Sapere Law, APC

09/08/2025

Hard conversations don’t have to wreck your day

That convo you’ve been avoiding?
You can have it… with more calm, more clarity, and way less emotional fallout.

This week on the podcast, I’m breaking down real-world tools to help you handle conflict without spiraling or snapping.

Whether it’s with your ex, your co-parent, or your boss, you don’t have to lose your cool to get your point across.

🎧 Listen or watch: You Can Master Those Tough Conversations — link in bio. Or watch on YouTube and listen all major podcast platforms.

07/30/2025

You can’t make this stuff up. A retired professional in the early stages of dementia discovered her ex-husband—holding her outdated financial POA and healthcare directive—had moved into her house, placed her in a memory-care home against her wishes, and even arranged to euthanize her two dogs. 😢

This nightmare was avoidable. During divorce or any major life event, review and update your trust, power of attorney and advance directives immediately. As Family Law and Estate Planning attorneys, we counsel our clients on these essential updates and implement them right away—it’s a small cost with a big payoff, sparing you years of heartache and expense later. ❤️

07/25/2025

If you’ve ever sat in divorce court thinking, “No one here gets what I’ve been through…”

You’re not wrong. And you’re not alone.

This week on the Splitting Smart Podcast, retired judge and Army vet Mark Johnson speaks directly to the veterans who feel invisible in the legal system. The ones who carry combat trauma
into parenting plans. The ones still drinking, isolating, shutting down.

He sees you. And he’s not the only one here to help.

🎧 Full episode: Splitting Smart Ep 62 – out now on YouTube and your favorite podcast platform.

06/05/2025

When a veteran ends up in family court, it’s rarely “just” a divorce.

It’s trauma.
It’s survival mode.
It’s years of silence, stored in the nervous system.

If you’re married to someone who served in the military - or you served - this episode will open your eyes to what’s really going on underneath the conflict.

PTSD, moral injury, shutdown… they all show up in relationships and partner dynamics.

🎙️ Listen to Episode 61 of The Splitting Smart Podcast with guest Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.), former Superior Court Judge, Army Veteran, and author of Scars and Strife, for a conversation that’s honest, hopeful, and long overdue.

05/30/2025

🧾 Now Hiring: Family Law Paralegal Extraordinaire
📍 Temecula, CA | 💼 Full Time | 💙 No Drama

At Sapere Law & Mediation, we believe law can be strategic and human—and our team reflects that. We’re on the hunt for a superstar paralegal who thrives on tight calendars, flawless pleadings, client empathy, and office high-fives. (Yes, we mean that literally—see photo 👇).

If you’re the kind of person who:
✅ Spots deadlines from a mile away
✅ Can translate legalese into human speak
✅ Keeps attorneys informed, clients supported, and the courtroom calm
✅ Believes positive communication is non-negotiable
✅ Prefers solutions to drama..then we’d love to meet you.

We work smart, laugh often, and mediate like pros. Come be the calm in the legal storm.
📩 Apply now and bring your skills—and your high-five game—to Sapere Law & Mediation:

Via Linked In: https://lnkd.in/gFWUZ8Kj
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04/08/2025

📉 87 to 3. The system is winning. You’re not.

Keith Cunningham, in The Road Less Stupid, says:
“When the score is 87 to 3... and the other guy is winning, the question is not ‘How do I win this game?’
The question is ‘How will I play the 2nd half?’”

This quote hits hard if you’ve been through court — or are in it now."

You step into the legal system hoping for fairness.
But what you find is an overwhelmed system that can’t possibly give every family the care, time, and attention they deserve.

Clients come to us after months (sometimes years) of spending money, emotional capital, and time — only to feel bruised by a process that doesn't serve them.

If that’s the first half…
What does your second half look like?

You don’t win by doing more of what hasn’t worked.
You win by stepping off the field and choosing a smarter, more strategic approach.

That’s mediation.

In private mediation, we shift from conflict to resolution.
From reactivity to clarity.
From courtroom battles to custom solutions.

If you’re ready for a different outcome — a real comeback — the second half is where it starts.
Let’s play it better.

👉 Kelly Bennett, Lead Mediator
Sapere Law & Mediation
DM me or visit saperelawfirm.com to learn how we help families write smarter second halves.

