Alexander Emile Burday

21/01/2025

A little Harley photo dump.
He’s a bit of strange little guy, he’s very squeaky, he rarely ever barks, he is in love with humans, suspicious of dogs, has a primal hankering to chase squirrels and any other nature creature (& may have broken out to do just that 3-5 times 😬), would cuddle for 24 hour straight if given the chance, and swirls himself into the perfect cinnamon bun form as his preferred posture.
He’s brought an overflow of love and joy into the home that Amy and I have spent months giving our love to (it needed a lot) and has helped recalibrate some unbalance in our lives.
He was attacked by other dogs in his previous homes, probably for being super goofy and wanting to invade personal space, and he bounced around a couple of foster homes until he found a longer term stay.
He rarely, if ever, got to go spend the type of time we like to spend on nature. His system was so overwhelmed by every sound, sensation, smell, and sight. He would shake uncontrollably from all of the “feels”. You can’t give a creature the same type of tools for self-regulation, nervous system healing, and inner balance that we can give a human, but it seems the best thing we’ve been able to do apart from revamping his diet, giving him more & more nature time, lots of walks, and training, is to give him our own sturdy nervous systems to lean into on the daily.
He was the only dog I matched with when I felt the call to look on let finder, and so it was meant to be.
Fun times with this one. One day he’ll be living on a nice big piece of land and can chase whatever he wants.

23/09/2024

My intuition has always been like a sturdy grandfather oak. He is uncanny in his wisdom and deep awareness but trusts me not to take his words for the gospel without exploring for myself. He never criticizes, shames, or blames me for not obeying, but is always there waiting with his dependable presence when I realize his truths no matter if it’s been an hour, a day, 5 years, or longer.

He lead me to you, Amy. He knew I was designed for a woman of your caliber, yet I feigned my worthiness for so long until I could no longer ignore the truth.

My intuition was electric when I professed my vows at the altar. He said that choosing to claim you as my wife was going to ask much of me. The container of marriage is designed much like a crucible with its aim to melt away all that is no longer of service to the highest love that we both know we are here to co-create and share.

I understood what was about to come, and I sealed my vows and accepted my ring as if I were being knighted, no longer able to cling to the patterns of old that tethered me to my prior form.

I felt properly embodied to lead us into this new territory, and yet I also felt a tenderness and vulnerability that made me want to keep this first year to ourselves. No sharing of our intimacy as I used to. I wanted to protect this alchemical year for just us.

It has been everything and beyond what I imagined. However, my intuition was spot on. It has been a year of growth that has seen destruction and excavation. It has rendered us both so much better equipped than ever to build well beyond the superficial walls around us.

I feel so much gratitude, love, Eros, and passion for today and each moment we share as lovers and devoted spouses. Thank you for choosing me every second of every day we share until our bodies return to the earth.

Happy anniversary, my love.

01/10/2023

I’ve been speechless for the past week. The only word I can really seem to utter is, “Perfect” when I try to talk about my marriage.
The love, the land, the community, the food, the celebration. It was all perfect.
I’ve been feeling my cells and DNA transforming this last week. It’s been crazy to witness. I still can’t fully articulate it, but it’s feels akin to walking through a portal or going through a metamorphosis like the Dragonfly does when he goes from living in the water as a nymph to the air and sky as a new creature but with the same soul.
I feel the deepest trust in myself and in life that I’ve ever known since crossing over from fiancé to husband.
I feel an expansive concoction of freedom, surrender, and vitality brewing into something life changing. It’s perfect.
My thoughts are still not completely coherent as they swirl around in a depth of gratitude and awe of how everything unfolded and all of the love and support that each person contributed to the moment that Amy and I have been creating our entire lives that took off like a psychedelic love spaceship when we finally met back i”on June 1, 2019.
I will have many more reflections and shares going forward, but for now I am just basking in the juices of it all.
♥️

12/07/2023

First blog post on my website of many to come. This post focuses on the work that I do in helping people who stutter learn to put their stutter in its rightful place, as a benign supporting cast member. We do this by working directly with the nervous system rather than focusing on stuttering and speech itself. This is the "secret sauce" to freedom and ease of expression.

At this point in the historical timeline of stuttering it feels to me like we are at a new pinnacle within the movement of accepting stuttering as something that exists and should not be seen as a weakness or defect. Our stutter is a part of who we are, so let's see how we can integrate it more into...

