Helton & Harris Funeral Homes -Danville & Clayton

18/08/2025

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View Anthony Johnson “Tony”'s obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

12/08/2025

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View Sharilyn Baugh's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

02/08/2025

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View Teresa Ann Sillings's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

01/08/2025

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View John B. Smitherman's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

22/07/2025

Pain is not always redeemed, in the end or otherwise.

All of our cultural stories are stories of transformation, of redemption. Books, movies, documentaries, children’s stories, even the tales we tell ourselves — they all end on a positive note.

We demand a happy ending. If there isn’t one, well, that’s the hero’s fault. Nobody wants to read a book where the main character is still in pain at the end.

We’ve got a cultural narrative that says bad things happen in order to help you grow, and no matter how bleak it seems, the end result is always worth the struggle.

Grieving people are met with impatience precisely because they are failing the cultural storyline of overcoming adversity. If you don’t “transform,” if you don’t find something beautiful inside this, you’ve failed.

But pain is not always redeemed, in the end or otherwise. Being brave — being a hero — is not about overcoming what hurts or turning it into a gift.

Being brave is about waking to face each day when you would rather just stop waking up.

Being brave is staying present to your own heart when that heart is shattered into a million different pieces and can never be made right.

Being brave is standing at the edge of the abyss that just opened in someone’s life and not turning away from it, not covering your discomfort with a pithy “think positive” emoticon.

Being brave is letting pain unfurl and take up all the space it needs. Being brave is telling that story. It’s terrifying. And it’s beautiful. Those are the stories we need.

We all need a place where we can tell the truth about how hard this is. The Writing Your Grief 30 day e-course gives you the space to tell the truth about what it’s like to be you.

Saying it on the page – even if you can’t yet say it to the people in your life – is incredibly powerful. Get started now at https://refugeingrief.com/wyg
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07/07/2025

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View Josh Schicker's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

01/07/2025

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View Leonard McGlothlin's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

10/06/2025

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View Dick Armstrong's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

07/06/2025

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View Stephen G. Roth "Pap"'s obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

06/06/2025

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View Jean E. (Wolfe) Himsel's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

06/06/2025

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View Amilia Grace "Millie Girl" Beaver-Marsh's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.

02/06/2025

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View Lisa L. (Hartman) Batts's obituary, send flowers, find service dates, and sign the guestbook.