04/07/2025

It Might Not Be Your Marriage—It Might Be Your Hormones

I’ve had people come into my office 100% sure their marriage is over—when what’s really going on is full-blown hormone chaos.

Anxiety. Brain fog. Exhaustion. Zero libido.
And a relationship that feels like it’s breaking down.

Before you call a lawyer, call your doctor.

Because sometimes, it’s not the marriage. It’s the biology.

On The Splitting Smart Podcast this week, I talk with Dr. Diana Hoppe about how perimenopause and menopause can impact your mood, your marriage, and your mind—and what to do about it.

📺Watch it here on YouTube: https://youtu.be/sudUojYc7So?feature=shared

🎧 Listen to it here (or on Apple, Spotify, etc.): https://www.buzzsprout.com/1553932/episodes/16922333

03/29/2025

What do s*x drive and divorce lawyers have in common?
More than you’d think. 😏

📚 Doing a little homework for an upcoming episode of The Splitting Smart Podcast...

Let’s just say things are getting steamy around here—and surprisingly enlightened. 💅🏻

Here’s a question no one asks during a breakup:
What if it wasn’t heartbreak... but something else entirely?

Turns out, low libido can be more than just a bedroom issue. It’s often a symptom of a deeper, overlooked medical condition—a quiet saboteur of connection, intimacy, and yes... even marriages.

I’m diving deep into this one with an expert who blows my mind—and I can't wait to bring you into the conversation.

🎙️ The episode drops mid-April. You’re not going to want to miss this one.

03/27/2025

💼 Is Your Family Business Protected from Divorce?

If you’ve built a family-run business—and your adult children work in it or will someday—you could be one unexpected divorce away from ownership chaos, financial loss, or even the end of your legacy.

That’s why pre- and post-nuptial agreements aren’t just for couples... they’re critical for business owners.

✔️ In California, these agreements can override community property laws
✔️ Ensure your business stays in the family
✔️ Prevent future spouses from gaining control or profit-sharing
✔️ Protect confidential business info
✔️ Complement your Trusts, LLCs, and other planning tools

👉 Whether you’re a business owner or a trusted advisor (CPA, attorney, financial planner, estate planner), this article breaks down why these agreements matter—and how to approach them the right way.

🔗 Read the full article here: https://saperelawfirm.com/family-law/protecting-your-family-run-business-with-pre-and-post-nuptial-agreements/

📩 Tag someone who needs to see this or message us to learn more.

Worried a split could impact your family business? A prenup or postnup might be the peace of mind you need—here’s how they can help.

06/21/2024

Success doesn’t “just happen.”
Does your marriage stink?
Measure and track how you nurture it.
Finances suck?
Measure and track your spending.
Fitness in the ditch?
Measure and track your efforts and consistency (and work with trainer extraordinaire .hubby34 ).
💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
We can’t improve what we don’t measure.

02/22/2024

Let’s face it - prenups are the cat’s meow when it comes to sensible engagements. These legal agreements aren’t just for celebs - they are a smart tool for getting a marriage off to the right start - and being crystal clear on expectations.

A well-crafted prenuptial agreement makes life much easier should you and your betrothed decide to part ways. It’s like taking the pain reliever before receiving the wound.

So what’s a prenuptial agreement all about? Partner and Certified Family Law Specialist Rachael Bennett gives you the nitty gritter and demystifies prenups in her new article, “What is a Prenuptial Agreement?”

https://saperelawfirm.com/what-is-a-prenuptial-agreement/

Congrats on an engagement well done!

02/14/2024

Facing Valentine's Day solo after divorce can feel a bit rough, right? But here's a thought – why not make it a day about you and what you want? Our newest blog post is all about turning Valentine's Day into your personal celebration of self-love and small victories.

Think pampering yourself with that spa day you've been dreaming about, savoring your favorite meal, or just kicking back with some chill tunes and reflecting on all the cool stuff you've accomplished. And why not spread a little love and positivity around while you're at it? It's all about shifting focus from what's gone to the amazing things that are coming.

Dive into our post for some real-talk advice on making this Valentine's Day uniquely yours – filled with gratitude, joy, and maybe a bit of indulgence (because you totally deserve it!).

Check out the article here: https://saperelawfirm.com/navigating-a-solo-valentines-day-after-divorce/