14/03/2023

The journey that is Embodied Stuttering Therapy

14/03/2023

Embodied Stuttering Therapy may be for you if…..

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23/02/2023

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18/02/2023

DO NOT settle for the status quo if the options available to you have not supported you in achieving the results that YOU want.
I have worked as a speech-language pathologist for 10 years, stuttered for 31 years, and been a client under the guidance of many different SLPs, doctors, and therapists, and the results that I wanted were not afforded to me until I did the work that is now the makeup of Embodied Stuttering Therapy.
If you have been through the wringer of traditional therapy models without having the free will to choose what program you want to engage in then know this... You now have the autonomy to choose what aligns most with your vision for how you want to BE.
If you are a person who stutters and still feel that your stutter is influencing how you show up in life then you are a great candidate for this work.
If you still outsource your power to other people, environments, and tasks then you are a great candidate for this work.
If you know this to be true about yourself and you WANT and NEED to unlock and claim back ALL of your power over stuttering and external factors in your life then you are A PERFECT candidate for this work.
Link in bio or DM to set up your free consultation.
Love & Power,

Alexander

03/02/2023

Embodied Stuttering Therapy:
Key Element #5 -> EMBODIMENT
Once you've walked the path long enough to know your vision and mission, deconstruct and build new, supportive beliefs, tended to strengthen your capacity to hold energy without collapsing into an old disempowered pattern, and have found regulation in your body, there's only one thing left to do.
That is to embody this version of you from one moment to the next and to the next.
That means that you are now showing up in life present with each breath and each part of the moment that is asking for your attention and energy.
When you choose the path of mastery, you understand that there is no finish line, however, there is massive growth and positive change that you experience when you choose to walk this path with reverence and devotion.
Embodiment is the lifestyle and the vehicle for which you move forward and create a much more aligned and empowered life as a communicator and person.
My conditioned embodiment was one of people pleasing, suppressing my truth, fighting against my body to get my words out, and fear-based expression.
I was a chronically hypervigilant young man with a lot of anger, grief, and anxiety hogging up the front seat. My communication and expression were the clear reflections of this embodied state.
This path of embodied stuttering therapy is a culmination of 15 years' worth of personal development, clinical practice as a speech-language pathologist, and now embodiment coaching.
If you do not yet feel that you have full power over your stutter, I guarantee that Embodied Stuttering Therapy will change that.

02/02/2023

Key Element #4 NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION.
This element is all about finding safety within your body and learning to create a clear path back to this place when life has given you a reason to stray away and become hyper-vigilant.
Imagine feeling powerful, safe, and grounded in your body in any situation. A true superpower.
This is key element 4.

3 Likes, 0 Comments - Alexander Burday (.stuttering.therapy) on Instagram: "Key Element #4 NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION. . This element is all about finding safety within your body and learning to create a clear path back this place when life has given you reason to stray away and become hyper...

31/01/2023

Embodied Stuttering Therapy
Key Element #4 : NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION
What would life be like if you felt safe, rooted, and at home in your body at all times?
My answer is that I would be able to go out into the world with my vision and mission fully in tow and as I go into all of the environments that are asking me to show up and be that man I would be able to stay fully present and connected to my truth and my power at all times.
My mission with embodied stuttering therapy is to create a nervous system that has the capacity to hold the energy of the moment, release what I don’t need, and down-regulate into a body that is strong, fully present, with pristine posture, deep breath, and softened into my core power.
Having a fully groomed and clear path home to regulation is a necessity so that we may not get blown open and left in a state of chronic dysregulation and hypervigilance.
Before embarking on this journey myself and with the good people who entrust me to support them on their journey, I lacked a clear awareness of how chronically dysregulated my mind and body were, and how my life was the direct reflection of this chronic hypervigilance.
Deep nervous system regulation that is practiced and embodied brings a profound awareness to contrasted states of excessive stress, tension, and internal chaos.
When you know how f**king good it can feel to be fully in your body as a grounded, regulated, and present person, you will NEVER choose to go back to the old way of being.
This element is all about finding and clearing that path back home to deep regulation where you have access to the greatest level of your skills and abilities. These are robbed and sabotaged by constant and acute moments of dysregulation.
Once the path is readily available, the process of holding, releasing, and regulating becomes a loop that brings full embodiment online.