10/28/2025
đĽ Youâre not the damn problem đĽ
Iâm watching women and moms everywhere gaslight themselves into thinking their emotional regulation is the issue.
Like if they could just âheal harder,â âstay calmer,â ânot be so sensitive,â they wouldnât feel so burnt out.
Letâs be clearâ
Regulating your emotions? Yes, thatâs a skill. A skill I happen to be super educated on and teach others. But thatâs not whatâs breaking you.
Youâre not exhausted because of your feelings.
Youâre exhausted because youâre doing everything ALONE.
Because youâre the default parent, the emotional anchor, the calendar keeper, the peacekeeper, the chef, the cleaner, the everything-for-everyone.
And the world has the audacity to call it âself-careâ when you take a 10-minute shower.
Women are healing, rising, fixing, forgiving, and carrying it allâand still being told theyâre âtoo emotional.â
No.
Youâre not too emotional.
Youâre too unsupported.
You donât need to regulate yourself out of burnout.
You need community.
You need support.
You need partners who step the f** up.*
Iâm done watching women drown quietly while the world applauds their strength.
Youâre not the problem, babe.
The system is.