09/03/2024
One of my best friends had her baby this week. She labored all day, slow and steady. As the evening approached she made the call and her home began to fill. In a comfortable way. With midwives, an assistant, three friends and so much love. Her in laws were in the living room occupying the oldest three kiddos. We took turns running after electrolytes, more warm water for the tub, washcloths, peppermint oil, snacks, grabbing the two-year-old, grabbing the five-year-old, taking care of all the things so dad could be right by her side. Most importantly, we sat in the awe of a birthing mother.
Right before the baby made his entrance, the midwife exclaimed comically “you have some good doulas taking care of you”. My heart SWELLED!! This was it!! This is the image all mothers deserve to have if they want it!! Calm, loved, held, carrying her through until we can no longer walk where she goes. When a mom has nothing else to worry about, her body takes her to a different place to see her baby through. So powerful, yet humbling, so beautiful to witness.
I was the only “trained” doula in the group of three women the midwife was referring too. But that absolutely did not matter. You can’t “train” for these moments. It was so organic. Just three friends caring for a mother as she labors and greets her newest child into their home.