient to the extent that he/she can be fixed. But my experience is that the families often do not know what to expect--either from the standpoint of changes in the physical condition, personality or behavior of the person with the medical problem, or the issues that follow a major life upheaval--total unemployment, an inability to resume former employment, the difficulties of "reinventing" oneself, dealing with ongoing treatment and therapy, finding resources in the community to help, insurance, creditors and similar.